Long distance relationships..would u?
By B0rn2bshort
@B0rn2bshort (95)
United States
September 10, 2012 9:28am CST
Long distance relationship. Have you ever been in one? If you had to would you and ur partner agree to begin a long distance relationship or would u split? Whether is it because of work, or the other gong off to college. What would you do In a situation like that and what are some things to keep n mnd if you plan to head down that road.
10 responses
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
10 Sep 12
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years and this May our relationship went long distance because he went in the army. For 10 weeks we couldn't talk because he was in basic training. I went out to where he was and watched him graduate and spent time with him while he had leave for a few days. That was in the end of July and I haven't seen him since because he's been in training for his job in the army. Luckily he can talk on the phone at night and text in the mornings as well. He comes home at the end of this month and gets to be here for 20 days before he gets deployed to Korea for a year.
I'm devastated that he'll be so far away but he keeps saying things will be ok and we'll be together once he's done. I guess I don't mind the distance just because I was with him for 2 years before he left. But if I had the choice, I wouldn't choose to be with someone that's so far away. Since I've been with him for so long I want to stay with him and make it through this.
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@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
10 Sep 12
I actually went away to school and my bf stayed home. After a semester I came back because I hated being so far apart from him. Lol and now look at us..soon he's going to Korea and I'll barely see him. Trust me, there have been a few times when all I thought I wanted was to end things with him because I'm in so much pain here without him. But when I really think about it I'd probably be even more miserable not being in a relationship with him. We've already been through so much together that I wouldn't want to give him up. I know he wants to stay together though and he's even thinking of proposing to me when he comes down at the end of the month. It'll be hard for us, but I think things will work out and in 3 years he'll be out of the army and we can be together.
I'm glad that you and your boyfriend seem to be making it while he's at school. Talking all the time and skyping really helps a lot. When I went away to school I would talk to my boyfriend for hours a day whenever we could. Even now that he's in a different state, being able to talk to him or get a text from him really relaxes me and calms me down. Don't worry, the time will go by fast for you guys and you can see him on holidays :) Just keep talking! If you guys talk everyday about everything, it feels like neither of you are missing out on each other's lives. Trust me, I know how you feel, I've been there with the whole college thing and I'm there again now that he's in the army. If you guys really love each other and have true feelings, then you can make it for sure :)
@B0rn2bshort (95)
• United States
10 Sep 12
I truly understand where you're coming from. My bf and I have been together for like a yr and 6 months and last month he left for college which will be for 4 yrs. so we'll only get to see each other on holidays and whethe year has ended. I was a bit skeptical at first if it will work because he wasn't one to communicate. It seems to have been getting better. We talk allay for hours, skype when we can and just enjoy what talkin we can do. Its nt easy when your with someone so long and the person having to leave. It's like you cant easily say to end the relationship because you've had so much time and emotions invested in that one person and breaking it off could hut you more than you know. Sometimes the best thing to do is try and work on it and make it through! I got my fingers crossed that you guys get through the distance :D
@B0rn2bshort (95)
• United States
11 Sep 12
Thanks. I totally get you. Even when i try to forget him or try to cut off contact with him i only last day. I guess he may be the one? Too soon to say ? I dunno. But me trying to be without him just makes me miserable and unhappy. Im counting down the days that he comes home in december. Im sure i'll hold on to him and he'll ave to pry me off lol :D
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
hi Born,
Well having a Long distance relationship is not easy it was never been easy
But if they both can handle this kind of relationship they can give a try besides it's all about being faithful and loving each other honestly
welcome to mylot
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@B0rn2bshort (95)
• United States
10 Sep 12
Hey thanks. You're right. I think these kind of relationships won't survive is there isn't any trust, honesty and faithfulness(key) and of course being open and not being afraid to say what's on the others mind.
@crimsonose80 (283)
• Canada
12 Sep 12
Everybody has a shot a making long distance relationships work..As long the both parties are willing to put effort into it...Also, It all depends on the situation and relationships..
@crimsonose80 (283)
• Canada
12 Sep 12
The key things to having a healthy relationship are Trust, Honesty, Faith, Love,...
Love conquers everything...
