How do I stop my two year old from cursing?!

your children is so lucky to have you tangled. i wish my mother had the same attitude as you in those times of my childhood years. I am a shy type of person and now i know that i've gotten this personality because my parents weren't aware to a good parenting.

She just doesn't. Soon she will. As a mother you just know about your children. Just like when they are ready to potty train. There are signs or cues to see she sees its wrong or right. I have been testing it and when I say no then she repeats it. I am being very careful what I reprimand her for and what I am rewarding her for. I don't want her to be reprimanded for speaking and have her never speak or be shy. I dealt with that as a child. I see now these couple of days that if I distract her or replace her words with others it has worked but as everything with children it is a repetitive process :/ As soon as she knows the difference I will try the method you recommend. Thank you

Thank you so much blebchel! That made my day, that is always nice to hear. :) It is hard to be a parent. I heard that even a deaf childs coos but if no one responds then they stop. It is a hard to decide what to do and what not to do as a parent. If I pay her attention for bad things, will she become timid? If I ignore the bad behavior, will she have no confidence? It seems like every choice is a consequence and we have to just try and try to find out what works with each child. I hope I do what is right by each one of my children. I'm currently trying replacement and not reprimand. I thought ignoring it would do something but it did a few times but then it had no effect sometimes and it seemed to upset her. It was clear that ignoring was a form of reprimand for her. It is like a scientific study and you must observe the effect of the variables.

I chalk up the bad language to public school and her relatives from her father's side of the family since those are the only times she is left unsupervised by myself. What have you known about ODD children? I know very little and am just learning. Could you give me any advice on how to deal with such behavior? Unfortunately my two year old is too young to understand what she is doing is wrong or the fear of God. I wouldn't want her to fear God as I was raised that way and it was wrong, I would raise her to respect God as she should. It is about actions at this age. So she understands sign language more than words. If I say no and shake my finger or head she knows it upsets me by the frown on my face. The same for when I smile and she knows I made her happy. She repeats both actions either good or bad just for the reaction. The only thing that works is playing with her constantly as a form of distraction. You see our lives have been turned backwards recently and it is just her and I in the house. Her father and 9 yr old sister are not in the home at the moment. She is used to more interaction and she hasn't been to daycare or anything such. The park and my constant interaction is what she craves.She gets bored and upset if she doesn't have someone to play with. I recognize this in my 2 year old as abnormal and not like my eldest as a "stage", a "phase" or "just children" or "terrible twos". I will help my yuoungest as soon as possible. My eldest I believe will never lead a normal life and I fear for her but we pray everyday and hope for much more. Thank you for your concerns, they are warranted.

Honestly I don't know that much. I am no expert when it comes to Special Children but my Church has a School for Special Children as part of its extended ministry and there I have the chance to minister and mingle with special children but I am not a SPED teacher though. All I could offer to them is some sweet fellowship during visitation time. And yes there are lots of ODD cases who are behaving well enough maybe because they have undergone good training and therapies already and most of all they are learning to behave well through the love and fellowship of Christian people who volunteer to teach them about Jesus and His love. Your ODD child should be kept from bad environment. So as much as possible don't let her be with the relatives from the father's side. And by the way the fear of the Lord is not the same thing as fear of ghost, or fear of bad people or bad things, no dear. It is wrong to assume that. We don't fear God the same way we fear ghosts or robbers or killers..no! We fear God because he is all powerful, he hold our life and He has given us all the love and mercy so that he is too good to be defied. Yes it is correct to teach your child to respect God for that is part and parcel of teaching her how to fear God. To teach your child about fear of God is to make her understand how much God hates sin and what punishment He gives to those who refuse to obey Him. Your child should know that God punishes those those who disobey. Teach her how powerful He is, how much God loves us and why He deserves to be obeyed. Spend some time to teach her young mind why God is worthy to be loved, obeyed, respected, served, worshiped and more. Do it little by little but constantly until she learns more and more. She should learn that the eyes of God is everywhere, that God could see every action she does and that God does not approve any of her bad action. She should know that if she will not change, God will punish her someday soon. But despite this truth, teach her that God is very kind because He is giving her enough time to change into the sweetest girl God wants her to be.

I tried to keep her away from the relatives and they took me to court. So they have visitation with her by court order. This is so because they had a prior relationship and her father is deceased so they have ground to have a relationship with her since they would have if he was alive is what was explained to me. They wouldn't give them supervised visits either. I am looking for some parenting skills class to understand her and work with her. We are starting all the paperwork for that therapy etc. presently. I was traumatized as I child about demons getting you so I literally feared God. I don't want to traumatize my daughter. I like how you said how powerful he is versus how scared you should be and how he is giving her time to be the sweet she can be. I hope to bring this across to her when we have our time together. I need to find a good church, yours sounds like a dream for our family! Thank you.

Irespond with my usual Oh My! and she knows something just happened and stops. I have to make a deal of it because it seems like when I just say a quick no she repeats it. Like, "what you mean this word???" And so when I say oh my she stops and I give her the replacement word. I dust my hands together as to say no more and say no more since she was little she understood that. She mimics well. For example at a year old she took over her sisters job of throwing out the dirty diapers in the kitchen garbage. Now she understands garbage when said and to do the action. I have started having her cover her mouth when she says a bad word, that was suggested to me. I do it and she mimics. Everyday we are trying. I'm up for any suggestions. Thank you.

I tried to omit the relatives with bad language from our lives but they took me to court. They got visitation with my eldest daughter and she brought it into our home from then on. Shbe is no longer in our home at the moment so I am trying to train my youngest child to omit these words from her language as soon she will forget all this when she forms her memory from age five on. Thank you for the advice. I tried it but I wasnt allowed to by the courts.

Did you deal with this at ages 2 or so? What worked?

I go by, "Let no corrupting words come out of our mouths, but only what is helpful for buildings others up that it may give grace to those who hear it." Ephesians 4:29 Replacement not reprimand.

She mimics everything, she is a sponge! She copied this bad language seeing her sister who has Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD) and has other undiagnosed behavioral issues we are trying to get therapy for. Her older sister is nine and it has been increasingly hard to discipline her since she was five and regular discipline just doesn't work. I am trying to help my youngest now who is two to stop the behavior but I need advice and the therapy seems slow going as we had to wait for an appointment for early intervention since June! It is now September and our therapy intake appointment for the services that refers us to the ACTUAL therapy is next Monday. I hope and pray this all gets going from then on because it's been years I have been struggling as a mother to get this all understood and now that we know what it is we need all the specialized therapy we can get!