please advice me im so sad and dont know what to do ?about my married boyfriend.
@sarameastrong (826)
Surrey, British Columbia
August 30, 2012 10:55am CST
i am currently in pain due to my boyfriend that i found at facebook with family ,in short he is married..oh my god im so blind.then i talk to him
and confirm everything that i have seen on his facebook that i saw his son and wife ,he cried and said yes i have but he always say that he loves me and with teary eyes that he dont want break up..The whole story was that he was forcely married to that girl its because of this girl parents since the girl was said pregnant but actually not ,he said.then they got married by the mayor on their place not in the church ,im still searching and confirm if he got 2 childs or only one? because my boyfriend said they only just have one child..Lord ,friends here all mylotters ?please help me to decide the right decision. for me, i dont wanna lost him , i am unfortunately love him so much but the fact that he has a family i dont know if i can still hold on and go on for our relationship.?now,when i going to view his profile with his family i gonna look with teary eyes .!despite of what i have known i still love him,so bad huhu..
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@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
31 Aug 12
According to meet u should not last this relationship any more because if her really loved u then he would have told u about his marrisge . But he did nothing like this . Now also he is thinking about himself as he is a married man and he should think about his children and wife . What will they feel when they will come to known about his affair. U should think that if this has happens to u then what would u have done???? Just leave that guy who is bluffing his own family .
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
It is really hard to decide in time of sadness and pain. Only I can tell is simple words. Try to stop for a while..be quite..feel your heart...think and ask yourself. I know that at the corner of your mind it is wrong to continue the relationship with especially you know he is married. But your heart still says you love him and you don't care who and what status now he has. You know you are not wrong loving him. Because you only know he is single. He lied to you and hide his real status for the reason he knows why. Talk to him about the present situation and settle the problem. Try to accept the fact that he is married already..he hide the truth. You will still find much deserving man and not him. Anyway you can be friend with him. My friend this is just my opinion.. Don't be sad....just pray. :)
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@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
31 Aug 12
hello girl. This is just a motherly advice to you, don't continue with your relationship with him as you will have no future with him. You're still the loser. If you will have children, they will be illegitimate meaning they don't have the same rights as the children within wedlock. Though your bf may have loved you so much but he's not anymore free. At first, there will be tears for you but you may overcome these pains as you grow older. This is just what I can say to you but the decision is on you. It's up to you because it is your life. But I hope you will make a very wise decision for your own good.
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@shaina228 (119)
• Japan
31 Aug 12
Hello Frend,
I am sorry I know I am not in a position to say STOP crying, wipe out your tears he is not the man for you, be strong! If he really loves you he will never let you cry and never give you pain. No matter what reason he has he should be honest the very first time you met. But he lied to you, what if you didn't saw him on facebook?
You're beautiful and lovely don't waste your time. The right man will arrive in the right time.
Just an honest opinion sorry. I hate guys who tell a lie just to please you.
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@soravgulati (10)
• India
31 Aug 12
Hey, I do respect your feelings but to me at this time since he is married, you should leave him. Its not only because he lied you and all but also because of the girl he married and child they have. IF you still meet , it will not only effect you life or your boyfriend , it will even effect the life if the child and his wife. They have not done anything wrong. HE will also forget you in sometime if you both decide this. And for sure you will get a perfect person in your life who would be only yours. This is the best way for you, your boyfriend ,his wife and their child for a happy life
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Even if you do love him, you can't change the fact that he's already married. You have to let him go. If you want to value your dignity, break up with him. He's already a married man. It's not right to continue the relationship. It's shameful. People judge us even if they don't talk to us directly. You have to decide. Can you endure pain forever by loving him? You have to love yourself. Value yourself. You're still young to find another love. Better than him. More honest than him.I hope you'll be okay soon.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Aug 12
In my opinion, I don't think it's right to be with him after you found this out. Like others have said it would have been better if he told you right away about his "other life". He didn't though, he basically lied to you. He kept such a big thing a secret, what else is he hiding from you? What else will you find out later down the road? Those are things you should think about.
I am so sorry you fell for him so hard but there are other men out there who are single who won't lie to you about something so big! You should do the right thing here and let him be with his family. He is a liar and a cheat, two of the worst things to be in my opinion! His poor wife too, she knows nothing about what he is really doing to her and that is so sad...
I hope your heart heals soon and you find another love who will make you so happy. 
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
20 Jan 16
dump him - he just plain lied to you about his marriage and even now he leaves you unclear how many children he has - forget him and move on. Good luck
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
Hi sarameastrong,i understood that your hurt and in love to your boyfriend but he is married person and better to end the relationship now or else you become his mistress, do you agree with that? I think you should leave him because you do not deserve a man like that who hide his marital status just to get advantage to you and to cheat to his wife. For your own good and for his family sake break up and never let him comes to your life again.
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@itsmechelle (114)
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30 Aug 12
FORGIVE him- BREAK UP with him- MOVE ON with your life. I believe that it's the best thing to do in this kind of situation. Do this for the sake of the child/children. I don't think it will make you fully happy having a relationship with him knowing that he is legally married to a woman and has children. I know it's hard, real hard indeed, but each one of us deserves to be the 'only one' in someone's life. If you'll just accept the truth, you know very well what is the best and right thing to do. Sometimes we should stop using 'love' as a reason, especially in this kind of situation.
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@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
30 Aug 12
I'm not in the position to judge him but I was just wondering why did he hide all of these from you? If you have known from the very start about his situation, being forcely married to his wife, had kid(s?) and everything, would you still accept him? For me, what he did was a betrayal of trust. If he really loves you, he could have told you everything but he was a coward and I guess he doesn't trust you that much that you could/couldn't handle the situation. I guess he has to settle his own issues first before he truly commit to your relationship.
@sarameastrong (826)
• Surrey, British Columbia
29 Jan 15
we broke up already ,he is with another woman now,,not his wife ,its hurt so much ,,our relationship was last for almost two years,,he has been already settled down his family,,but i cant hold on anymore because he has another affair so bad ..i hate liar guys../
@Melody968 (124)
• China
31 Aug 12
Dear Friend, pls give up this feeling as soon as possible to start your brand new life. You will find another fresh good forest. The world is big enough but don't cover your eyes by only one leaf. I think your boy friend is not a man with strong sense of responsibility and he isn't worth of your feeling in love with him. You are very young and plenty of chance is waiting for you. Pls walk out of the swamp you dug and find the real green land.
