I did the biggest mistake of my life by trusting someone.

That is very shameful experience you have to face. Sorry for that. I my self will feel very ashame if I were you. That's why I always told myself not to story tell about my personal in depth to anybody even my closest friend. Here some wise words from my late father to me when I was a kid. [i]"Best friend is the most dangerous enemy to us and our enemy is our best friend" [/i] The explanation, when our best friend telling lies about us to others, they will believe it. Other people must believe what our best friend says cause he/she the person that known us well. Say for example, you never telling lies, but your friend tells others that you are telling lies. But on the other side, if our enemy telling the truth about us to other people, others won't believe because they know that the person is our enemy and for sure he/she will telling lies about us to bring us down. For example, one politician on campaign, then comes the opposition party representative make announcement that we are telling lies, then the audience will said it's a normal for opposition party to telling lies to bring the opponent down.

It's really sad to know that sometimes the most people you trusted with your life is someone who is going to betray you..At some time in our life we have people who may turn against us because of something you said.. I've had things like that but not necessarily my best friend..It could be anyone you know or people you think you can trust.. You should never retaliate regardless how much she hurt that will only make matters worst..It won't make you better as a person..The best thing you can do while your hurting is to learn to forgive that way you can move on..In the good book it shares that when we have something against one another it calls to become responsible to take the initiative to settle our differences with them..(see Matthew 18:15) Once you found it in your heart to forgive her you need to tell her how you feel that way it lets her know that you still care for her.. Vanessa

That is actually a common dilemma of bestfriends whom you trust most but then just because of the little conflicts or gaps then they decided to disrespect your privacy. But I hope she just have the sense that the karma is very powerful. She may reveal your secrets but what if there is the most private thing that she doesn't want to reveal? I mean for some instances, example she will be going to have boyfriend someday then something happened to them intimately. Of course there are privacy that should be really kept just for the two of them. What if it happens that the guy has this kiss and tell attitude who is proud that he was the first person who have taken her private pleasure? Isn't that is even more shameful? not unless if she is that liberated enough to take that kind of consequences or situation. I have lots of friend whom they already projected me that I shouldn't trust them. But not because of the scenario that is same as yours but because some of them backbite me during college days. Then there are some who is a corrupt person whom he attempted not to pay me with my salary that I work hard to him because he became my boss before. And there are some who is a total kisser that she is obviously putting me down. So therefore because of that I am only treasuring two of my college friends who didn't attempt to do anything wrong that I don't like. I am supporting them now.

We have a saying, "Do not trust anybody except your mother." I have a few close friends whom I am supposed to trust but I don't trust them fully.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, you learned a lesson with this issue. Here after be careful with every one and don't trust any one easily. I too come across a lot of betraying friends in my life and learned a lot of lessons from them, now a days i don't trust anyone easily and always keep distance from my friends

Oh my. I really feel for you. But don't be too upset. Revealing your secret didn't really reveal what you really are but what kind of friend she was if she had a misunderstanding. She's not a true friend I think because if she is, she won't do that despite of some conflicts. I also think that she doesn't care to you at all, because if she does, she won't do that to you. It's okay to feel betrayed sometimes, just take it in a nice way. Be a more educated person when you confront her. And for me, if I was in your situation, I won't forgive her that easy, why? because she didn't really take the friendship seriously. It's not your lost girl, it's hers. So cheer up. But still, I hope you two will be okay soon, but let her face the consequences of the bad acts that she did. Don't let her do that to you anymore.

Hey i feel extremely sorry for you. She definitely lost a good friend in you and i am sure she will also face the same betrayal in her life in the future. u need not to worry about this as all her misdoings are being carefully observed by God and he will punish her in a better way. U should calm yourself and promise that u should not trust everyone who come your way fully. This is the trend these days and we have to be aware of such perverts. I think u should forget her completely and think as if she was a bad episode in your life and move on. I too have faced this situation before but i have cleared all the memories and have started to live life in a new way on my own terms. Hope u also do the same. What say?

I'm so sorry to hear that. Karma does exist. She would somehow being betrayed by someone else in some way in the future. But though I think you still should forgive her, I know it's the bad situation she had make you to have but keep hating someone is not good for you and your health especially if she was your best friend before. Although I said to forgive her, you should still be careful not to share any of your important secrets and still don't trust her completely, you can still become casual friends with her which I advised you to do, but don't do it if you still feel bitter about what happened or your feeling of hatred will just hurt your health. I have experienced a rather same thing before, this friend has break my relationship with my boyfriend too,....that's really a hurtful experience, so I can relate well with you...

Let it go hell whle you are at it let here go I Said THIS BECOUE YOUR FRIEND JUST SHOWED YOU HOW SHE REALLY FEELS.thare is no way to make it go away and um you would be out of your mind to ever put any amount of trust in here agin!!!!