Unpredictable Woman's MIND....
By youiemohctar
@youiemohctar (30)
Philippines
September 14, 2012 4:05am CST
it was fair day afternoon in the school park with friends and friends alike.. i met a girl friend of my friend,she little older than me a nice beautiful lady. we chat and shares thoughts to each other and became close to each other.. as days pass by we became much closer as like drove her home from school,attending family parties with her until such everyone thinks we have a relationship..so then one day when driving to her home i accidentally kiss her goodbye that time..and it became routine for us to kiss each other even in the midst of our friends until we shared each others arm already (adult scene).. so months n months later i finally come to a point that i need to tell her that i love her that im afraid of losing her already. so one night we went for a dinner two us..i brought with me a ring just for symbol of my love to her. so in the midst of our conversation i finally told her my feelings..then it was the last time i saw her.. she stand up from her seat got her bag then walk away from me.. no explanation at all.. i ask myself until now.. What happen?!
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8 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
So after that walkout of hers, didn't you try to ask her what made her do that.
Your question can only be answered by her.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
14 Sep 12
Yeah, it is really strange. I agree with SIMPLYD. You should ask her what's the matter. It's not like what the common girlfriend did. I believe most girlfriends would be happy in this situation.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
Well i think she doesn't like to be married yet , my friend.
Ordinarily, a woman would jump with joy, when she is being asked for marriage.
@youiemohctar (30)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
that's the last time im with her.. she keeps away from me after that day..i tried of course as im welcome from her family but she don't want to see me anymore.. no no answer from her.i wish even answer of NO from her i will be contented.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 12
I'm laughing while reading your story youiemohctar. That was very funny story just like Friend with benefits movie. They just want to have xxx but with no heart feeling or relationship, just stay as a friend.
I'm not surprise with this situation anymore today. I believe girl's life has become more and more complicated till they can't decide what to decide for the future. Feeling fall in love is a matter that tide someone. Girls in today's world don't like to have commitment in early age. They just want to have fun and that's all. You can have chat with her, can have her but not her feelings. They just wanna have fun.
@challs12 (548)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 12
Girl suppose to have such a feeling like you feel now. But it was somewhere 1999 story. Now no more. We, gentleman is being good enough to have such initiative to declare our feelings, but they just don't bother it. I think you still can have her by your side if you don't mention anything about what you feel. That's really hurt...
I'm thinking of one good sentence to describe this but I really can't figure it out. It's like "friend but so close". Maybe you can describe more better.
@youiemohctar (30)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
sure u will.. but its painful u know.. kinda that thing yet we didn't make it as a deal..we shares stories , experiences from the past its like more than bestfriend but not into such relationship. i dont know what to call it even. we just enjoyed ourselves of what we are.. i feel it was my bad idea to tell her what i would like to be us. sigh...
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
15 Sep 12
She wasn't ready, or she has someone else. Who knows?
There are some people who just aren't ready. I am one of those women who isn't quite ready yet. There are many women who are not ready to commit.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Oh I agree, she should have told you before she left. She should have been formal and she should have been gracious about it, and told you in person that she wasn't ready for the commitment, instead of leading you to believe that she was.
I have a boyfriend, and he knows I am not ready right now, but when I have graduated from Grad School, and I have a stable job, I would hope that he would be ready to pop the question. I have told him that I do want to eventually get married, but just not right now. He knows this.
She could be scared, but even if that is the case, she should have said something. She could have said something. There was really no reason to do what she did.
@youiemohctar (30)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
i agree.. but atleast tell me ill accept it ..i didn't expect anything at all.. i just want it to be formal just other kind of relationship maybe traditional but she can tell me we can stay what we are..or she's not ready as u say..but nothing nothing , not a word from her..im just confused..thnx nwei ^^
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@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
Some women just don't want to have any strings attached. Yes, just like the guys! Respect her decision, in the first place, you never had any formal set up on what your relationship would be right? Let it be. Maybe in time, when your paths have crossed again, she'd be able to talk it over with you. On what really had happened and what she had in mind on that night.
@youiemohctar (30)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
yeh right.. i would love to sit and wait to tell me what really happen that night.. until now im trying to figure out what's on her mind.. wew
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
14 Sep 12
Hi friend, i think the girl is not interested in marrying you, she just want your relationship, but not a serious one like marriage thing, so only she gone away while you expressing your real love to her, don't worry. Just forget about her and find a new match for you
@youiemohctar (30)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
No you guys misunderstood im not his boyfriend or she my girlfriend we just came to a point that we are happy together and somehow we r like other gf and bf relationship.. doing things unexpected,enjoying each other kinda like that.. im not yet proposing for marriage.. i was still proposing to her to be a "REAL" girlfriend for me.. u know? get me? just funny to think and mystery in my journey.
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Oh! what an interesting and romantic start of the story but so sad to end up like that. But I believe it's not the end of everything. It might just be a trial to pass on to both of you. Since you haven't talk to each other yet after what happened, their is still a chance for you get back together and continue the interrupted relationship you had. Their might be some reasons why she did that. I don't believe she was not attached or feel the same to you. It might be that she was afraid to fell in-love with you more, get committed and the relationship will only fail at the end and get hurt. It might be that she's hiding something from and will affect your relationship if you knew it. Or it might be that she felt undeserving for your love or many more reasons which you should know. Did you tried to talk to her after what happened?
@chentunacao (309)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
Maybe she just needs space for now. Maybe she just needs time to think about it. And if the time came that she already realized or decided what she really wanted to do that would be the right time for both of you to settle everything that had happened. You will know if it's a "yes" or a "no" in God's perfect time, there is time for everything. Maybe not now,not tomorow, nobody knows. But the key for that is "patience" if you really love her, you can wait whenever that will be. I guess it is just a test.
@youiemohctar (30)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
i like the idea...
but can't she just be courage enough to tell me if its what's goin on.. no we don't talk anymore.. i dunno what to say anymore.. if she hides anything then im willing to accept it not by words i really do. thanks guys it help a lot.. im still hoping one day we will meet and will talk about it..
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
What happen? Simple, that woman just wanna play with you. She does not want to be committed at all. All she wanted was to have someone she get along with, can kiss and hug maybe and eat with whenever she is hungry perhaps. But she is not actually serious about you, neither taking you as a man she would marry. I think you should rather forget about her. She is a woman not worth being loved.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
14 Sep 12
Oh that was strange, did you guys not have had any conversation about it before. then what did you guys talk about?? Gosh, that was very rude of her and I don't really know what she was doing with you all this while. This you can only tell because you talked to her and you have everything with her and what did you talk all this while in your meetings.?? i would like to know. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@youiemohctar (30)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
no we haven't any formal conversations,i didn't even court her..it just a mutual understanding and living like that until then i told her my feelings ... that's why i wonder what she thinks about it.. why she did not make a reply..