To fall in love is easy to some people
By Yanzalong
@yanzalong (18988)
Indonesia
September 17, 2012 3:10am CST
I think most men are easy to fall in love. When ever they meet beautiful women, they say this is the girl I want, etc, etc. I don't know if this also happens to women. Do women find themselves so easy to love men they meet?
Who says first love never dies? I fell in love with a woman and I kept company with her for almost a year. Then she hurt me by moving to another city. For the firs several months I was love lorn but later the pain and love wore off.
A few years later I met a woman I thought was the one I loved. But then she brushed me off. I was broken hearted for several days because of this rejection. Finally, I realized that how easy I was to fall in love. What about you guys?
10 responses
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
17 Sep 12
For me it is very hard to fall in love, and maybe after my last disappointment, it will be impossible. I think I have built a huge wall around me, and it is very hard for someone to break it. Maybe many that I will not feel the beautiful way of life, because I reject love, but I prefer not to suffer anymore. And I am also a cerebral guy, who likes to live guided by his brain, not by his heart, because it is safer this way.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
In that case we are not the same. I turn to emotions more easily. I am easily moved, too. When a sad story is being told, my tears easily roll down on my face as well.
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
18 Sep 12
I am still an emotional guy, but not like I was earlier. You know, the disappointments made me stronger and I have really tried to strengthen myself. Basically, I am the same, but stronger. I am also touched when sad things happen, but try to detach myself because it makes me sick when I am too concerned. But I never cry at movies, and I am not so shocked when I see tragedies happening on the world.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
It's not easy for me to fall in love but it's easy for me to get attracted or like a person. I draw the line between physical attraction and love. For me to love a person I must not only want him but I must need him too. If I only want the guy, then it's just physical attraction and nothing else.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
I guess you are right, toni. I was told that love was a thousands feeling. Is that right? Do you agree with me if I say that true love will not necessarily bring happiness in the end. My parents in law, it seems to me they often quarrel for trivial things. I don't see them happy if I judge them from their faces.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
Some married couple just love each other like a family as time goes by but they are no longer in love with each other.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
I agree that some people fall in love easily.
We cannot blame those people, but I am sure that they will learn in the long run.
Love is unpredictable and we cannot tell our heart when and to whom to fall in love.
So, it's really hard to understand why some people fall in love easily and some people are not.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 12
Yes, it's too difficult to know why some fall in love easily, while some others don't. Even I know one person who fell in love only once although he failed to get the girl. He failed for the first time, and he never would fall in love again. Now he is still single at the age of 70. His love was only for one person.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
To fall in love is not a choice, right? It just happens at an expected place and time. We do not choose who we love, one just tends to feel the emotion of wanting to be with someone more than anybody else and the constant thought of her/him in your mind. So, I guess the emotions sometimes play a trick on us whenever we thought we fall in love or we really are in love.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
Actually, I am not a man who used to fall in love with lots of women. Sexually speaking, I often desire beautiful women when I meet them in the street or elsewhere but to fall in love with one of them, there was another feeling in addition to being sexually aroused. I don't know for sure about my feeling, any way.
@soraya452 (127)
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17 Sep 12
Some people fall in love very quickly, but you shouldn't blame yourself as it can not be helped. Perhaps you can learn from this experience and go a more slowly next time? That way it won't hurt as much if things don't work out.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
Ladies fall in love so easily more than men do. At least in my opinion. Often, we just try hard not to show it to the person we like or love. Generally, ladies do not look on the outside appearance of men. And if they have been shown attention, love and care we’d fall so easily.
When I was younger, I have a very strong control on myself. Even if I like the person who likes me too, I wouldn’t admit it. Til the guy gets tired or I reject him and leaves. That was very childish of me! And looking back, there were regrets on some. Now, I have noticed myself that if I also like someone who likes me, it also shows that I like the person.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
I think most women are the same. They oftetn hide their feelings and pretend not to fall in love. Men often force the women they love to admit that they love the men.
@inmyopinion (213)
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17 Sep 12
Falling in lust is very easy - falling in love is not so easy. Love the long term commitment type love is more of a decision I think then a feeling. That is not to say that you don't have feelings that accompany it, but you have to make the decision at some point that you love this person and you are not going to leave them - no matter the circumstances or if your feelings change. Your feelings only change when you do not build the relationship or you start entertaining thoughts that are contrary to your decision to love the person. So is it easy to fall in love. No I don't think it is. It is easy to fall in lust - you can do that on a daily basis with 5 different women!!
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
Well, in that case, I shouldn't go out often as I may desire beautiful women sexually. When I go out I come across so many sexy women, especially the ones in malls. Often times, I have to close my eyes. Lol. Yes, I think your point is true. I often fell in lust. Couldn't avoid this.
@varunkrishna007 (1909)
• India
17 Sep 12
I think they are just fooling themselves. Falling in love is not like count numbers. It happens very rarely. obviously you can have a soft corner for somebody, but people usually mistake it for love. Love actually has more pain involved than happiness. Separation even for some time can cause hell lot of pain. I dont think that is the case in case of infatuation
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
My wife was actually the third girl I fell in love with when I met her. We kept company for almost 7 years. I had to be more patient at that time till she was ready to be popped question. Thank for sharing.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
you may have mistaken falling in love with admiration of and closeness to beautiful ladies. it is of course quite different in a distinct way. it is easy for us to admire beautiful women, but we don't easily fall in love with them. we like to be close to them, but at times, we do not have enough sensible things to talk about with them.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
You are right about it, mensab. I admire beautiful women but not easily fall in love with them.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 12
I remember the song entitled "beautiful". I still remember some of the lyrics: "Loving you is easy cause you're beautiful.......". You know that song? I think you do. Happy mylotting.
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
17 Sep 12
Yes men definitely falls in love easily. As for women, when they meet a handsome guy they want to know more about that person before engaging themselves with that person. Men gets their heart broken because they never took noticed of women who really loves them in silence. I have to observe that men basically likes to check out women in sexy clothes and make up. But let me tell you something, make ups can be deceiving and also what lies underneath that sexy clothes you see.
I always fall in love with the wrong kind of men and this has taught me so much lessons that I now choose my men carefully. :)
@Kikojocson (2)
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17 Sep 12
Some men thinks that they are in love but actually it is only infatuation or lust. When we get what we want the feelings that we felt on the first encounter will disappear.
This always happen to me dude, I thought I was in love but after few dates and hang out it turns out iam not.
