Im starting to think Im the odd one
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
August 30, 2012 1:43pm CST
A girl from high school messaged me on Facebook. I havent talked to her since mid high school when she moved away.
She was dating a guy up north, adn moved there. She got pregnent about a year ago (she had the kid). She purposely got pregnent, they broke up onths before that, she moved back with her mom and he would visit (yea know).
They moved back together not even a year the kid will be a year in December. She just posting telling me shes back in the area dating this guy that was around our age we went to school with.
Now he has a kid with another girl, and they just started dating. She moved in with him, his kid, and her kid into his parens house. She doesnt work, and he is in school so Im assuming his parents are supporting them.
I just shock my head when Ir ead this, then she asked why Im not dating anyone and why I dont have kids. I told her I work, and I dont want a kid right now Im still at home, and want out on my own before bringing kids into this world and want to gove them the best not just skimming by or skipping guy to guy.
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5 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Sep 12
You actually aren't the odd one, you are the one that is smarter than the rest of the people that you know. You see, I was twenty-two when my daughter was born and my boyfriend (now husband), myself and then Kathryn did opt to live with my mother. That wasn't because she was supporting us because we were paying her rent. We were really helping her out during a very tough time for her financially. In fact, up until the time that Kathryn was born, I was working and Tom was working and during the summer I was actually working two jobs.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
31 Aug 12
You aren't odd for not wanting that sort of life. How you are odd, though, is that you seem to have an inordinate amount of... "interesting" sorts in your life for someone who is college-educated.
While I know that many of the girls I went to high school with have kids with various males and/or are shacked up with or married to their third, fourth or whatever guy, I don't actually know the details. Why? Because I don't live near them, nor do I seek to stay in contact with any of them.
I know that it is hard to completely block out people when you still live in the area in which you grew up. However, you really do need to start filling your life with more people who are successful. Find some organizations in your area that you can join that put you more in touch with the people who are doing something with their lives--something other than playing "Guess the Daddy."
@else22 (4317)
• India
31 Aug 12
I don't think you are odd.Instead,you have taken the right decision.I wonder why people get so crazy after dating,impregnating a girl and having kid/s before marriage.They don't even think about their financial stability which is a must.Unless you are financially stable,you can't take proper care of your kids.Hopping around from one guy/girl to another,dating them and having kids from them them- all these things may wait.Be financially free and you would then have a lot of time to do all these sorts of things.
@Otanetix (508)
• United States
31 Aug 12
No, I do not think you are the odd; honestly, I think she's more odd for asking you why you don't have kids. For me, thinking of your future comes first. Before bringing a child into the world, you should be financially stable; otherwise, your life will drastically change. I am not saying I don't like kids, but it makes more sense to have them when you truly are ready. You are acting like a responsible person who listens to reason. Taking care of a child takes a lot of time and effort, which can really affect the rest of your life. Despite what your friend from high school says, I think you are making the right decision with working instead having a child. With the dating thing, everyone moves at their own pace. There's no rush. You still have time to be doing other things before thinking about kids.
