What do you do when your parents say no for everything?
By nidakhan001
@nidakhan001 (305)
September 16, 2012 12:18pm CST
Hey,
I am sick of my life, I am a good student but all what I do is studying sleeping or house work, I got no other life:(.
I can't go anywhere, because ususally my friends make a random and sudden plans and my dad says inform me a day before, and when I do he got soo mnay questions that i prefer to stay at home rather than going out.
I tried to start teaching, he come up with an argument that I better concentrate on my books more even though my grades weren't effected at all.:((
I started working he got issues with the organisation, I left that, I start mylotting or other online work he don't trust them so currently we are havng an argument to leave it.
I started working as a volunteer, he got issues with it too:(((
I can't eat choclate or ice cream or cakes because he think I am not gaiining weight because I am eating too much sweet:(( even though I know better, how sugar makes you fat But he is not ready to listeen:((((
What should I do then??
How can I make my time productive other than studies?
What else I can do?
In short
10 responses
@riyauro (6421)
• India
16 Sep 12
oh my that is bad. your father is trying to be protective but he is over doing it and this makes life hell for you. I am glad my parents never stopped me for anything but I am sorry for your situation. When parents do like this then children start cheating them like not telling them anything. I am not telling you to do this but I feel sorry for you. Mylot is better for you and don't let him know that you are mylotting..lol i really don't know what else to day. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
@riyauro (6421)
• India
19 Sep 12
yeah I have seen a girl whose father was very over protective and did not let her live her life. So even when in school her parents were called , she used to take her friends mother. she was tired of her parents and she used to cry sometimes. parents should be the best friends but not all are like that. I was lucky to have wonderful parents who allowed us to do anything we wanted out of our lives. be good and take care. Don't fall in bad group. always have control over yourself. 
@nidakhan001 (305)
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18 Sep 12
hey
you predicted totally right most of the times I have to hide things:(, I justw ant my parents to be the best buddy but when they got problem with everything i do I found a solution not to tell them to avoid arguments.:(
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
If you are living with your parents, then that's the problem.
You can't go against their will and even fight or debate with your freedom.
It's really hard when you are facing such situation- but what you can do, you are still living with them.
Maybe when you've finish your studies and got a stable job then you can say that you are matured enough and you want to live a life of your own (I hope you can fight for your right when that time comes)
@nidakhan001 (305)
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16 Sep 12
hi jaiho,
But what should i do by then?? what should i do to stop being frustrated by their no:(.. I try to stay chill but I just can't study always:(.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
It is always best to listen to our parents.
Remember that, parents always want/wish the best for their children.
Bear that in mind.
Your parents wants the best for you- wait till the time you finish your studies
@sagayamary (79)
• India
17 Sep 12
Do any online jobs. Article writing or any online jobs. More online jobs are in net.
use facebook and twitter for sometime. Read the online newspapers daily.
Don't waste your time. Go for walking to a park for recreation.
@nidakhan001 (305)
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18 Sep 12
hey
thats what I started, online working, but he don't trust online system too much:(, he says if you want to write articles then write it down but do not ask for money from them:(, How can I give my hours to something when I am not getting anything in return.
@tangleddreams84 (581)
• United States
18 Sep 12
It is your job as a student in your parents household to help the household and your studies. Make plans to go out even if you don't have any so you can have time to go out and it is okay with your parents. I was never allowed out so you are lucky. You can show him that on myLot you can keep it on a restrained level for mature things.
Sweets are no good. But argue the benefits of dark chocolate and he may come around as good for you. print out articles if need be. educate him. i dont think you should have to work if you arent forced to he may have his own philosophy. Thank him for letting you study and learn it his way and that may be why you are a good student today.
@nidakhan001 (305)
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20 Sep 12
hey,
may be you are right, only because of him I am a goof student but I need to feel fresh and I want something more than studies, I love to study but studying 24/7 is not my type, thank you for a nice advice.
@prakashsahni (185)
• India
18 Sep 12
Nothing you need not to do anything just try to be more productive and knowledgeable, you can do some sort of research or write articles or reports associated with your current books/ subjects. Alternatively you can just read more of the books which are however concerned and according to your curriculum or syllabus but are considered as extra books and are not actively selected by your academic instructors or teachers.
Plus if you really want to make some money why not you first be an expert in your own subjects then try to make money. Once you will achieve expertise in any of your subjects the money will itself come to you.
Best of Luck for your studies.
@nidakhan001 (305)
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18 Sep 12
hey,
thanks for a good advice, i read alot I am doing research inmy field, I am kind of multi-tasking person, I love doing multiple things and worst part I try to be best in everything so I put alot into everything. How do you mange your studies with your job?
@elsino91 (440)
• Poland
16 Sep 12
Maybe you could ask your friends if they wanted to go out somewhere, that way it doesn't have to be last minute and your dad will be more likely to let you go. I thought my parents were controlling as a kid but yours seem to be even worse. Let me just tell you that if you decide to go to university after high school things will get better in that department, you'll have a lot more freedom living away from your parents most of the time if you go to study in another university. That's what I did. For now I guess just bear it and look forward to the future because it will get better.
If this doesn't work out for you and you'd rather do something about it, I guess what you need to do is confront your father and just have a rational conversation with him if that's possible. Tell him how you feel, and what you'd propose. Don't try to fix everything all at once but just try to make a few adjustments so that he doesn't feel like he's giving in too much to what you want. Being honest and up front is something that could work well for you.
@nidakhan001 (305)
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18 Sep 12
hey elsino,
Iwill think about talking to dad, I am already in university:D and I am stuk in hea because he do not want me to stay in hostil:P.
@phillip_shiny (2330)
• India
17 Sep 12
I too had the same kind of experience in my teen age. When I started to do something my parents will say that no, this wouldn't be good to you and if I go for an outing they will never allow. I got frustrated and never taken anything against them.
I would rather say all for the best. Later I realized the reasons behind every no they said. It was really good and is good even today. It is better for your life and future to take the words of your parents. You will surely do a great living atleast tomorrow.
Cheers,
Have a great day always.
I would rather say all for the best. Later I realized the reasons behind every no they said. It was really good and is good even today. It is better for your life and future to take the words of your parents. You will surely do a great living atleast tomorrow.
Cheers,
Have a great day always.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
How old are you anyway? If you should still be under your parents' care, then there is simply to way that you can get out of that dilemma. Parents do not admit to their mistakes sometimes and they always impose things to their children.
But, try talking to your dad about how you feel. Tell him that you are doing the best that you could and that he should trust you in your decisions. Besides, you need to be on your own at the right time and starting with small decisions today will be a great help.
@sagayamary (79)
• India
17 Sep 12
Just listen the words of your parents for sometime. ok. It is good for your life. Parents are good well wishers for your life.
@lizrelox (144)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
It is always best to listen to your parents as they will always long for your good. I suggest to stop the arguments but before you do something you tell your parents first about it to gain their insights. You present to them your plan explain why, how and what are the benefits and make it a healthy conversation. Don't sound pushy but sound like a child who is asking for guidance from his parents.
