How much do you believe that RESPECT IS EARN not imposed?

Pasay, Philippines
September 17, 2012 1:40am CST
Have you ever realized as well that respect is earn not imposed? Even the elder ones must earn respect as well? We have been taught the way that we must respect elders, but then have you ever been challenge when an old people is asking respect while they are being rude in front of your face? Isn't that the old ones are the one who must influence the children on how to respect and they should be the role model. Because there is this saying that whatever the old ones do can be right in the eyes of the children. As I observed many people are complaining that children nowadays doesn't know how to respect. But isn't that they should analyze the problem first before giving the conclusion? Who would be the first one that will educate the children? Of course the parents and other members of the family.
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@lizrelox (144)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Actually RESPECT depends on an individual's understanding. For me It can be earned through your life, attitude but other people doesn't care at all even they see that you are a good person they just simply don't know the importance of respect :-( this usually happens at work. At home sometimes the one who is respected the most is not only the eldest but the one who earns a lot. Unfortunately nowadays it seems like the basis of respect is money and position.
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• India
17 Sep 12
Yes nowdays money and status is the main criterion for earning respect but then again it is not a true respect....in workplace for example..people just show fake respect for their managers.
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• Pasay, Philippines
18 Sep 12
@$$ kissing is actually the right term there not the respect itself. Because if they really respect the person it is regardless if that is low profile, poor or even someone who doesn't have a big name in industry. The sad part of that is if they knew that you don't have a job they will be rude at you. I just can't see the point there.
@MrGhost (550)
25 Mar 13
Respect in the true sense of the word can never be imposed, rather, it is to earned by one's own activities and behaviour towards others.
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• Pasay, Philippines
16 Apr 13
Respect should be earned from people and also a person must respect first the other people too so that he will be respected as well.
• India
17 Sep 12
I strongly believe that respect is earned. obviously you can buy many things with money, but not respect. You might say people respect millionaires. But if you see , people actually fake respect. they show that they respect such people for some benefits. In their hearts, they would have no respect. But if you character is sound and you attitude id good, then people would respect you from their hearts.
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• Pasay, Philippines
17 Sep 12
That is not what you call respect but an @$$ kisser which is the right term for them. Because after all they are just about money. I don't respect those social climbers and the one who is money after all.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Yes. I believe that it is earned. Sometimes it can be imposed, but that imposition is just temporary. Like when you are new in your work, and you have a boss. You have temporary respect for the person, because of his/her position, which can change, depending on how your boss treats you. I believe that we should initially treat everyone with respect, unless that person gives you a reason not to respect the person. I remember one time, I was in the mall. There was a queue in the ladies toilet. Everyone fell in line. Then this old lady came and went straight for the cubicles, she waited in front of the cubicles instead of falling in line like the rest of us. I told her that there is a line. She told me that she already needs to pee, and I told her, "so does everyone in line" (the line was long, about 6-10 people). She told me angrily that she's old and that she has a hard time controlling it, then I told her that what if other people in line also had the same problem? like people with UTI or something. She told me that I was so disrespectful. I told her that respect needs to be earned. I understand that the elderly really has a short "holding period" when it comes to peeing. But the point is, if they want to cut the line, they should ask for permission. It's not like people would reject them. It's just the proper thing to do.
• Pasay, Philippines
18 Sep 12
That is already a problem for some old people excusing them as OLD already. That is why I don't even like it where some non sense people would tell me that let it be because she is already old. For all you know even if they weren't still old they are already like that until it became a practice. I hate it when old people demand for respect while they are being rude in front of your face. They thought that being old is always powerful that you can maintain your manners while they are insulting you. It is really in the culture of our country that we should respect elders which is totally fine but then it is being abused by this old or even "gurang" people because of that mentality.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
101% ! Give respect to earn your respect. Respect can never be impose. Impose it and what you sow is fear. Respect is freely given. The problem now a day concerning children lacking respect for the elder is much misunderstood. We ask them respect and yet we don't teach them its value. Most parents now lack valuable times for their offspring and educating them with good moral values is much to be desired. Cheers!
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• Pasay, Philippines
16 Apr 13
Exactly the point the parents are begging respect from their children but then they don't even bother to show and influence the meaning of respect as they are also rude to their children. You can't expect respect from children if they are being abused by their parents and if they are lacking of moral as well.
• India
17 Sep 12
I strongly believe that respect can only be earned, it cannot be imposed and it is regardless of age, status or power. There are numerous people who earned respect because they deserved it. A perfect example would be workplace..we work under several managers but we are not able to respect all though there are some whom we respect from our heart...so respect cannot be imposed...may be a person might fake that he/she respects the other person due to any reason but true respect only comes from heart.
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