Once I move out no coming back
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
September 4, 2012 9:50pm CST
A girl I went to elementary school adn high school we were close when we were younger. There were 4 of us in total, the one girl married a man who is 69 and had a child (she's 24) and moved to the city. She still talks to me the odd time, the other girl went to university, moved to the city and stopped talking to any of us/ The other girl started dating this other guy, and thinks she god gift, so I told her once she gets her head on straight come find me.
She has moved out with this guy a few times, they have been together about a year and half to two years. Both work full time, and decent job in a factory. He has a child with another girl we went to high school with, and he didnt pay a cent for the kid.
Me personally wouldnt even look at this guy let alone date him. Shows the lack of a man he is. But she wont go anywhere without this guy yet she lives with him, works with him, adn with him 24 hours a day 7 days a week.
I havent talked to her in ages because she wont go anywhere unless he tags alone.
She got a Blackberry, and sent me a text saying shes moving to the next town over. I said good for her, now she has moved out countless times, and then back home when she has no money. He bought a brand new truck, and has loads of child support to pay for. So I will only assume in a few months they will be back at her parents house.
She then proceeded to ask why Im living at home (now her parents dont charge her anything ... no charge for food, rent, driving, etc), she doesnt drive, or has any bills when she moved back home her parents paid her cellphone for her.
Now with my parents once you move out, your not coming back the key is gone, and your on your own deal with it. So for me I am making sure I have enough money to not struggle or get under the water.
I just ignoring her now, because shes going on how I need to grow up, and move out for once (I have 4 years of college, and spent all my savings on that, and now saving for a house, and worked since I was young even babysitting and newspapers). Now this girl dropped out of high school and cant spell cat properly, who has no savings, and keeps moving in and out of her parents house now who needs to grow up.
Is life just a competition? Everyone who I knew years ago are popping out of the wood work and comparing themselves to others. I really don;t care what they have done since high school if they are comparing themselves and thinking themselves are better.
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6 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Sep 12
I don't intend to ever have to go back home since I've been out on my own for several years, but I do know that there are some circumstances that could occur that would be beyond my control and in that kind of a situation, I know that I always have a place to go if I needed it.
With that said, I have never been the kind of person that judges myself against other people. I know that I am who I am and who I am is not a person that is any better or worse than the next person.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
5 Sep 12
I think you should do what you are doing. If your parents would throw you to the wolves when you move out and couldn't make it, then I think it best to make sure you can support yourself. As for your friend. PFFFFTTTT! You know you are working hard to better your life. Don't even worry about what she said to you.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Sep 12
hii Ricki so smart of you so when you do move out yuu will be okay and not need to run home to your parents who have now tossed you out of the nest anyway. some how it runs contrary to most parents who care too much for their adult kids to not let them come back if they are in serious trouble.but one thing the way they brought you up has make a competent young woman out of
you with great work ethics and a good head on your shoulders.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
5 Sep 12
Honestly I can't really say much as I am one of those people who keeps coming back, but I honestly wish I didn't. This last time was a real wake up call though and while I am not exactly very quick at getting myself ready to move out I know when I do I can't keep coming back. Not because they won't accept me, as they would, but because I need to wake up and be more responsible.
I'm constnatly reminded of it just by things I see and feel every day. I do want to stay a little longer because I want to kind of "help" this household a little bit as it is kind of depressing for a few in the house, but otherwise I will be moving out and never coming back.
I only regret that I didn't do this for myself earlier.
However, it has always been if I want a car or a cellphone, I BUY IT MYSELF, no one else. My cell phone I bought and I pay for.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
5 Sep 12
Oh, I got your point. It's not good if people are always comparing themselves to others. If they are more fortunate than others then good for them. They should mind their own businesses. They shouldn't compare themselves because they don't have any idea on how other people strive for their own. Being independent is quite hard but it's better than being a burden to our parents. Yes, don't mind her.She still has a lot of things to undergo.She needs to realize her direction or purpose in life.Happy mylotting.
@Pale_moon (98)
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5 Sep 12
In China,there is a "nightmare" called "children of others' family" to chinese children.Our parents often say that"why can't do that but XXX' son/doughter does that".I remember once I have got a score of 90+ when I was in a primary school.I told that to my father and hoped she would praise me bu she said some one else got a better score than me instead.
