"You get Orange Juice?"" Yes"".Well "'Slamglass down"where's mine?"
@Hatley (163776)
Garden Grove, California
September 13, 2012 10:29am CST
Okay. the beverage girl bypassed my table mate's glass. I called to her but she was already half way cross the dining room.As usual my table mate refused to show up til half pass 7 am so missed the cereal girl and the beverage girl. now cereal girl alwa ys dishes up ceral fot all who have place settings irregardless of whether they are there or not.but this beverage girl is new on the beverage duty and hurries way too much.I usually intercede for my table mate in re.'to cereal and beveage.but honestly I called to her and she either did not hear me or just refused to tu rn back,.Okay so he c ame late as usu al. Asked me if I had got ju ice.I nodded then he screamed at
me"Wheres mine? well?" I just said" shes new on this." My gosh he was shaking with anger.And still trembling when I left. And I felt
this why the devil cannot he getup and come down ten minutes earlier?
why make me his guardian all the time? your take fellow mylotters.
I have interceded for this man countless times and he does not even
know it. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
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22 responses
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Then stop, let him get it himself or get there on time...
at my mother's place, the drinks are already on the table when they open up the room to start eating, that does mean that sometimes some things get warm that should be cold, but they do bring coffee after the residents are there.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi elicbxn yes its getting to me when h e acted like that. I did not
apprciate his yelling,.He is lucky the juice is alway iced and really cold also I think maybe I will suggest he is not in a restaurant. I do not mind helping some one but not if he is gooing
to scream at me.he needs to act like an adu lt and get there earlier.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Oh wow, temper, temper...Maybe this was a well-learned lesson, that he should make it to breakfast on time or miss out...He didn't take it out on you though, did he???
He better not have, it isn't your responsibility, it's his...
He better not have, it isn't your responsibility, it's his...2 people like this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi carm yes that well he yelled was at me, directed at me
and i just said,"the beverage girl is new"I did not try to
explain that I had called to her but she either did not hear'me or chose to disregard me, He really got to me thistime. I wanted to
reach over and whack him one. He has the same right to come earlier as I do.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Well I hope you tell him off Hatley, don't let him yell at you..You need me to talk to him???
I'll tell him to leave you alone and to quit yelling at my friend!!!
I'll tell him to leave you alone and to quit yelling at my friend!!!2 people like this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
at lunch the bozo complained that I had been served and they did not leave him a plate. I this time told him I came on time and thats why I had had time to eat myinner before he came in and if
he wanted to be served come twenty to twenty five minutes earlier Steve. okay so he turns red and says,get this" Oh well the point is as long as w e get served its all okay" No you moron I wanted to say its not okay.You snap at me and at the servers because you refuse to come down earlier.
refuse to come down earlier.2 people like this
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Good grief, a grown man who can't get up on time then blames everyone else when he misses out?! Stop trying to take care of him and eventually he'll realize he's responsible if he wants his breakfast. You are too soft and try to do too much for people..that's not really a problem unless, like this dufus, they don't appreciate it!
Next time, don't ask for cereal or juice for him when he's not there. And when he gets mad, tell him it's his responsibility to get up and arrive on time. If you can do it, so can he!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
thanks dragon54u yuo are so right as he does not even appreciate it so next time let him come in on time. he is the most stubborn person I have met.i have let my pity for his hump back overcome good
'reasoning.,the poor man has arthritis that bent his back over so he walks with his face down, he never smiles and seldom laughs but we have been talking more as there are now only us two the other two mates are in the hospital,now i too am handicapped with one leg in a brace and use a walker but I can manage to get down t o meals on time. so can he.,
. so can he.,
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi dawn I did tell him best I could as I returned his anger with my own.I toned it down"the beverage girl is new Steve" I should have
said"fifteen minutes ago yes I was served orange juice and if you
had been here she would have given you a glass of OJ too."
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
dear Hatley,
Yah, why shouldn't he wake up earlier like the others.
