Validation vs verification

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I have long made it my habit to seek what I need with those who have it to give. However for some reason most of the people that I know from aquaintances to the siggy try to believe that I need their permission, their validation, or their stamp of approval on me or anything to do with me, when the fact of the matter is that in their need to justify and speachify they miss they most important point of all. THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT THAT THEY FAIL TO APPREHEND I am submitting the already completed task or activity in verification that "Yes I decided to________ and then I did”...”this or I did that. “ This behavior bears absolutely no resemnblance to me coming to them and asking: “Should i do this or that?” “ What do ya think?” “Do you think that I did the right thing?” Doesn't it? That is what I am wondering, how a-hole-a-vision mistakes one for the other, when they don't resemble each other at all. To me that is tantamount to mistaking Madonna for Mickey Roarke or Justin Timberlake, which is to say, not the same thing at all! It seems that most folks think that everyone guides their life or makes their decisions via committee, or seeks validation from any and everyone. There are many, many people who do operate in that fashion and live their lives that way, I have met many of them along my course. Which is why it always frustrates me when my close friends or confidants confuse me for such a person. I can only assume that this is not a failing nor due to any personality or character defect of my own (though I have plenty of those, AND I know it, unlike some folks!) I would much rather seek the lack in their perception, not in my delivery, what I mean is I hope it reflects less a need on my part than the fact that they have enormous egos to convince them that a grown a woman needs or seeks approval or validation from them!