Midlife crisis - if I act like that shoot me please
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
September 9, 2012 8:16pm CST
I think I've figured it out, my Mother issue is midlife crisis and menopause.
It's been the last few years, and roughly when shes beginning meopause. She just keeps getting worse, to the point where noone will talk to her.
She is downstairs screaming at my Dad to proove that he is wrong, and she is always right. I mean 10 minutes ago they were arguing over how I broke my glasses, shes bond that I couldnt just break them on my face in thin air, and he is saying he can happen, who cares I pay for my glasses and they have nothing to do with them.
I swear she has more mood swings than my sister and I put together (my sister is 25, and Im 24). One minute she doesn;t give a f*ck what we do, the next shes all where are you going, I didnt tell you could do that, she;'s all for everything we do next we are all stupid and cant do anything in life.
Right now 3 of 4 kids are beyond over her sh*t, we all avoiding her, and if we could probably wouldnt talk to her. I dont tell her anything, because I know she will make something of it depending on her mood. My sister said this to me the other day as well.
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7 responses
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
10 Sep 12
Hello Ricki. Menopause can really be rough on some women. All those hormones getting out of balance. Has your mom been to a Dr. about all the changes she is going through? Maybe you should get her to see one. She really doesn't have to be so miserable.
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
10 Sep 12
Nope, she refuses to see a doctor she hasnt been since my younger brother was born 18 years ago. Since she wont do that noone wants to be even in the same room as her, her own fault eventually we all will have our bags packed and out the door avoiding her even my own father is ignoring her.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
11 Sep 12
I would say...give her a happy pill! If only ha! My husband better not act like that. All menopause-y-ish. Because like u I would probably get in trouble a lot! I would say something like I'm taking the girls and well be back. Just leave that menopause out the door.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Sep 12
Ugh, my mom went through something like that. However I was a teenager and didn't "get it" at the time. She was an emotional nutcase and nothing you could so was right some days. I don't know if it was her finishing the change or some of the other things that happened, but she eventually calmed down some. I still think she is a nutcase some times though. For example, I sent my parents a card for grandparents day that has pictures of the kids and she told me she had to take it down because every time she looked at it she cried. 
I understand being sappy over your grandkids that you only see a few times a year due to distance, but that's a bit extreme.
I understand being sappy over your grandkids that you only see a few times a year due to distance, but that's a bit extreme. 
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
10 Sep 12
Sounds like your mom is having a rough time with menopuase! Yikes! I am fifty and I started menopause like 3 years ago. I mosly have hot flashes and some night sweats. Thought I would be over them by now but I am still dealing with menopuase! I was like around 10 when my mom started to go through menopause. I don't remember this happening but my sister,who is older,said she had it bad! Like your mom! Glad I never gottan that bad!
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
10 Sep 12
This must be tough for all of you... Although you probably need to avoid arguments with her as she can't control her emotions, she should do something to make this better. It's not a shame to ask a doctor or pharmacist if she can take some medication for menopause or even a natural supplement, before she drives all of you and herself crazy. It's one thing that you try to be patient with your mom, but she should also be ready to seek help dealing with the mood swings.
@blossom77 (22)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Sometimes it hurts to see that our loved one turns to become hard to get along with. However,it is not also good to let her believe that she is right and the rest of you are wrong. The loss of right sense of what is right or wrong has to be addressed and this I know is not easy to start with, but it has to be done. Doing something is better than doing nothing at all.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Sep 12
Hi Ricki thats odd when I went through menopause outside of hot flashes my hubby and son s aid I had mellowed as when I had
my periods I was often like a fem ale bear with a thorn in its paw and yelled at everyone for no reason,but i wasn't losing it when I was in menopause at all.but it does hit other women completely different. However why fuss over your breaking your glasses as y our
dad said you pay for them and thats enough already. Your poor mom she needs to get some medication before she drives you all
nuts.,Just keep calm and may be she will mellow too like I did.
So your sister recognized it too f or menopause,. she might need
therapy to ease herself outof the screaming meemies,.
