If you don't like your story... Why not change it?

Exactly and that what I did. I never feel sorry after my separation, it's my choice. I use to forgive my ex for his cheating and cry myself to sleep. So what I did is change my story. I kicked him out of my life and now I am free from all the pain, hurt, insult and burden. I am happy with life and get rid of someone who made my life miser for a long time.

Oh. This was nice. I hope everyone here will see the significance of this discussion. I agree on you in this one. So, I think I should tell this one to my mom. She's always been suffering from her pass that she couldn't move on in her future. I think this is a very good advice that I could share to her. Thanks a lot 34momma. :)

You are right you alone can change your life. If someone loves to wallow in misery it's his own choice. Sometimes i also wonder why instead of counting the blessings, they focus more on the negative and kept on complaining and wondering why life is not good to them. Life is only giving back what they are seeking always, hence, they need to realize that they should look for something good about their life to attract more of it to them.

Yes, people are never happy with what they have! It is a fact and they are always complains about everything they are in possession and will look for still more on what others have. I think we need to take them to the life of 100 years before and let them have a look on how those people lived and how they are living now - just go for a comparison and they will realise the difference. In fact we all are living among the time of aboundance and a host of manythings and adequate freedom (on a comparitive basis). Also, I think those who are complaining about their 'don't have's are do no work and enjoying their life on the cost of thers like their parents or enjoying the money/wealth/proerty and everything out of the hardwork done by someone else. They are just saying - don't have and don't like, and in fact they don't have any rights to say these anymore.

yeah sure, you are so true. I wish that people come to realize that everything is in their hands, the present and the future. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

Yes, I also sometimes read how people use facebook account to tell about kesedihannyam memilkukan romance, etc.. Maybe if it was short but it did not matter if he told any of his sadness I think the thing useless because he does not think it will happen in front of him. and it would be difficult to think of positive things done. Yes now I started thinking about the positive things that could change my life story.

Excellent advice, I wish someone had told me this when I was a teenager. I've wasted years of my life making excuses for failure, brooding about my terrible education, lack of money, lack of opportunities etc. It's a bad mental habit that I've only recently started to break, and negative thoughts are more likely to hold you back than most physical circumstances.

It is good to be able to let out grievances and complaints, sometimes it does make us realize that we do feel better and with feeling better we feel empowered to make changes. Though if we just keep complaining and we see opportunities but never act on them, then we defeat the free will we were endowed with in the first place. Painful or hurtful experiences should be stepping stones, and one has to see these in different eyes to realize we are not helpless after all. I'm slowly learning to let go and forgive a few people with whom I was directly involved in a love triangle in the past. I grieved enough, I had given myself time to grieve. But I have to keep moving towards a better perspective.

Sometimes there are circumstances in our lives that we can't change, but I believe that we always have a choice. We can use to focus on the negative things and complain about the negative things or we can choose to focus on the positive things about the situation. Sometimes the so called bad things that happen turn out to be something positive when we look at the situation several years later. I have experienced that many times. I was sad when the bad things happen, but today I am able to see those thing in a different perspective and I know that they weren't as bad as they seemed when they happened.

I think people who always complain their condition is prove that he doesn't have good attitude for GOD blessing,they didn't think that maybe their condition is better than the others out there.Or maybe they're just show that they're still exist or active with their facebook account.I hate this kind of people.People like that sometimes need to vacation with unlucky people or poor people.

Sounds like most people on my friends list on Facebook lol! Unfortunately, these people are my good friends who I haven't seen for quite a while. And even so, I think I know more a lot about them because everyday they post all their life's drama. I am not really into starting drama on a social networking site, airing dirty laundry and even those who just fish for compliments or "encouraging" words. I always think, instead of spending time on Facebook telling everyone their business, why not spend more time in the real world solving their issues? My husband have a theory on this. He said its either there's no prphlegm to begin with and they're just seeking attention, or they're just too lazy to fix their own problems.

Oh that is right one should use his/ her time and energy in right, positive and constructive manner. Many people out the there complaining for those things in which they either failed or get hurt, I think the time they really waste here or there explaining their stories to other is much precious and they can restore or revert their defeat in the meanwhile. But if the people keep crying for what they have or are facing or how did they got hurt mentally or psychologically this will never help them. And for me I damn positive attitude person who commands over his mind and exercise self control.