"you treated me like an option"

She had every right to break up with him. No one feels like being treated as an option, unless you are the kind of person who likes to mess around, or doesn't mind being treated like a second, or any other number after two. If she was serious and he wasn't, then she didn't need to be with him if he wasn't sure about being with her. She doesn't have to wait around.

hey prashu, Your did a god job, she should have never gave him a thought that she is for granted, besides if the guy doesn't love her obviously he wont takecare for her neither will priority to her ever in life so i believe she did right. I mean it feels like he is just having her for time pass which is totally wrong. Your friend deserves a beeter man I think its time to make new friends now:).

oh my God, if i was your friend, i would have slapped this guy's face and even try to hurt his balls. haha just so i could be happy for an instant. some men are really such losers failing to recognize and know one person's value and try to see if they can get away with it. i am glad though for your friend that she was firm to let him go and leave him. she sure does not deserve a guy like this ahole

Hi prashu, You are wise not to get involved because it is indeed a personal matter. However, I believe that your friend was right to break off the relationship as he was not being honest with her. Sometimes, before two people are in a committed relationship, they will agree to see other people,but that is an open and honest decision to which both agree. This young man was not being honest with your friend. Blessings.

Well, I will not give absolutely no opinion on what he has done to your friend. However, let me give this topic, just my opinion. According to me, in love, the first thing that matters is mutual trust. I personally mind if my partner (who, however, still have not!), Frequented other men. Or better, mind you, of male friends can have as many he wants, but if he is seriously involved in a relationship with me, he is out of his mind to aim for two people. Either one or the other. Here I conclude.

Hi, friend Your friend is right to break her relationship with him. I can see that the boy is not a person for a girl to rely on for a whole life. Love between men and woman can't be shared. It's pure and single-minded. The boy is looking for an excuse for his mistake, if his girlfriend does the same as him , having two boyfriends at the same time in order to choose the better one, does he agree? He is such a selfish man. The girl will find her true love, I believe.

The thing called true love rarely happens. I saw one yesterday on BBC where a woman who is a professional massager, has been looking after her husband who is for all practical purpose not good enough for work. Extreme Makeover. Admire the lady. But to be honest, I am not sure I could ever be that great. At some point of time, frustration and fears do take over and stress too. So if she thinks she would find somebody who would truly love her for what she is, she might simply have to wait forever. Lets be practical. Out here, no marriage truly has genuine love component in it. Its more like a contract. So it was kind of ridiculous reason for divorcing. However, if your friend is truly finding it insulting, which I must admit it is, and finds it difficult to live with a person of that type, then this is the best option, because once she forgives that, the guy would only get bolder and repeat his experiment till he fell head over heels in love with somebody and ditched this one. So forgiveness in this is ridiculous thing as well. In her shoes, I would remain married, and make the guy so miserable with words, acts, and deeds that he wouldnt dare to look at another girl and make another girl unhappy as he must have done to the girl at office / workplace.

Honestly, I want to beat that guy who is a two-timer. Just so that he has an option?! What the hey! That's just... Ugh.. I want to strangle him! I think that you did a good thing to not say anything because a person has his or her preferences. We also carefully choose our friends. Our thinking is different from others. We all have our own way of judgment. As for me, if I was your friend, instead of cutting of my relation to the guy ... I would give him an honest advice as a concerned individual.

there are some people who do these things,they want the best for them and dont care to hurt others feelings,i hate them and if i found out i will ignore them forever

She did the right thing to break up with that scoundrel! He was two-timing her. Cheating on her. Who wants that?

It's a good thing your friend broke up with that guy! Those kind of people are cowards. They are good for nothing. They are afraid of rejection that's why they always keep one spare tire and that is so being a coward!

Oh yeah it is better to stay out in these kind of matters. let them deal with it. Did she consult you when she got involved with the boy, then why when this happened. i think if she can choose a boyfriend, she can deal with it in the sense that she by now knows the boy and does not need anyone's opinion on whether she did the right thing or no. For me, she did the right thing to break up. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

I think both of them were right at their places. However the girl took the decision in much hurry but that's alright if she has analytic or logical mind and does not get hurt by this. The boy was also correct as he was of some different mind, more analytic and logical mind and was making himself capable of any possible strokes (that he ultimately got from one side and the strategy worked out). Keeping one's options open and working on them is not a bad thing. It is just like adding colors to RANGOLI. And yes you should not be involved in this as it is not your case. Be apart.

Oh. That guy has some problems I think. If he is really a nice man and finding for true love, he should've waited for the perfect girl to come in his life. I think what your friend did was just right. Every girl deserves to be the only one in a man's life. I think and hope that she'll find a much better guy soon. I also pray that the guy would find his true love for him not to cheat and victim other girls anymore.

hi prashu this reminded me of a autbiograph of a female singer called"Whats love got to do wit it?" I do not blame your friend for splitting up with a so called boy friend who was also dating another girl at the same time.,No he does not love either girl and hes just treating them like they were objects for sale on a store shelf.You are right to not say anything,its too personal.

She certainly did do the right thing. Why would you stay with someone who is cheating on you like that? Obviously he did not love either woman enough to not cheat on them. Nobody should have to be an option. It is either first choice or nothing.

Hello Prashu, SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE MAD and upset! . Who the hell does he think he is? this truly offends your friend because the guy is loser two-timer. He's like treating them like a pet as an option who is deserving to be adopted or something. I think the guy was wrong, I'd wish some one who have told the other guy that he's a double timer.

Of course she did the right thing! Because what the guy did was really wrong. He shouldn't do that because he just made your friend stupid and clueless all the time. But if I were you, I wouldn't answer your friend question. Because its better to stay away from getting involved. :)

Hello prashu228, I am sorry to hear that this has happened to your friend. But if ever I am in her shoes, I would also end the relationship with my boyfriend. I always believe that one should never make someone their priority if they are considered only as an option.

Your friend did the right thing. The guy was not worth her time. He just did not care enough about her. You are a good friend, to stay out of it and just listen. That what a friends really needs sometimes- just someone to listen. Your friend is hurt now but there is something much better awaiting her down the road.