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hey there, saphy! good to see you again....it's been a long time, i almost forgot when's the last time we had seen each other... anyways, trust? you can't have it all unless people trust too much. sometimes we can do things we don't know people might get hurt and by this, they tend to lie, for us not to feel hurt or so. but then, in time, you can notice that they are doing it obviously. that you can't help it anymore. that's why it's better to talk things through when the problem is small, when it gets big, bigger pain will be felt more. do you agree?

First , it isn't a tantrum. Second, you have a right to feel the way you feel. And Third, I agree with you . Once a liar always a liar I say. Once I know I can't trust a person I Never trust them!

Hi Saphy! You are right that trust is the most important thing in our life. No body wants to be cheated and treated with contempt. Once anybody has broken our trust, we just can not rely on that person again. We keep coming across such people in our life who deceive us (without we even realizing it at the time of deception). Sometimes we get the realization too late to handle. All the best to you.

You are hurting so badley right now and I wisgh that I could make the pain go away. But I can't. Broken trust can take so long to repair and for some people it can never be repaired or forgotten or forgiven. I am so sorry for yiur pain as I can just feel it through your words. I wish to God that you will soon get through this bad time. Many blessings

If you are still single,you still have the chance to look for someone else who'll be honest to at all times.It's just quite hard to find one though.Some people can't just be honest.I don't know why.They don't want to tell evrything they've been going through.They don't update us with their activities and instead,they tell us something else and we'll find out that they're lying to us sometimes.My husband sometimes lies to me.I also want him to tell me the truth because I'm sure that I'll also know the truth.

hi dear, Trust is something we gain and not something we can buy over the counter I have issues too when it comes to trusting someone specially if I just meet them through net and they don't have a clear identification but still I give them my trust I don't hide anything what they see is what they get, I hate hypocrites too......that's why as much as possible I am trying to be frank and honest to what I feel even it can hurt someone. No one wants to be lied and cheated but this is the reality of life Dear. they say why we hurt someone we love? and that is still unanswered

I would disagree with you. I think you ARE special.

Honesty is the best policy. Honesty creates and boosts the self respect and self respect is an asset, if we lost it can not regain.

Saphy! It is so good to see you back... but not like this You must have been let down really badly... and it only takes one let down to ruin your trust in everyone, from then onwards and forever

As far as tantrums go, it's well justified if someone's broken your trust. I think most people here feel the same. We don't feel any more special than the next person, so a special treatment isn't really necessary. But being treated fair and honestly is a good start for any relationship. I hope you get to a better place soon.

I think you're expecting too much from people. You need to look at things from the other point of you. What if the people you associate with don't trust you, and therefore lie to you? What if you make people feel so uncomfortable around you it drives them to cheat/lie and all that. Judging as it has been for a long time I deeply think it's something you're doing wrong or expecting so much out of people you make them subconsciously nervous. No offence, just my opinion.

Its not too much to ask at all. I know plenty of liars and more hypocrites- most of them at work. Because of the way people I have a very limited social circle, why waste what little spare time you have with either people that you barely lie- or will let you down?

What you have said, is said and expected from each of us. There is nothing new in what you like, or what you hate. The question is whether one adopts the things in his/her life more than he/she expects from others. All reforms become effective only when these are begun at home. Please don't take it personally. My view is of general type.

Its time to be selfish a bit saphy... Remember its not only prime..its second third and so on.. Keep a smile and as long you remember that you are important everything start to change. Opportunities are endless ..you just need to look and grab them.

Hello beautiful SPECIAL lady. You know, the people we choose to love are the ones who hurt us the most. Inevitably, we all stuff up from time to time. We do something wrong then we lie to cover our tracks...at least that's what we did when we were small children. Some just don't grow past that stage. They don't think things through, don't consider the consequences. Outside truth or lies can also be a cover up for what's really going on deep down inside. So then we have a choice, do we cut them loose or do we forgive them. Of course, each case is different and we are the only ones who know our own stories and what we've endured and what's seemingly expected of us. Do we turn the other cheek? Do we hit back? What steps do we take as we move forward? What do we want the outcome to be? I wish you love, joy and truth and a loving and honest shoulder to lean on when you need it. Hugs to you my friend and feel better...OK?

Okay, Sid confirmed what I was thinking, where have you been? We missed you and I actually went to one of your previous discussions recently and wondered if you were around anymore.. Now for your tantrum, I totally agree, I am the same way. Probably why sometimes I loss friends, because I found they have lied to me, but this is also a good thing, this means you and I are wonderful friends to others because we try to not lie and cheat on our friend. So think of it this way, the friends you have? Is probably because they know you are a great friend and you are trustworthy...;)

hello sweetheart and I am sure vodka is not even enough

So..you dont trust me?

Tantrum? You gone missing from mylot is a bigger one - I miss you so very much despite you sharing with me where you were planning to go to. Okay, on the discussion - I know you and am happy that you are still the same you I know of - dear saphrina. I know you love being honest and be treated with honesty and respect - something I admire you about. And wait... asking for being honest is never too much.