Doing everything for the one you love... except loving them again
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30183)
Philippines
September 15, 2012 1:41am CST
Have you loved and lost the one you love, due to something that he probably has done to cause you both the relationship to go astray and you have eventually called it quites? Can the subject of the discussion be true for you? If you think of it, we would do everything for the person we love, help them, be there for them, listen to them, be a friend, and so on... but once we decide to move on, i think we can never love them again as much as we have loved them before, or during the relationship.
I remember reading this line from somewhere, a book perhaps and then i thought well this could be true, at least in my case because i know that even if my ex would want us to try again, I'd never look at him the same way again, and would be just a friend to him but can never give him or love him as i did before.
5 responses
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I think it depends on how you love a person. For me love is no boundaries
as long I love him so much maybe I can give him another chance. Only to
proves that he loves me also the same way. But there will be no 2nd time
around.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
It only means that you really don't love the person because who already
lost love on him so why give him another chance. It will only ruin the
relationship for the second time around.
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@FHKHKO (49)
• China
18 Sep 12
I heart that women is always nostalgic.So I think women is could be love their ex.But you told me it isn't right.If he heart you,or something like that,you don't konw if you go on loveing him.To be a man.If that happened to me,I guess I could't love her again.
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
23 Sep 12
I don't remember that line from anywhere, but I know the feeling. My ex and my kids father tried coming back a year after just leaving me high and dry. The first time he did it, I admit I was weak a little bit, I mean, we do have kids together. But I didn't go back. Instead I wrote him a letter explaining that even if he had changed, after all the cheating he did beforehand, and leaving me to MARRY someone else after 5 1/2 years, I wouldn't be able to give him a fair chance in the relationship. I knew that I would always be thinking about when he did cheat and if he was cheating again. Then on top of it, I found out that he hadn't changed and he's still doing the same things he was doing to me to his now wife, even today. So even though he left me devastated, it was the best thing to ever happen to me, and it allowed me to see how bad for me he truly was.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
That depends on the situation.
I always responded the same each time I've encountered same question.
Yes, it depends on every situation.
There are situations or people that are willing to give their love a second chance without reservation and there are people who are not willing to gamble again with the same person.
Everyone is different from each other- and we don't have same thinking as well.
Everyone has different reason and different understanding about love.
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16 Sep 12
I believe it is all based on love. If you really love your ex, no matter what happened between the two of you to cause the breakup, you will be able to forget it and move on positively. However, if you really do still feel that you would not be able to look at him the same way again, then probably it's really best not to get back together and move on. It really all depends on how you feel and if you think that the relationship will be able to work out well in the long run.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
that is right. it did not work out the first time, it probably won't work out ever. perhaps it is for the best when one just try to find other love that is worth more than anything else and not to go back on something that has been broken and trying to fix it. =)
