it was a mistake?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
September 7, 2012 12:35pm CST
she's completly out of control..every night she goes from club to club and she spends time with all kind of weird people. she says she simply wants to live her life. but this doesn't necesarely means to get drunk every night and lock yourself in the toillet the way she did. this kind of things make a woman look...I don't want to say it. I'm really worried for her. I decided to tell her brother about it. now I don't know if I did wrong but someone needs to put her some limitations. I told him to try to talk to her and if he doesn't achieve anything than I think he should tell their parents. it's a pitty for her
5 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
You are a good friend. It is absolutely the right thing to do. somebody has to tell her to go slow on her clubbing and all. she might get hetself in trouble if you will just let her be.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Sep 12
Well, if that is the case, then there no way that you can let her out of it unless something bad happens to her, which I hope not. Let's just hope she realizes that you are just being a good friend to her and that you always wanted what is best for her.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
26 Sep 12
but what more can I do. I'm convinced that she won't listen to her parents either. she only wants to live her life but she doesn't realise she's just ruining it
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Hi swissheart, you did the right thing by telling his brother her situation. I think she is experiencing some problems or pain right now and drinking is the only way for her to forget. Also drinking and clubbing every night is very dangerous and risky for her health and it a big waste of money. Better to talk to her to find out what really happens to her and try to convince her that drinking and clubbing are not there solution in every problem and it is not the right way to live her life like that.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
7 Sep 12
she doesn't do this because she has problems..she does it because she got to the point that she likes drinking. and she drinks till she pukes in the bathroom. and after that she starts drinking again. you can see how this will damage her health in the end. I don't find anything wrong in going to a club and drinking something to make you feel good, to have fun...but when she does that eevry night and she drinks till she pukes..I think there is a big problem
@Christine637 (358)
• United States
7 Sep 12
All right, I have to admit I don't know who she is - but if this woman is fully grown, you got to let her make her own mistakes. If she's a partner of yours, you have to tell her how you feel, how you don't want to watch her hurt herself. If this woman cares about you, maybe knowing how much it effects you will change her thoughts on this destructive behavior.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
7 Sep 12
I tried to talk to her and she said that she doesn;t know how the discusions we have make her cry. I care about her and I consider her the sister that I never had. I hate the fact that she's practically destroying herself but maybe she doesn't realise this. I don't see any other solution than this one: her father talking to her
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
7 Sep 12
Hi. I think what you did is just right for your friend. I think you really care for her. She must be lucky to have you as a friend. I hope she's appreciating you. :) I also hope that she will change soon. Bar hopping once in a while is okay but if it's every night, I think that's too much. Someone must limit her from what she's doing. She might caught herself into trouble that could lead to a huge regrets in the future. I hope she's going to live her life to the fullest in the way that she's not going to drink and bar hop anymore.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
7 Sep 12
she goes from a bar to another in only one night..she drinks till the point that she feels the need to puke.. I'm sad that I see how she destroies herself. I tried talking to her and explain her how I feel. she says yes ok you're right but the next day she does the same. I don't have any influence on her anymore . but I tought that maybe her parents or her brother would talk to her in a different way and maybe she will trully listen to them
@VGDesigns (102)
• United States
8 Sep 12
Sounds like it is time for an intervention. She has some serious issues that she is avoiding.
