What are the necessary factors for you to "HELP" others?

" nupur " : you seem to be great believer of "Karm". I am also of the opinion that we should do our Karm and leave other things to God. If we do good things to others then in some or the other way we will get good things from others. (If not from the same person then from some others.) I suggest you to read a small book "Karma No Siddhant" if you understand Gujarati. It is very samll but quite inspiring book. It was great pleasure to read your views here. Hope to read more from you her on other subjects.

You keep making good discussions and I will be there!

Yes,but it hardly matters if u have a clear heart. If u u helping one with a good sense that it does not matter whether the person need it or not. U should do ur karm else leave it to God.

So you would like to help the people who are in real need of your help and not the people who can do the things themselves. It is right thing not to offer your help to those who are capable enough to do the same things by themselves because if you still help them, they may become lazy and habitual to getting help from others. They won't like to work in future. In such cases your idea of help the person will be defeated. Nice thoughts friend...! Have a nice time...!

You are right "jenny". For helping people, one more factor which plays important role is our responsibilities. If my family members need my company and if I am not able to give them enough time, I cannot think of going out to some place and help the needy persons. In this case needy persons are there in my family and so I should not go out to find needy persons. One more important factor is our financial conditioin. If I do not have enough money, I cannot afford to give some amount to the needy person. So for helping others with money one has to obtain financial stability. Thanks for your addition to this discussion. Have a nice time...!

So you check how important that person is to you and then you decide to help him. It is good enough to have due consideration to the need of the person also. You have been rightly taughtly to be a good person always. Only good people can help others because they want to reamin good to others and that is very essential for all humans. Thanks for you response.... have a nice time...!

So nupur, you help others not for getting any returns from them. Infact they may not be in a position to give you in return except the blessings. I think that the blessings of the needy person are one of the greatest things which they can give and the greatest thing we can get from them. So selfless help of the needy person is your moto. I am hope that you would be in great position to help people in need for long long time. God Bless you...!

So for you the type of help which is required by others is important. In each case you would try to make sure that you are in right position to help others. I think that this is good policy. If someone ask me for the financial money and if I have empty pocket, how am I to help them..! You have rightly stated that while helping others, we have to keep our position in our mind also. We need to take care of ourselves also. If you do not have enough resources with you and then if you try to help the people with the same, then you are inviting troubles and soon you would be looking for the help from others...! This would not be a happy situation at all. Thanks for sharing your views here. Have a nice time...!

Looking to your age, I think that if you are in a poistion to help few people then also it is great thing for you. At old age if people are able to take care of themselves then also it is a great help to their friends and relatives. My mother is of old age but fortunately for me she is able to take care of herself and I greatful to almighty for that. Because of her being capable enough to help herself, I feel much relaxed. I need not worry about her every now and then so I am able to concentrate better on my other responsibilities. It is a great pleasure to read your views here. Please do share more and more here. Good Bless you...!

So you want to help others so that you may be helped by others. I do agree with you that to get help from others it is quite necessary that we help others whenever possible. However, as rightly stated by you, we must have knowlede of that subject so that we can help others. If we are not knowledgeable, then we cannot help others. So one thing is sure that you must have sufficient knowledge to help others. I think that with limited knowledge we should not try to help others. Our actions may cause trouble to other person whome we want to help and so we have to be absolutely sure that in trying to help a person we are not going to cause any harm to that person. Nice to have your views on this subject. Hope to read many more opinions on different subjects here friend...!

It is very difficult to decide if a person is really in need of help or not. But I think that it is not good thing on the part of the people who take help of others unethically. You have rightly stated that many people are found to be the people not in real need and still asking for help. I am of the opinion that if you are sure that the other person is in really need then only you should try to extend the help. It will save you from so many troubles. Many times people pretend so nicely that we get trapped in their conspiracy and we suffer just because we tried to help them. Have a nice time friend...!

I like your idea very much "ARIES". If the person himself is trying to do something then the help has some meaning otherwise, you may make the person feel that things can be done just by taking help of others. This will result into waste of time for you and in future the same person will not like to work for himself. You may make him dependent by helping him once or twice and that would not be the purpose behind helping him in any case. Thanks for sharing your views here. Have a nice time friend...!

Yes, you are right in that case...! If you help financially and that money is going to be used in wrong way, then your purpose of helping is not served. We always try to help others as we know that it is good thing and with our help if a person will have some sort of relexation in his life then we must help him. If we help people without due consideration then our help may be used in the ways we would never like. Many times we have to blame ourselves for that situation as our money or efforts are used in wrong way. It is sad that many times our help becomes curse for others because they may even become adicted to bad things. It was pleasure reading your views here. Hope to see more ideas in your posts friend...!