How many children are in the ideal family?

I came across this link: http://geography.about.com/od/chinamaps/a/China-One-Child-Policy-Facts.htm According to this policy is not implemented in rural China. it has both plus and minus points. pl read the link and give your views.

Thank you for the link. You are right, it is not applicable to all. Actually it is not applicable to me too, I am a Filipino who is married Chinese. A foreigner is allowed to have more than one child. Also, they have these unwritten actions, even you are from Han Chinese and you wanted more children you can, you just have to pay the government some amount of money for your next child. I guess this kind of policy should also be adopted in my home country, the Philippines, but the problem is that our people are not so much into birth control as it against religious beliefs. I have seen several motions or acts about it right now but so far there isn't any success. How come you don't adopt yet in India?

I think mostly in India and China the population is high and most probably there should be small families. Some places population is less and it is okay to have high number of children.

Hi jenny1015, Well, as you deal with every days chores you can always make the ends meet. We are also two, I have an older brother but he passed awya when he was eighteen. Since then my mom and I had to live by ourselves. Oh, by father also passed away 5 years before my brother. I think, it was good for us because at least my mom has to support only one, but whenever I am away I feel that my mom feels lonely. And now that it took me 35 years before I was able to give a grandchild, I have seen her enjoyed other's grandchildren. But she's very very excited for her first, now that she is 64. In my mind, I think having several would have some advantages and disadvantges of course. How to decide? maybe just let it come.

Really? Young labourers? maybe I am not just aware it might happening in the philippines too. Glad to know it is changing slowly.

In India people were getting children to create more labour which can earn and support a family. also elder child will take care of the younger ones and children earn from 7th year or so. that is changing slowly now.

Hi Jshean, I have the same with you. And I am also hoping it would be one girl and one boy. But it's kinda difficult, but I still want to have a boy. Same here, wondering if I coudl handle them. Hopefully my husband will always be there. I know you can handle them. Let's start learning how to manag enow before they come.

I get your point. Having two not just benefit the parents but also the children itself because they have a companion. Well, I hope I can have two. I would like my child to enjoy life from childhood until adulthood.

That's a nice topic for discussion.

You have to study harder to get a good paying job so you can afford two children in the future, unless you want to marry a foreigner. Two is a good number.

This brings to me ask a question? I have two children. Is there any member having more than two children in mylot family. I am sure there will be more with three or four children also.

Children are giving for us to provide them with the basic needs. If at least the basic needs we can't give, why have more. Well said my friend. I hope all couple who's planning would consider your thoughts. I would for sure.

Hello ajithlal, You have point there since with small family you can look after all your children very well. Aside from tht you also have tiem for yourself and other things you do ... extra curricular. Living condition could be much lighter. Your point is taken.