Shopping For Food Seperately.
By syramoon
@syramoon (654)
United States
September 1, 2012 7:32pm CST
Today I got in an argument with the friend I've been rooming with. We've been grocery shopping together every month and combining our money to do so. In the beginning this worked, there was a wide variety from her tastes to mine, but now it's all convince foods because her and her mother doesn't like to cook. I don't mind cooking, but they always complain they don't like things. So I told her this month I'm going to shop with my grocery money separately and they are to do the same, and we'll all eat our own food. Over the last few months I've been feeling really crappy, then the other day at a friend's house we had broccoli and cheese for dinner, and I actually had thirds. I'm the type of person who rarely has seconds much less thirds, and the broccoli had never tasted so great. That's when I realized I hadn't had a real vegetable in over two months, because of their eating habits, and her wanting to dominate what was bought.
We argued about it, but in the end she shut up. I'm not the type of person who can live on cheap ground beef, instant rice, ramen, and cheap tv dinners. Her biggest argument was that they wouldn't have enough money to eat all month. I told her that wasn't my problem, if I can make it on my grocery money for a month, they could make it on their own too. I can't keep feeling this crappy, I need real food.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Wow! I'm you opposite. If I had to eat veggies I would be crabby. I love ground beef , ramen and t.v. dinners! I'm glad you put your foot down! It is your money you should get the foot you Want to eat. If they don't like it tough!
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@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Sep 12
It's not that I don't like those things, because I do. Like every once and awhile. But eating the same unhealthy foods all the time make me feel so bad physically and slug slow mentally. I'll admit I did get a few tv dinners and a Stoufer's lasagna for nights when I don't feel like cooking.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Sep 12
Stouffer's and Marie Callendar are not fast food or junk food. Stouffer's lasagna reminds me of my mom's lasagna.I must confess she wasn't Italian, lol! I think it is torture to eat what you don't want to eat. I rather just fast myself. So I'm so glad you put your foot down. I may be your opposite but I do respect your choice.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Sep 12
It was the right thing to do to separate your shopping of food from them. Coz you do not have exactly the kind of food that they can afford. It is so sad they they should live up with those kind of food. But I think if they are creative enough, they can come up with something that is healthier and within their budget.
@Jshean20 (14348)
• Canada
2 Sep 12
Eating healthy is very important for your mind and body so it sounds like you made the right choice. I don't see a big deal in grocery shopping seperately, this way you know it's 100% fair especially if one person eats more than the other, I'm sure shopping this way would cause less drama in the household.
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Sep 12
So far, so good. We went shopping yesterday, and I'm feeling better and they haven't complained any more about it. Although towards the end of the month is when they'll most likely complain. I actually spent less money this month than usual (which was hard to believe with the way prices have went up on everything) and planned out meals for every day, along with snacks and extras in case I am in the mood to indulge some days.
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Good for you! I don't see what other solution you could have come up with.
Why don't they think they can't make it? Everyone takes their third of the money and buys what they want.
Don't change your eating habits to suit someone else, especially if it's going in the opposite direction of being healthy.
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I usually do put in more money than they do, but if they bought complete meals they'd be okay. They usually will have like only one food at a time - like they'll make a half a bag of oven fries for a meal. Sometimes that might be okay, but when you're doing things like that every day it gets expensive quickly.
@monkmano (585)
• Canada
2 Sep 12
That is a great idea and if she cant eat on her own grocery money you shouldnt have to pay for her to eat!! insane, its good go get some healthy foods and divide up the fridge because i would wonder if shed steal your food if she runs out.... its a possibility. very frustrating situation id think
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I could see that happening towards the end of the month, but in some ways I have planned for that. I'm saving the foods I bought that I know they do not like until the end of the month. It seems cruel, but if they'd budget better and change their habits they could afford to eat well all month long.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
2 Sep 12
You did the right thing. Its your money and you have every right to buy healthy foods that you like. If they want those kinds of food then they should be the one to "suffer" for it.
I almost have the same experience with my roomie. We always combine our grocery money and shop together. But then I noticed that most of the grocery food we get are those she wants. I ended up suggesting we shop and prepare our food separately.
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Sep 12
See I wouldn't even mind cooking for everyone most days. I work from home because I have a bad right foot, but as long as I put a chair in the kitchen where I can sit while I prepare things I'm find to cook. So that's what I offered first, a way everyone would have enough healthish food to last all month, but they wouldn't hear of healthier options. Although I do take pity on her mother, because she's to the age she agrees with her daughter just to get her to shut the heck up.
@BeachLover (520)
• India
2 Sep 12
You are absolutely right on your opinion. Its your choice no one can have say on it. Grocery is something which is completely in your hand and it should be a thoughtful decision. Good food and good quality is what you need for your kitchen. Good food is the must for the good body and good soul. Quality cannot be compromised at any cost.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
2 Sep 12
i always do that since in separate stores i can get good quality food and wonderful range of diets to eat more and i love to enjoy it all the time
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
2 Sep 12
Its a wise decision on your part. And likely when you buy things for real meals you will see that it will go farther than what they'll be buying.
I know that I have felt like this in the past as well because of similar situations and it just is not healthy. I'm glad you made this decision I'm sure that it will benefit you greatly, soon.
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Sep 12
I'm already feeling the difference, since I went grocery shopping yesterday. I had to put half my meat in another friend's freezer because it wouldn't fit in my part of ours here.
Other than the food situation I adore my friends. Even more so now that I'm not resentful that I have to eat crappy food because of them. lol XD
