Trying to help my girl bestfriend

She was confused with her mess and after chatting with you, she found out a decision... many times i am in the same situation...when i don't know what to do or make a decision, i just chat with friends even though it doesnt related to my problems but i could make a decision after that...it is a reason why we need friends around...

Most of the time, those who come to us for advise doesn't really want an advise to begin with. They already know what to do, they have already favored a decision, but they just want someone to talk to and someone to listen to them. More often than not, being a good listener is far more helpful than handing out an advise.

Well sometimes people just need to talk with someone to unload the feelings out to feel well again. Good for her she had you to talked with and ask for advice. It was a nice and simple advice you gave him and you were right to tell her to decide on her own since she is grownup already. You may hear her problem out but I guess it is best that you avoided giving her advice which may at times be detrimental to her instead of helping her.

Hello there Arvintot. I think you are such a great and supportive best friend. It's good to know that you would always be there for your girl bestfriend. That's what bestfriends are for. Maybe, she just asked you if you were with your girlfriend so she could freely express what she wanted to say when you are just alone. I think some of the girlfriends sometimes get jealous to their guys' girl bestfriend. Others would really think that they should have their boyfriends' full attention. Maybe your bestfriend just asked you if you were with your gf so she might not get jealous if ever you would text or console her. It's just good your bestfriend was able to solve her problem by herself. I think what you told her was right. She should be the one who should decide on what to do because that's her life and she's already a big girl. I think she also listened to what you told her. She was also overwhelmed and thankful because you were able to call, talk, and listen to her. It's good to know that she's happy again. You were one of the contributing factors why she felt that way again. Another thing maybe was when she was finally able to solve her problems with her boyfriend. Just keep on being a good friend to your bestfriend and of course, with all of your other friends. Always take time to listen to them so they would also do the same thing when you would need someone to listen to you too. Happy myLotting. :)

Giving a shoulder to cry on for a friend surely helps ease whatever problem that friend is having. Sometimes just knowing that there is a friend who is more than willing to listen is enough to give a smile. She sure is lucky to have a friend like you.

Maybe she just needs someone to listen to her and comfort her. But when she asked you "if you were with your girlfriend" it seems that she likes you. Maybe she has feelings for you and wanted the two of you together. She's crying because she cant tell it to you straight and you have a girlfriend. Maybe just maybe.

It isn't always necessary to offer a solution when a friend has a problem. Just the fact that you were available when she needed someone to talk to was enough to make a difference. She needed comfort from someone she trusted and you called immediately in her time of need. It doesn't matter that you didn't know what to say to her problems.

I didn´t understand much, but on the whole, you were nice to call your friend. Sometimes people have problem to solve, know that noone can help, but yet need to be cuddled by someone who cares.

why iam thingking that she must loves you.. don`t you feel her feeling to you?? it`s common question when someone attract to the people which have another girlfriend or boyfriend

Is she having problems in love life? That is what I can think that is why she is being depressed. Yeah there are times that some people are not asking advise but they just want to talk about the situation and she just want you to listen. There are times when you tend to advise especially if it will contradict to the topic that she is talking about most likely it is will pisses her off. I mean that thing happened to me that makes me think my cousin is not a good listener that she just want to prove herself or project something about herself. I don't like it when she is attempting to correct me because I know she is not credible enough.

Sounds like you have a good friendship an letting her make the final choice was the right thing to do that way she can't come back at you and blame you if things go wrong. Hope you have a long and loving friendship.

You know sometimes when we call on our friends for help...we really just need a shoulder to cry on...just someone to listen to our side of an issue... Obvious whatever you offered wasn't so bad, she was doing ok a couple of days later..

Glad you'll be always there for her. Someday she will do the same for you, she'll be there when you need her. Friends there to share the good times and bad times. That's what friends are for.