I wonder what will be his reaction if he found nothing on the table (nothing for him)
and everyone is feasting 
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi jaiho that w as what I w as wondering. now somehow he has the idea that they do not start serving til half past but since hes been here even longer than I ,by now he should know they start with the cereal and the juice when most people get down there so we have learned to come down at 7 oclock or a few minutes after.He is so set in his ideas its hard to get him to realize that those of us who come at 7 do get served the cereal and the beverages. 
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@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
13 Sep 12
That kind of behavior is not accepted: he thought you are in charge of the juice and that you need to do whatever it takes to make sure juice would be for him too, even if he misses the beverage girl.
Some people get things for granted and when something is missing , they don't understand what's wrong. They think someone did it on purpose.
Steve must understand that even if there was always a glass of juice ready , it doesn't mean that he can always expect it to wait there for him.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi stringer and ajithlal what angered me is the girl c ame past with ou r bre akfast plates and he told her he did not gethis juice so she took his glass and came back not over six minutes later w ith his orange juice and he takes one sip; he shoves her " this is not orange juice" and she snips back" yes it is.sir." so he drinks some and then finishes it. not even apologzing for shoving her. grrrrrrrr.at our age giving in to such temper could well cause a stroke. the idiot.
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@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
13 Sep 12
The girl was also rude or at least insensitive for not thinking maybe you tried to call her. If I was that girl I would ask the guests whether someone is missing and would come later so I can leave him a juice glass just in case...
Sometimes, it happens to me when I try to communicate with a girl and she doesn't notice...It's like she doesn't have patience to talk or see what I want.
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
13 Sep 12
Hatley, you're enabling him by continually interceding on his behalf. Would you consider him a life partner, a friend, or something of that ilk? If you do, then by all means, continue to help him out but perhaps remind him that you're doing HIM a favor; but if he's merely your table mate, and he continues to scream at you because of his issues, stop helping him. Tell him that you're done, that you're sick of being yelled at because of his inability to be punctual. He sounds as if perhaps this is how he's always behaved. I'd stop babying him, and let him know that you are done with his childish behavior!
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
14 Sep 12
My advice is to just go on about your business and try not to worry about him. At least he's realizing why his food isn't there, but he really owes you an apology, to say the least.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi scropiobabes no indeed he is only a table mate and you are right as its gone too far.he started out growling when he came in late just now.he said are you already eaten? then I told him I do not care what you were told about eleven thirty they serve usually at 11 twenty and so I get here before then. thats why I always get my plate and my drinks as I come on time. He looked really shocked and meekly said" well as long as we get served thats the main thing,."
I still wanted to haul off and shake him hard, he does not get the message.long ago they put out a paper saying meals are served at half past but now the servers do not wait if the food is dished out and most of us are there, they do start serving so
I come on the hour and always get my food and drinks.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
22 Sep 12
Just ask to be moved Patsy dear. He is a bit of an old ogre and not about to change. They should put him at a small table, by himself, in a corner, with his back to the room, until he can come at the right time or else behave in a proper manner.
I have found in my limited experience and just from people watching that many older seniors tend to behave like children and so you treat them like children. If you think about it, it sort of makes sense...they are reverting to childhood.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 Sep 12
It's beginning to get hot here too Hatley but worse than the heat, the blow flies are here early and they are ginormous!! They're about the size of a small helicopter and as loud. (exaggeration for emphasis)
We've also been experiencing high winds...very noisy and strong. Today is one of those days. Luckily, I was able to get my outside chores done early and now I can hide indoors out of the wind..
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Sep 12
the last few days here they have been santa ana winds dry and hot coming off the mo untains and gale force u p there on the freeways for trucks and campers but slow down out here on level
ground.back inhmyhome stay we used to get those huge blow flies'and what they called small deer flies that bite so mean and hurt my'gosh; at least the big blow flies do not bite.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Sep 12
hi mstickle I am seriously thinking about it but right now no empty spaces today hes again complaining about the heat and it was hot in there too.90 degrees with the fans all going no air conditioning in the dinning room shame. I am getting so sick of being too hot and too sticky lol lol.
but it will pass and grumbling never
changed anything.
but it will pass and grumbling never
changed anything.1 person likes this
@BarBaraPrz (47279)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Sep 12
He's being childish, but you're not his mommy. Don't let him make you feel guilty.
