Are you choosy in accepting online friendship requests?
By deserve40
@deserve40 (1656)
India
September 7, 2012 10:06am CST
Online friendship is something different from the conventional person to person's friendship. In online friendship most of the times people hide their real idendity. There may be many reasons for it but one thing that happens is that when we make online friend, we have some sort of doubts in our mind if we are making a real friend or a virtual friend.
However, on some social networking sites and even on MyLot, it is not difficult to judge if the person is okay for our friendship or not. But I am choosy in accepting or friendship request from on mylot as well as on facebook. I feel that without any valid reason (like common interest, liking about someone's posts etc) I should not accept the friendship request.
How do you select your online friends? Please share here.
7 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
hi deserve,
For past years I met many online friends few was true and some forgot me
Through the years I learn not to trust that much when meeting someone online
I am not choosy when it comes to online friendship but I am frank enough to show how much I don't like them.
happy mylotting
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
8 Sep 12
I do select on whether to accept on this friendship, i think this is the basic feeling for every people in daily life. While i still do not try to find time to get to know more about people that i'm gonna add. I just feel it's right to add this person and i just let my feeling do this.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
8 Sep 12
So you would like to be choosy while selecting online friends. However, you do not do so. The reason for this is that you do not have time for that. Also your age is such that you do not feel it suitable to go into details of the requester and decide if the request for friendship should be accepted or not.
Thanks for finding time and taking interest in this discussion. Have a nice time...!
@marguicha (222387)
• Chile
8 Sep 12
I only have real friends in FB. As for here, I don`t usually accept newbies. I have to see what they say, what their interests are and how the answer posts before accepting them. And that`s a beginning.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
8 Sep 12
I follow the same stretagy here on mylot. I wait for the activity of the requester and if possible I also read their posts. Then if I feel that the person is okay for me, I accept the request.
Now a days, there are many virtual characters on the internet. They make you friends so that they can send some emails, links etc for their marketing purpose. I really do not like such people and so I do not just accept their request. However, evenif the newbies are good, I would like to make them friends.
Thanks for your response...have a nice time...!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
I have my own standards too.
Here in mylot I don't have any problem accepting friend's request as long as the member is active then it would be easy to know the person basing from the interest and the way he/she respond.
Although it's not a guarantee that the person is telling the truth or writing from who he/she really is.
You are right, it's hard to identify real people through online unless given the chance to meet in person.
Here in our country, most mylotters got the chance to met each other in person.
I myself got the chance to met a few mylotters in person and few of them become a close friend and met constantly.
Now regarding your topic-
Are you choosy in accepting online friendship requests?
I am not that choosy, but I don't give personal information easily with online friends.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
7 Sep 12
From the number of posts on MyLot, I can make out that you are quite experienced person in online activities. It is good idea not to disclose your personal information to online friends. This will make it easy for you to accept the friendship requests from most of the people. On MyLot it is even easier as we can make out if the person has common interest as we do have.
In your country if you have met many mylotters and it is good thing. As you as so senior on mylot, you would be respcted by most of the mylotters.
Have a nice time...!
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Hi deserve40, in some social networking site like facebook and yahoo messenger I only accept those person i know but here in Mylot everybody is welcome and I accepted all when they add me as a friend. Here in mylot our identity was secured and i think we can easily blocked or report if the abuse us or spammed us.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
8 Sep 12
You are right 'Bhedelen14' in your version that Mylot offers many ways to control the activity of any wrong person much easily. Not only that, on mylot we can judge what type of person we are making friend with, as we have opportunity to watch the activities of that person. So there is no harm accepting friendship requests of all those who send you the same on MyLot.
Thanks for your response...Have a nice day...!
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
7 Sep 12
Hi friend, i don't have more restrictions in approving friends request, but if the person send some unwanted messages and spam links, i will delete him/her from my friends list, most of the time i will accept all the incoming friend request in mylot and fb, if some one send a friend request to us, it means that they like our work and interested in making our friendship, then why we avoid this kind of friends, i just approve them.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
8 Sep 12
You seem to be very generous in accepting the friendship requests. I think that you are right in your point or view that the person likes you in some way and so wants to become a friend. So in such case there is no harm in accepting the friendship request.
Your stretagey of deleting the friend from the list if he sends you spams is also very good and I think that I should follow the same.
Thanks for sharing your views here... have a nice time...!
@dlataya4124 (19)
• United States
7 Sep 12
I usally only pick people i know or have met in some way in the past. You can't be to cautious when it comes to making friends online to be honest. I don't think it is a good idea just to accept any and every one.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
7 Sep 12
I agree with you that we should not make friends just anybody and everybody. In this process, we may make many friends but we may not be in a position to be in touch with our online friends. Even sometimes we forget if someone is in our friends list or not...! I may not be of any harm to us when we make online friend because our contact with that friend is quite limited and so even if some bad person.
Thanks for sharing your views here...have a nice time...!