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@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
12 Sep 12
Hello B0rn2bshort ,
yes, been in two long distance relationships. The first one did not last. Maybe because we were both teenagers at the time and went to different colleges.I had no problem with the long distance but he wanted to explore other relationships and I of course was heartbroken.So the first experience did not go my way.
The second long distance relationship turned out better. I of course was a little apprehensive at first but we made that work.We both knew it was only going to be temporary separation. Luckily he was able to get 2 days off together during the week and spend his days off at my place.He got Tuesday and Wednesday off so he got to my place after work Monday late afternoon and went back to work Thursday morning.We treated it like he worked a long weekend before he got to come home.That's how I survived the separation. That was 3 years ago.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
10 Sep 12
I would start a long distance relationship if I really care for that person. as long as their is love than there isn't any reason why it wouldn't resist. I love a guy and we're miles apart from each other. I wouldn't mind still starting a long distance relationship. we'll see what happens. it's true that it's harder to mantain it but it's not impossible
@B0rn2bshort (95)
• United States
10 Sep 12
That's true. So with that said,you would knowing start a relationship with a guy right now, a guy you meet today, whether it is through sociL media or you bum into him at a event and he's just in tosn forthe weekend, who is thousands of miles away from you. Would you do that?
@melissa14344 (211)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Hello!
Yes, somehow I experienced that kind of long distance relationship. THough ours only lasted 2 weeks. He is based in Hawaii and I am in the Philippines. He is older than me and we started our relationship prematurely. It had been a difficult one for me because he was my first bf at the age of 24 y/o. He didn't communicate with me while I am the one doing all the work so that we can have a communication. When I realized that, I decided to end our relationship because I saw that if I am not going to end it, It will be more difficult for me. I also felt he doesn't truly love me. He courted me only because he needed a girl to marry for the sake of companionship. Love is not a vital thing for him. Thank GOd I got over it and now I am truly in love and being loved by my man. :D
@B0rn2bshort (95)
• United States
10 Sep 12
I'm glad you ended it before it was too late. The effort has to be made on both sides in order for the relationship to work. He seemed like he was not up to it or maybe he's not god and communicating. Well, whatever the problem may have been its over. Happy you found someone who you loves and Loveland shares the same feeling for you. Wish you'll the best!
@chloe_19 (19)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
hi born..
my previous relationship is a long distance relationship we lasted for four years.but we didn't last b'coz he find a girl their.. for the second time i am engage into a long distance relationship..after our marriage and got pregnant my husband decided to work at Saudi Arabia because he wanted to provide a better future to our daughter.
at first it was hard but if you think of the future of your family their is no called long distance..
I guess with a constant communication between the two of you there is nothing hard.. being honest and true to the relationship, i might say it will work no matter how far you both are..
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
11 Sep 12
For i haven't been a long distance relationship coz i think this is so hard for me, i got a friend who is having this and maybe it's tired but i think she is enjoying this, so i'm happy for her and hope she gets the real happiness she wants, overall it depends on different relationships.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
Hi B0rn2bshort, i had been experienced a long distance relationship with my ex boyfriend and it did not work, he cheated on me and betrayed me while i am working far away from him for just a few months. I admit when I am living far away from him it made me realized that i have a dream and i need to achieve it no matter what. Staying beside him will never give a chance to see the picture of life and the beauty of my future. When our long distance relationship didn't work i felt like i am free like a birds who can spread her wings and fly to her dreams. Now I am happy with my life and i am lucky that I found a great man like my husband. Have a good day!![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@crimsonose80 (283)
• Canada
12 Sep 12
I've experience some kind of long distance relationship..When my husband went away for work..we talked to each other every night to let me know that he thought of me..It was very hard because i couldn't be with him but at least he lets me know that he loves me when i can't be with him...
The answer to your question is yes...
@Ivy_Bubbles (169)
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11 Sep 12
For some people long distance relationship worked. But mine didn't. I attributed it to the fact that we haven't built a strong foundation in our relationship when he left. At first I went for it since I want to know if it could work so i took the risk. I was devastated nonetheless when our relationship ended but i didn't regret that I took the risk.
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