One day relationship...can I even call him an ex-boyfriend?
By anneshirley
@anneshirley (1516)
Philippines
September 1, 2012 8:07am CST
Hi there mylotters! Can you even believe that I had a 1-day relationship??? Well, if you will count the days, it is not really one day but a month before we really split up. He courted me for a year but then when we are officially on, we've met only once! Imagine!!! We kept our communications line open, we talk on the phone and chat continuously for one week then it slowly fade away. I told him that I want to see him and miss him so much but he would always have his reasons not to meet me. I got confused and told him that if he would not show up on our first month anniversary, then it's over between us and he just didn't show up! Because it's not really clear t me what happened, I stopped all communications with him and until now, I didn't see him personally. I want closure on what happened between us but I don't have the courage to do it and I am really having a hard time moving on. Now I wonder to myself, can I even classify him as an ex - boyfriend? I feel like everything is a joke between us. 
6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
I don;t think he is really serious about it. The more that you are far away from each other and have never been together. He must just be teasing you over the phone. I know some guys who are really persistent on the phone and when you fall into their bait and wants to have the commitment, he just fades away.
Don't think about that person anymore if he never truly cared about you. An ex-boyfriend? No! just a fling, I guess.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
let me clarify...he did not courted me through chat or text, I won't fall for that. He courted me personally. He'll come visit me at my place or even at my work. I know his friends and he knows my friend that's why I am confused on what might happen for him to just stop totally without explaining why.
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
1 Sep 12
Me,I'd call that a virtual relationship that couldn't and didn't survive in real life..It takes more than one real date for you to consider him a Boyfriend,and He wasn't interested in a one month meetup he seems uninvolved and uninterested in taking things further when he let it go past.
You had all the emotional buildup from the virtual side to keep you going..it seems He's just let it drop.good luck in moving on..
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
let me clarify...he did not courted me through chat or text, I won't fall for that. He courted me personally. He'll come visit me at my place or even at my work. I know his friends and he knows my friend that's why I am confused on what might happen for him to just stop totally without explaining why.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
I will do the same thing like you did.
If we love someone, there is no excuse and broken promises.
Imagine, your relationship just started and he can't even come to how personally.
If he can ignore you from the very start, he can do it more in the long run.
So, i guess you've made the right decision for breaking up before the feelings got deeper.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
14 Apr 13
I think it always better to have relationships which give the happiness, so next time be cautious.
@yiart65 (146)
• Singapore
4 Sep 12
I would say he is just not being serious about the whole relationship. Yes, he courted you for a year but maybe that might because of his ego and he needs to show that he can get you as a girlfriend. So, when you guys became an item, the game is over. He moves on to his next target and just forget everything about you. If he were to care about you, he wouldn't even make up reasons to not meet you. At the start of a relationship, especially the first month, it's considered as honeymoon period in which the both of you want to meet almost everyday. But whatever that he is doing is totally opposite! He made up excuses to not meet you and not even turning up on your first month anniversary. Final outcome, give up and move on. Don't even bother to ask him or to have a closure on this because he has already given you an answer. Relationship over.
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@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
3 Sep 12
It was just an attraction nothing else . In this age these things happens in everyone life . We should not take it seriously and should not take it to heart. When we talk to person we started generating feeling for him , it is human nature . But we should know how to control our self and shiuld not flow in that feeling .
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