My cousin has a new - born baby, but I don't really care

It´s not rude, it´s the truth. But you don´t have to say that to the baby´s mother or to the grandmother. That would be rude. I have seen horrible newborns and the mothers expect me to look at them in extasy at their beauty. I smile and say thing like "Oh, she is so big!" or "She seems to look more like daddy!" All are words to hide the truth that the baby is noy beautiful at all. I have rarely seen beautiful babies: they all look that were old people. Above all, that baby is the baby of someone who doesn´t much care for you. How can you be excited by all the children that are born in the world?

I don't blame you. I have girl cousins who do the same thing to me. They are so stuck up and have always acted like they are better than me. But then again, they were spoiled by their parents most of their lives from the time they were small children.

Your stance is perfectly justified, given that you are not really close to them. No point in getting excited just for the sake of it. But then, may be it is worth a thought to be the bigger person here and just wish them in a normal way. After all, it is a great moment for them and nothing will be lost in doing this. May be it will make them realize their mistake and things would improve.

I'm not close with any of my cousins either. All but one of them lives in the same state as me but I haven't socialized or anything with these people in years and years. I was invited to some of their functions and not even all of them invited me to their weddings so I could care less about if they eat at 5 p.m. or 2 p.m. and so forth. One of my aunts calls here and lets us know whenever anyone of them sneeze ( I'm exaggerating things) so I just don't care either way. I'm the kind of person that needs to be acknowledged at least a few times when I go to these family functions and I never feel like they have reached out to me in any way so. I haven';t been to any of them in years. My Aunts were fine for the most part but the Uncles and the cousins, Ugh.

Just because you are cousins does not mean you have to be close. When they come round you should always be polite, and say nice things (even if you do not feel that way). Once they leave you no longer have any obligation.

I know how you feel but the baby has nothing to do with what happen between you and your cousin though. I would not feel excited as well when a relative would do the same with me. But whenever the kid would come to me I would not send her/him away too. My feelings for the kids is different with her mom of course, she's innocent! Thanks for sharing!

I think that's normal, you guys haven't talked for a long time and not close, I don't see you wold get very excited about your cousin just had a baby, not like your close siblings or something. I didn't get excited when my brother-in-law had their first baby either because we didn't see them very much, only once in a while in some family events or some random gathering.

It's not rude at all. Maybe your mom is just excited and it just so happened that you are not as excited as she is with the baby. You don't seem to be close to that particular cousin of yours so why force yourself into their lives when they seem to not know you when they're around. There are times that we get more excited by our close friend's baby rather than our own cousin's baby, simply because we have tighter relationships with the former compared to the latter. It's not rude or heartless. you're just being true to yourself and it's never a bad thing. At least you're honest to say that you're really not that concerned about the whole event.

hi, maybe you are not that close to your cousin like me,i also have a cousin who give birth and as you i also really don't care it because i am not that close to that my cousin,and aside from they are far to us also so we could never see each other.

Your hatred to your cousin is really that big but I understand the way how you feel.I have a cousin whom I really hated but I really do not mind their own business and if they have a baby. I just ask about that and nothing more.But even,I hated my cousin so much I just smile at them even I look like so plastic but my father said just to be nice to them.