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@BarBaraPrz (47279)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Sep 12
Sounds like a real winner.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 12
hi barbaraprz yes doesn't he? He must have been a tough competitor
in the real estate business. hope he kept his temper better then.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
13 Sep 12
What a jerk! 
I think I would have told him he has to start coming down earlier and it's not up to you to make sure he gets his morning beverage! Do you HAVE to sit with this person? If you can, change tables so you can sit with someone who has a decent manner..AND MANNERS.
I think I would have told him he has to start coming down earlier and it's not up to you to make sure he gets his morning beverage! Do you HAVE to sit with this person? If you can, change tables so you can sit with someone who has a decent manner..AND MANNERS. 1 person likes this
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
13 Sep 12
"Really he does not even know that almost all the time i intercede for him so he has his juice and cereal waiting for'him when he deigns to come down."
You need to tell him this Hatley, then maybe he'll shut up and apologize for how he spoke to you this morning.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi Kashmeresmycat.Oh I s uppose if I protested to the admins theyh could find me a new table but most of the time hes okay just when he is left out. Really he does not even know that almost all the time i intercede for him so he has his juice and cereal waiting for'him when he deigns to come down. this morning somehjow it
got to me and I swear I had to bite my tongue to keepfrom gettng angry back at him. I should have two more table mates but both are in the hospital.they are lovely people.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Sep 12
You have been so kind and this person has abused your kindness by making you in charge of him getting breakfast.This is too much Hatley. We all look out for each other but you are not his guardian or servant. I would tell him quietly that you have always ensured in the past that he received his breakfast but that he is now a big boy, so in the future he should take the resoonsibility of being on time to receive his own breakfast. Totally ridiculous. I am angry because he was unkind to you.Mny blessings
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
thanks Cynthiann maybe I should tell him that time after time I tell the beverage girl and the cereal girl to leave him his juice and his cereal. but I had never had him yell at me like that before. If this happens again I am going to yell back{"dammn come down here on time steve.its up to you,." Also he needs to know if I had not interceded he wou ld never have got cereal or orange juice.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi I do not get angry as a ru le either b ut he screamed "Well
at me like any angry-husband and damn hes just a table mate
and nothing more.From now on if they wish to leave his food and drink for him fine,if not fine too as he will learn to get his keaster down here on time after that.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Sep 12
Precisely. He wouldnot have received any brekfast if you had not been there. He does not employ you but you were being very kind to him by assisting him and thinking ofhis welfare. You have the option of just pointing this out to him quietly and then leaving him be. I hate men who shout. How dare he behave like that to you. This has made me so angry and I rarely get angry
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Sounds like this guy feels entitled. It is not your responsibility to see to it that he is served. Tell him that from now on if he wants his breakfast he should be at the table on time like everyone else. You have enough to worry about taking care of yourself.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Sep 12
hi savak lol I did tell him that and hes actu ally been coming fifteen minutes earlier., and hes quit making nasty comments to me
too. i guess he knows now I will not take that from him.He has to take care of himself the big baby.he is really rude to the care
givers and I have a hunch he is getting their wrath back at him. they make him wait for everything if he is late. lol
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Sep 12
You know savak just because they do not bring something to him in five seconds does not give him the right to be insulting to the care givers thats for sure. they are human and are not there to be fumed at. if one of us gets ill or falls care givers are right there to help us.so it pays to be kind to them as one day one of us might
really need[ their help.
their help.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
hi hatley,
What a manner? Duh! they said Early bird catches a worm
Next time ignore him he doesn't deserve your attention at all with this kind of manner
happy mylotting
Next time ignore him he doesn't deserve your attention at all with this kind of manner
happy mylotting
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi bhabycatch yes what manners he was still shaking when I left.I got so angry at him all I could do was stifle what I felt like'
saying and said shakily" the beverage is new Steve." I wanted
to yell "come down here fifteen minutes earlier and speak for
yourself"
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
or next time you give him a left over juice
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@ajk111 (2495)
•
13 Sep 12
Wow! what an inconsiderate bloke! I hope you are not to shaken by his rudeness.
