A stubborn father... plz help.
By useaname
@useaname (47)
September 6, 2012 6:34am CST
My father gets easily ticked off over little things. Hes like a child. Starts bringing up unnecessary things. How the hell do you deal with that. Im starting to hate him now. Me, my brother and mother....neither of us want to live with him. Its not that hes a bad man or anything. But VERY difficult. Just too stressful. What the hell do you to do when all 3 of us a have a problem. Im 19 turning 20 in 4 days. We had a little argument. Il admit was my fault and i sed sorry! And all i sed is "dad...i told like 20 times..." and then he got mad and now he doesnt want to drive me to Uni which is 120 miles away and he doesn't want to buy me a new laptop for my birthday! Just because of that little thing. And he started talking about how i should feel free to leave the house if I want to. Even mum was saying that there is no need to bring that up. Like it's so ridiculous. And he's not exactly a polite person himself. He's a hypocrite too. How do I deal with this. !!!
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Has your father been like that since you were a kid? How old is he now? It is only women who undergo menopausal period. When women undergoes this period,they become hard to deal with due to hormonal issues. You father might have been experiencing andropause. In my case, it is my mom who easily gets tick off, sometimes I tell her to watch her mouth. She is also very judgmental, I use situations to explain to her how her actions can be detrimental to her reputation as an active member for a church organization.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
7 Sep 12
Wait! There is such a thing as male menopause? Andropause? I have to look into this. Thanks for this.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Hi! This is what you should remember, he is your dad and you can't change that. There are some aging men who are hard to understand and sometimes if you failed your father, they will really feel disappointment with you. There are fathers who are not that expressive but is actually proud of their children because they will endlessly talk about you when you are not around. Anyway, be the one to vow because he is your father ans you must respect him. Time heals all wounds so just give him space. Everything will be okay in time.
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@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
6 Sep 12
I don't know but I think you don't have to say that he's a hypocrite. :( Maybe your dad has too much experience that he don't want you to face. Maybe he is just being a father to his children. I think it's your father's way of punishing you from what you did wrong. I also think that maybe he wants you to learn the lesson from your own fault and maybe that is his way of showing it. I hope the relationship between you and your father will be ok. He is still your father no matter what. Deal with your father. Your lucky to have him. Not all people are like you who have a father. :)
@Pons_Ram (5)
• Bangalore, India
7 Sep 12
Hi useaname!!
Try to discuss with your mom what is the reason behind the tension of your father...
If it doesn't work, just speak with your dad whatever words go in your mind when he is in calm mood...better try to console by expressing your love.
Else, consult a psychologist,he will give you a nice ideas to change your father's thought..
Don't worry friend ..your dad will turn good soon...
