No Matter How Good Your Friends Are
By diannelee89
@diannelee89 (52)
Philippines
September 13, 2012 7:12pm CST
Your friends are going to hurt you once in a while no matter how good they are to you. As a friend, you are going to forgive them for that.
In the beginning, it was really difficult for me to find friends because whenever I get hurt or disappointed by them, I always moved on and never looked back. It was also difficult for me to define friendship because through my experiences with different people, I came across with those who were there for me when I was happy but dodged me when I was sad. I also encountered those who were there for me when I was sad but ignored me when I wanted to share my happiness with them.
I realized that there are no perfect friendships just as there are no perfect people. If you are a friend, then you must accept your friends as they are. They are going to hurt and disappoint you once in a while, but you are going to have to forgive them for that. Now, I became happier with my new set of friends. Though we bicker once in a while, we became closer because we accepted each other. We didn't have to break our friendships because of those disagreements that we could not get pass with.
6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Nov 12
That is true. There is no such thing as a perfect friend as their really nothing perfect in life. But you know what? The friends whom disappoints you or hurts you doesn't mean that they plan to make you feel bad. Sometimes our friends point to us the wrong things we have done and that they would only want us to make or do good decisions. We get hurt if they do not agree with us, right? But a true friend is not only the person that agrees with you all the time, but also the person that lets you see the truth when you are wrong.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
15 Sep 12
Thats a fact of life which we have to agree to. People will always have differences. It would be more with your friends since you know them closely. You dont start fight with a stranger, but you fight with your friends. The fights are not because you hate somebody , but because you care for them and so when there is a difference of opinion, you get emotional. But these are all resolved very soon. Friendship would be indeed boring without any fights.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Yes that is true. We maybe hurt by our friends sometimes same that they maybe also hurt by us. We accept our friends so with that we accept all that he/she has, good or bad. It only requires adjustment with each others' traits in order that friendship will prosper. We have to understand each others' misgivings and mistakes.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Sometimes the people we know that we assumes to be a friend are the one who stab us on our back.There are the one we trusted but still make gossips about us that are not true.Maybe due to envy or what so ever but they have no right to do it.
It is really true that it is so easy to earn friends yet true friends are hard to find.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
14 Sep 12
I agree. Actually in every relationship, one will tend to hurt the other unintentionally and sometimes even without them knowing. It's just a normal thing, a part of having a relationship. Of course it goes to say that this doesn't happen often, that's an entirely different case altogether.
I have experienced betrayal by friends and I have no other choice but to sever the friendship and move on. Sometimes, it is much better to part ways than to continue being friends when there's no more trust and we just spend our time trying to prove to one another that we've changed.
@Otanetix (508)
• United States
15 Sep 12
Yes, as human beings, we are flawed. Although we are imperfect, it's important to accept your friends despite their flaws and they should do the same for you. While friends may occasionally do some things bad to you, you may have also done things that may have not been to their liking as well. But I think it's more important about whether or not you can forgive them and if they are truly apologetic and vice-versa. Depending on the strength of one's bond to a friend, you should be able to know what type of things you can say or do that might offend them. With knowing the things that might offend them, you try to avoid those type of situations where they might feel offended. Although arguing is bad, you can learn more about your friends, which can even help strengthen your bonds; from making mistakes, we learn more about our friends and things that may possibly offend them.
