What can you conclude??

@riyauro (6421)
India
September 14, 2012 1:08pm CST
I have been to Other state for my auditions I had discussed before. Last week I was there and my husbands brother is there so I stayed at his house. His wife was very nice to me and took me to shopping and all. I had good fun with her and her mother. Now I thought that my husband's brother's married life is good because whatever happens my mother in law does not share with us. My husband and the brother hardly talk to each other and I also don't bother much because he is different. Now the brother is not there most of the time because he goes to work in the day time and in the evening he is like in his own world. He does not talk to the wife nicely and they have a kid. I had a feeling that they have problem in the relationship because I stayed there for one week and it because obvious to me no matter how much they tried to hide. The brother is going out on terrace and not coming down fast. it becomes 12 in the night and he is still there. I was sleeping in the hall on the sofa come bed and his wife and kid were sleeping with me. This brother is coming in the bedroom and locking the bedroom door and goes to sleep. they have very less communication. and his wife is on the phone and she is chatting with someone. I could see it because she was sleeping with me on the bed. None of them are making nice to the 3 year kid and he is playing with me. we went out for a ride. i was riding his wife's bike and the wife behind me and the kid and his mother in law with my husband's brother on his bike. we went to fill the petrol and the wife said to put in her bike as well for $2. He is telling the people there that we are not with him and laughing. he did not pay for the petrol in the wife's bike. I felt very bad for her because he is not nice to her at all. I came back home and I came to know that the brother is having a girlfriend and he is having her for more than 5 years now. I don't know what will be the end result of this couple. Can you analyse it??
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
Obviously, your brother in law has fallen out of love from his wife. And the only reason that he stays with her is because he is still married to her. If this goes on, it should not be surprise that one day your brother in law would just decide to give up on his marriage and would be living with her girlfriend. This is such an unhealthy environment for the kids. Since your husband and his brother do not talk too much, I don't think you are in any position to talk to your brother in law about it. But maybe you could try to ask your husband to give an effort to enlighten his brother.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
15 Sep 12
he was in the cruise liner and used to come home after months and there on the ship he had this girl as his cabin mate and she was his girlfriend. They have both are down here now and not going back on the ship as he has got good job here. So the girl is around him somewhere and I still don't know this much. this fellow has too much of attitude and he will not listen to my husband. He was on the ship because of the wife and her parents, otherwise he was a loafer and still he has no gratitude. with what attitude he talks to his mother in law is very bad. poor lady does not say much. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
• China
15 Sep 12
I think the couple should strengthen communication,if go on like this, their marry will fail,to family ,the communication is the most important thing,such families will be happy,if long-term lack of communtcation,it will hurt everybody,so i suggest you can serve as an intermediary ,to strengthen their communtcation,sit down and talk about each other ,to solve the problem.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
15 Sep 12
yeah but when they talk it is like they are enemies and they do it in public also. I was surprised to see it because I have been feeded in my brain that they are well and happy and doing very good in life by my mother in law. My mother in law praises the other son and belittles my husband and now I know what the truth is. My husband is nothing like his brother and this his wife also said.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 12
hi riyauro I do feel so so rry for his wife but again I wondered who she was talking to on the phone late at night.I think she has also turned to someone else bu t who can blame here when her husband is 'cheating on her and acting like a first class jerk. I predict that they will divorce and she may marry whoever was on the p hone sith her.but I am just guessing of course. that poor little three y ear old is going t o suffer t oo with a break u p in their marriage.really so sad.
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@riyauro (6421)
• India
15 Sep 12
Yeah, my husband's sister is very good the that brother and her husband was telling me that he has a girlfriend and tells the sister everything. Poor kid. You know they had to go through so much of treatment to get that baby and after having one this is happening. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.