Unexpected answer from my husband

In the first place, you had no right to ask such a question of him unless you had good reason to suppose that he was being unfaithful. That you even thought to ask it shows (to him) that you don't trust him fully. If his answer made you feel bad, then it is because your question made him feel bad! If the question were put to me by my significant other, I would simply say: "My answer to that question is the same as yours would be if I had asked it of you."

Not all men know the right things to say simply because they're not just that good with words and they're not that romantic. Trust me, I'm married to one, lol! I have friends whose husbands tell them that they will die without them by their sides. Well, until now they're still alive, and doing well in the arms of their mistresses. Not all men who say what you expect them to say are true to their word, and not all men who doesn't know the right thing to say are the ones who will hurt you for real. If his words still bother you, try to open this up to him but do not force him to say what you want to hear. Maybe he's really not the romantic type, just a guess. Anyway, you know him better than I do.

If you ask unwanted questions you will get unwanted answers. Do you need to make such questions to be assured of his love for you? It was uncalled for. He is just teasing you and it is not serious. .If it is serious, then you will have to do some self-analysis and try and curb your problem.

My partner always tells me "do not ask me things that will cause you pain if you don't get the answer you needed to hear". I think it's just him being honest. Guys are not really sensitive to their words and they're more logical than romantic when they are given questions such as these. This is what my partner calls "damn if you do, damn if you don't questions". Cut some slack, don't think too much about it. It was just out of instinct. Perhaps he was tired and you asked him a question and that was the first thing that popped in his mind. But rest assured that things would be different once he would be in that situation. Don't be anxious or stressed out about something that hasn't happened yet. Enjoy the "Now" when he's still sleeping beside you and you are his wife. Other things are not important for now. Enjoy today. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

I just looked at your activity page and profile. It's no wonder! You're having some insecurity issues with is pretty normal considering you're dealing with PCOS which can wreck havoc with hormones. If your husband knows you at all he should have said something to make you feel secure, not more insecure. Of course some men are just not that tuned into their wives inner workings. It's said women are a mystery. Actually we're just a hormonal mess sometimes. You must feel like you have a fairly good marriage for you to be so shocked by his answer. Even so, you were feeling insecure and he gave the wrong answer. They can't read our minds you know. When you're feeling a little more like your self you need to sit him down and let him know that you were just throwing out a nonsense question, but that his answer has cut you to your heart. Hopefully he'll reassure you that all is well. If he still says he doesn't know that he might leave for another woman. Well thank God you found out now because you sure don't need to be having any babies with someone who isn't committed to the relationship and the children that may come out of it. You're not the first woman to blurt out a question shadowed in insecurity and you wont be the last.

I understand what you're feeling though..No right woman wants to hear that kind of answer..I would feel very sad also.. I'm sure it was just a non-sense answer anyway..He probably was shocked at the question.. Men have a hard time how to truly express their truefeelings...They don't always say the rights things..If it truly bothers you, then you say, your answer really bothered me and Im wondering if you mean anything by it..Marriage is about communication if he doesn't know whats bothering you then it hard to move on from something that needs to be resolved.. If he truly loves you then you have nothing to worry about..As long as you won't give him a reason to think about his love for you twice.. Vanessa

hi richbored welcome to mylot look most guys hate nonsense questions and that could be his knee jerk response not realizing what he said'was unexpected a nd hurtful too. I think at times men should be given a course before marriage in how we women think so that they have some sensitivity to us when we come up with some a bit nonsense.Like I would have expected, you expected him to say that will never happen.,.but we are women and we are more sensitive to others and expect men to be like us.wishmore of them were. I sort of think he was not really listening to you and just grabbed some words and responded.I really do not think you have anything to worry about at all.

Perhaps, your husband was not seriously say that. Or also, your husband does not like, you ask it, and ultimately, your husband replied with an answer that you do not like.

Maybe your husband just want to know what will be reaction that is why he answered that way. Sometimes men doesn't want to hear nonsense question and don't want to debate as well. Don't feel bad- I am sure your husband just want you to feel what he feels. He was hurt by the question- now you know what he feels and how it feels when asked a nonsense question.

hi rich, You said it was a non sense question so your husband answered you with a non sense answer,they say if you don't want to get hurt don't expect. Maybe your husband don't want to lie to you cause he even not sure if there will be no other woman in the future unless you will give him a reason to have one or more. If that time will come you will not curse him saying that he will not have an another woman, just my opinion. welcome to mylot

Do not always expect that he will find some one else. BUT also be ready just in case he does find some one else. But remember he may not tell you until it is to late and you really dont know what to do.He may not even tell you. Mine didnt