A very good friend is getting married...and I have gift problems,...
By KOSTAS499
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
Greece
September 13, 2012 7:38am CST
I want to make a gift for my friends who are getting married, but my project is delayed so I won't make it on time.
Should I tell them that I will give it to them later? Does it sound stupid?
They will understand, but....
Should I buy something just to make it on time?
4 people like this
17 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
13 Sep 12
You didn't say how much time you have, but when my friend was getting married, I found this site: http://www.personalizationmall.com/Personalized-Photo-Albums-Love-Memories-p11273.prod?sdest=dept&sdestid=1145&storeid=7&categoryid=1145 I got her a monogram picture frame in colors that match her wedding colors and she absolutely loved it. If I remember correctly, they shipped it pretty quick, but I don't know how quick you will get it in your country..
Or if you really want to give them your project, and since you did say you are very good friends, than I think a nice card with a note explaining their gift is delayed would be acceptable.
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
Marriage is on Sunday, so no time. But I got the OK from them.
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
It is good to receive gifts on the occasion itself, however if you really cannot do it on the occassion it would still be appreciated when you can give it on late, i know they will understand, it's just a gift you know it will not cost you your friendship if you give it late... There's a saying that goes better late than never..
1 person likes this
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
Isn't it kind of surprise ahen you give it after all the others did?
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
They are your friends so they will understand why it would be late.
On the second thought, being late in giving a gift has its advantage. You can ask them what were those that were given to them. And you can give them an item they need which wasn't amongst those given to them as gifts.
1 person likes this
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
13 Sep 12
They will sure understand.
It will be a handmade gift, so nothing similar to it.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
13 Sep 12
Yeah they are your friends and they will surely understand your delay and as far as you wish well for them and love them with your heart. I think you must wait and give them late and yes you can ask them what they have not got. In weddings many gifts and repeated and I am sure they can tell you what they lack. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
1 person likes this
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
14 Sep 12
Wait? I guess I will. Besides it will be a nice surprise, since all gifts are already at their home.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
13 Sep 12
Hi,
If I were you, I will buy something just to make it on time. I feel giving the gift after the wedding is meaningless, though the couple may understand it. Just my opinion, have a good time!
1 person likes this
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
13 Sep 12
I decided some time ago to make gifts, it's more personal.
I will be late....but....
@kongno (431)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
just recently we gave a gift to my brother in law's wedding week later, they still appreciated it and they understood what is our reason of giving them gift later than it's supposed to,...in my opinion it is always better on time than late, but it is also better late than never....
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
14 Sep 12
I will tell them what I have in mind and they will like it. Late or not...
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@leeloo (1492)
• Portugal
13 Sep 12
Since you intend on making something for your friends, I am sure they will understand. If you don't want to go to the wedding empty handed you could buy something small that matches what your making for them. I know that is like giving two gifts so it may seem unnecessary. Another option is make a photo album or a video of what you are making - a small one and show where you are in the making of it leaving the last images open to show that it is not complete. That way they have the gift you will give them and a how it was made.
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@leeloo (1492)
• Portugal
17 Sep 12
Well it always the thought that counts, is there some ritual associated with the custom, like placing the shoes on a special cushion, or wrapping then in a type of cloth? That could be a gift, buying something that it is associated to your role and then say that it is just a token, your real gift will be given later as it is late? If they are really good friends, which they seem to be, they will understand.
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
I feel a little stupid as I will have an importamnt role in the wedding, but I am late to deliver the gift.
I will be handing over the bride's shoes(local custom).
![](/Content/images/ajax-loader.gif)
@GemmaR (8517)
•
13 Sep 12
I don't think that you have to spend a lot of money on gifts to make them special. If you have known them for a long time then you could always get some photos together of the two of them before they knew each other and then of their relationship together and put them into an album. That wouldn't cost very much money at all, but it would probably mean a lot more than anything else that you could give to them. A friend of mine has just done this for my birthday because he is having money issues, but I will say that it was my absolute favourite present of all.
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
I know them for 4 years and we became very good friends.
I believe in handmade gifts, money issues or not.
Look at the photos in my profile and you will see a gift I made for a friend.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2625480.aspx
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
14 Sep 12
What I would do is take something small along with a note inside letting them know that the main gift is still coming. That will give them something to look forward to and will also let them know that you did actually put in some effort. ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
Two more suggested the same in Mylot.
It is a great idea so that I am not "emty handed".
Next time I will know what to do if I'm late.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
15 Sep 12
Well I did say buy a little something so that you feel like
you have something on the day...But remember weddings cost
and everyone can use money...thts why the bride have a money
bag she walks around with so she collects her envelopes...
It was just a suggestion...
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
Oh yes, a lot of money in weddings.
In Greece we buy gifts or leave money at a store the couple chooses.
Thanks for the suggestion, no intention of hurting your feelings or offending you.
@krupar5 (287)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Good Day,
I am not certain if it is I or not, but it seems you are MAKING them a gift? Reading the posts it seems you are going to be purchasing one for them.Either way I think your friend will be fine with you giving the gift later. I would give them a card and perhaps a note that says you are making them their gift and it is not ready yet.If, indeed you are making them a gift, then it really will be specail and I think they will enjoy it when they receive it. Personal gifts are unique and to me more special and worth waitng for.
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
I will make something I have in mind. As I wrote to another response, I never thought of a card. Wish I had...
@saraaaa01 (33)
• Morocco
13 Sep 12
for me you should buy something to make it on time,but if your friend is a good one,could understand your situation..
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
He did. And he prefers a handmade gift, as he is already changing gifts that they do not want.
@kemak28 (724)
• United States
13 Sep 12
I'm sure they would like whatever it is you are doing for them and it will mean a lot to them when they get it... more thoughtful then just giving them money or something else just because you need a gift. They are your friends and they will understand. Just give them a card and write in there that you are working on something special and you are sorry that it is delayed. You could always get a small gift with the card explaining and then give them your real gift later.
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
Oh, great idea....the card. Never thought of it. Too late though.
Too bad.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
13 Sep 12
Well, I never had time to have to do a wedding gift for someone, because my relatives to those who were married, the gift we have always, until now thought of my parents.
Putting myself in your shoes, however, I think you should have a good reason that prevents you from doing them the gift in the established time. In my opinion, when the gifts of other people are there already and all your missing, well, let me tell you no go out very well.
This, however, is the result of my personal opinion.
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
13 Sep 12
I think you should wait and give the right gift when you are ready! Your friend will understand, its better to buy something that represents you even if it is a bit late, than get something very common that won't be what you really wanted to take for the couple! I think that with today's economy everyone has problems and don't worry, I don't think you ll look stupid! You ll just be honest!
@rubyroy (824)
• India
13 Sep 12
Give therm a gift coupon,so that they can buy something of their choice,rather than giving them something which they do not want.If they are special,give them something that will make them remember you always.A small oriental rug will be the best.
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
15 Sep 12
I never liked coupons as gifts. I like personal and useful items.
![](/Content/images/loading.gif)