I am happy for her!

When I was younger, I knew a couple that panicked if their checking account went below $2000. They had owned and built and sold several houses over the years, but they were old and I guess the bank would charge them if it went lower. I know, it does no good to be jealous of those who have more than we do, we may not know all the troubles they have to go along with it. Keep on with the sweet attitude you have, it will let you sleep at night and be healthier all the way around. Jealousy makes people old, gives them wrinkles, and I suspect contributes to many other ailments as well.

That's good for you. I agree it's best to just be happy for her. I imagine we all wish to be rich or I guess I should change that and say financially stable. That's what I wish for....to be financially stable. I'm not one of those people who want to have so much money that they'll never be able to spend it all. I'd just like to have the money to do fun and exciting things every once in a while ya know, like para sailing or maybe go to another country once a month. That would be fun.

I feel the same. I am happy with what I have....not jealous of anyone. I do feel sorry for those who have to compete with everyone. Must keep them up at night worrying about who has more don't you think?

hi LovingMyBabies yes you are indeed growing and becoming self assured and more thoughtful of others as we all do this at times I know I have felt I was being inconsiderate a few times putting my own needs ahead of my sons. When we just think of the other person with kindly content we have grown. its good that you think of being happy for her as that shows you are unselfish. My mom always told me its wrong to be jealous of someone as that jealousy does not hurt them but only you.I am glad you are now happy with your life and hopeful of better things to come.You will get them as you do deserve to be happy. [

You have a level of maturity that many don't have. I'm sure you have heard folks say mean things like 'they think they are better than us' or something even meaner. I feel I am blessed with the life I have. I don't envy anyone richer than me and I don't resent them. I believe when we are good stewards with the blessings that God gives us, the more He will bless us with in the future.

Hey lovingmybabies that's the right way to live. But were your parents really that jealous and feel bitter that they couldn't take vacation like your rich aunt? Maybe they have longings..you know everyone does have this. Try to arrange a picnic on a lovely Sunday or fishing or anything just so that they will get your aunt off from their minds for a while. Make them happy, make them forget about your aunt's vacation. I am sure they'll soon realize that not everything 'cheap' is bad, they'll treasure those happy time that they and you spend together, I'm sure. Just try to make them happy.

You have the right attitude hon and if you kept that attitude you will never be angry or disappointed in life.

Yes, you are growing and I think it's in the nicest possible way. I think it's great that you feel this way about your well off aunt but you also need to learn to stop second guessing people ...like saying you guess your parents are jealous. I still have to learn to stop the negative thoughts about others too.

It has always bothered me when people feel such jealousy and resentment for people who have money. Class envy also seems to be fostered by a lot of politicians to get votes. They want you to resent the rich so they can capitalize on that feeling. What, do we want everyone to have less like us? I am with you, I feel happy for people who are well off. And maybe one day I'll be able to do the same.

If you're happy for her, then I'm happy for you. Sometimes we can't take away from us the feeling of being human. That we get jealous or bitter at somebody who seem to be more blessed than us. If you can rise above this, then maybe you've grown a little bit as a person. I don't think I have grown yet.

You have the right attitude, LovingMybabies! We should be happy with others' fortunes and should not be sorry if we are not as fortunate as they are. What is important is for us to be happy with what we have.

I'm proud of you that you that good perception.It is normal to feel jealous about what people can do. But, as long we are happy with the people who loves us it is a worth. Just trying our best, someday we can do things we wish for.Like me, someday i can find the person who really loves me and hope to travel around places with that person. Right now i can't do it, but i'm not losing hope, someday i can get there. Hope my simple perception helps.

That is good you see it that way, many wouldnt. I remember about a year ago or almsot two my brother was getting married we went to the Dominican Republic (its cheaper to get married there). It was almost $2,000 to go, and it was nice and all. But again I wouldnt go into debt for it. A lady I work with carried on how she take tow vacations a year, and sort of rubbing it into everyone face. She looked at me and goes you know, us like Im different than everyone else. I told her it was nice, but if I have the money in the future I would go but I would drop everything and go into debt. I know a few I work with who just charge it to their credit card, and go three to four time a year. My parents will flaunt it as well, as they went to Florida this past year, Dominican before that, and now they are going somewhere this year. They wave it in everyone face to try and get them jealous. I just shrug it off, as Im happy I have a roof over my head, food to eat, and the brats are fed I can take a vacation and be happy to stay home.

I think you are getting more mature. The way you respond the situation is an act of a mature man, but I don't mean that those who feel jealous is immature, it's just that we have a lot of areas in our life that needs to be nurtured and matured like spiritual, physical,mental and financial. The way you deal the situation it seems that you are maturing mentally and spiritually, you are not jealous because you believe you can have a better tomorrow like what happen to your aunt. Another is you are happy of what are her achievements and that's a good attitude to become a successful in life.

Jealousy can be evil sometimes, it causes people to say or think horrible things. Good for you for being strong and being happy for someone who some might considered more fortunate, money isn't everything and no matter what we think sometimes things can always be worse.

that's awesome of you to feel happy for her! There is too much jealousy in this word! I don't have much, as in material things and can't go much of anywhere right at this moment in my life, even a trip to the store is difficult right now but I am happy with what I do have and who I have in my life. I am also happy for those who have more and can do more, because I know that my day is coming. We all deserve happiness, that is what life is suppose to be about but not everyone sees it that way. We all just need to reach within ourselves and learn to be happy what what and who we have.

Yes, you are growing and it's certainly in the right direction. That's a very mature attitude and I hope it stays that way all your life. You do sound very happy and that is also nice to hear. Usually it's just complaining all the time that I hear from my friends and family. I can't do much either as money is tight here, but I'm content. I will get a tear in my eye when someone on "The Price Is Right, or Let's Make A Deal" wins a huge prize, haha. I'm just so happy for them because I can see how happy it has made that person and when they cry, I cry. Silly I know.

I also envy people who can do a lot of things, like travelling from place to place, buying unnecessary things etc.- but that was before. Contentment and peace of mind is very important. So, I have learned to live the life that is in my hands...and be happy with what I have

When we are jealous, it's because we are unsatisfied or bitter. We all want more in life. But when we start getting content with what we have and have a smile on our face no matter how difficult the challenges are, we tend to stop comparing ourselves to others. That's when jealousy stops and all we can see are the good things that might come to others.

It is indeed a sign of maturity for me, finding joy in the good fortune of others is a one of the best noble quality we should all aspire to. this kind of quality does not come naturally it requires a lot of effort. I'm happy for you.