I think we all know a blockhead like him who throws back your kindness and that can be upsetting. The only time someone really needs to worry is if they say they have never come across someone like this because that probably means that they are the blockhead!
Hateley, what are you going to do tomorrow? will you still get his juice if he is late?
I hope you are well and enjoy some mylotting to take your mind of it.
Hateley, what are you going to do tomorrow? will you still get his juice if he is late?
I hope you are well and enjoy some mylotting to take your mind of it.@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi ajk he c ame in just now to lunch 25 minute late and grumps" you have already eaten its just half past?" I told him"steve they do
not ususlly now wait til half past,so if you want to get servedcome twenty to twenty fives minutes earlier.," He turned red and sadi , of all things,"well now is it not the main thing that we all get'served?" I wanted to yell at him that he had not got
'the point at all.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
I do but I do not think he really got my point or is just
plain moronioc or stupid. lol
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
13 Sep 12
I think some people does not even take a glass of water from the place they sit and needs someone to do it. I always wonder why some people does not bother to do their jobs and are lazy. I have seen some people are lazy at work also and there are even some people who does not go to work and simply stay in the house doing nothing.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi ajithlal she was to blame too as the older ones do leave juice and coffee for everyone regardless of whether they are there yet or not but he still should get there earlier so he could ask for his beverage for himself.sure they are there to wait pm us but if we are there when they come it makes it good for all concernded.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
darn my fingers moved off the right keys pm was supposed to be on
as in sure they are there to wait on us but if we are then when
the come it makes it good for all concerned.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 12
hi AmbiePam I think he is a very stubborn man used to having his own way.He worked he told me in selling huge apartment complexes, b businesses etc in real estate and said he were very shrewd.I am sure he thinks his a bit better than others.my gosh fromthe time he threw a hissy fit about not having juice til the thime he got it was only like five to ten min utes., why make an a,s,s out of yourself over that. I talked to him about coming much earlier but I did not make a dent in his thinking at all.
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
14 Sep 12
It's too bad that the place doesn't handle things a bit differently--open seating and more flexibility on meal times. No, your tablemate shouldn't take it out on you or the servers, but I can definitely see ways the facility could improve in order to avoid this sort of situation.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 12
yes wilson I do agree now the older servers know us pretty well and how some come down later so they just serve all the place settings at a table and we all know where we sit so thats okay.but the new ones seem bent to only serve those that are actually there. I doubt if they have even been trained.,
at a table and we all know where we sit so thats okay.but the new ones seem bent to only serve those that are actually there. I doubt if they have even been trained.,
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
oh wow he is one lazy person.. and demanding too. you should not put up to this my friend.. let him be and let him learn some lesson!
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 12
hi jazel__juan yep from now on the man is on his own and if He ever raises his voice to me again I will ask the front desk to reseat him to a different table.I do not have to take that from anyone.
to a different table.I do not have to take that from anyone.@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 12
hi saphy thanks for my third laugh of the day can I send him to you saphy lol lol hugs from hatley
@nishaagarwal (1)
•
14 Sep 12
Well,i was at home when this incident took place.. My mom served a glass of orange to each of us, brother and me. my brother is very smart, he always tries to have mine 2. So, after serving she went back to her bed room to do some work and I was doing my work so did not pay any attention to whatever was going on. My brother drank up his, I did not see. When I was done with my work, I looked up for something to have but I did not find anything except am empty glass. I was in hurry, I asked him "where's mine?". He said i had it. I scolded him and went to mom asking for something else to have. God!!!!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 12
hi nishaagarwal welcome to lot that was not a bit brotherly'
of your brother.I had gone out to get my money and came'back and'
my tablemate steve had eaten m y veggetables as he thought i was not coming back to eat. well since I bawled him out hes been pretty civil to me. a ii
