Do you believe in "energy vampires", people who seem to use YOUR energy?
By HomeBase
@HomeBase (1153)
United States
September 3, 2012 3:56am CST
I think that I have discussed this before, but I want to talk about it again because I find that I encounter this type of thing A LOT. Have you ever been around people that seem to come around you feeling all depressed and so you pump them up and boost their spirits. By the time they leave you, THEY are feeling good and YOU are feeling drained. Do you, or have you ever had anyone like that in your life?? And what is it about me that seems to attract these types of people? Perhaps it is my need to nurture people who seem to be having a rough time??
2 responses
@aprilwang416 (16)
• China
3 Sep 12
yeah, i had in this occasion, too. when my friend feel depressed and came for help, i tell him a lot. but after the chat, it feels like his depression transferred to me. it makes me feel bad. as for the attraction, perhaps u are really a kind and easy-going person and u make them feel comfortable. i think, we should encourage ourselves simultaneously when we are going to help someone out. do u agree with me? my friend...
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Yes, I am an easy-going type of person and I know that I make people feel comfortable, but I don't like when people come around me and I LET them drain my energy. I have to stop DOING that!!
I want to take care of my own needs, and so yes, I think that we should encourage ourselves when we help someone out, but I think that sometimes I have to say NO to helping people out, especially when it is in a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship.
I always seem to attract men that need a lot of attention and need a lot of talking to help boost them up. Then when I help them get on their feet, they act like they don't need me anymore, which is no problem for me, because I have grown tired of them by that point.
I want to take care of my own needs, and so yes, I think that we should encourage ourselves when we help someone out, but I think that sometimes I have to say NO to helping people out, especially when it is in a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship.
I always seem to attract men that need a lot of attention and need a lot of talking to help boost them up. Then when I help them get on their feet, they act like they don't need me anymore, which is no problem for me, because I have grown tired of them by that point.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
3 Sep 12
I know what you are talking about my friend.
We have such kind of people here in our office. They always disagree on policies being implemented and they exchange heated words in email copy furnished all the dept. heads and even their heads.
Thus, whenever i see them, i just would like to avoid them, because they seem to have negative energy. Hearing them whine to me about others, makes me not like talking to them anymore. 
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Yes, I was reading an on-line article just a little while ago saying that the best way to deal with these kinds of people is to avoid them altogether if you can, but you CAN'T avoid them since you work with them. I can understand why you do not want to talk to them, if I was in your shoes, I would avoid them.
