why can't my parents be more understanding?

Why don't you write what you cannot say in person? I can understand how you feel, especially if you grew up in a family wherein you cannot easily open up like that to your parents. Why not write them a letter, tell them exactly how you feel, everything, the good, the bad, how much you love them and how you miss them that you wanna be able to talk to them like that.

oh I feel for you. You must be sulking inside and this is bad for you. I know girls and boys go in the wrong path when they are sulking. I think you should just calm and study hard so that you can get out of there when you graduate and then they can say nothing because you are an adult. I thank god I had very wonderful parents and they never stopped us from doing what we wanted and they trusted us and we always kept and respected their trust in return. Why are they doing this to you? Have you got other siblings???

Perhaps this is called generation gap. Sometimes I also feel my parents don't understand me. And therefore I try to be an understanding parent. I hope to maintain a good relationship with my son and we shall be friends. But sometimes our anger will spoil it. To be an understanding person, at first we shall control our temper at first.

I think you need to be more open with your parents. Talk with them, and if required take the help of some elders - relatives or neighbors. I myself had gone through this when I was a teenager. In fact I had become an introvert as I used to keep all to myself. Now I am a parent myself, but I am more like a friend to my daughter because I don't want her to undergo through what I had gone through. Good luck to you!

They understand you better then you think. Usually with these kinds of situations, the reason the parents go about it like this, is because it's the way they were raised, and looking back on it, see it as a positive influence. If you show them how well you did on something, but they only tell you about your flaws and the problems with it, then you're going to try even harder to do better on it next time, because you want to please them. If they just told you how well you did on it, even if you had a bad grade, then you'd have no reason to try harder. My Mom would tell me how I did so well on projects and things in school... even if I was just barely passing, she would say that I did so great on it, and how much she liked it. I actually had to come back to another class after my class graduated, because I hadn't passed all of my required courses. We needed %50 to pass, so if I got 70% in the first half of the year, I knew I could get by with only %30 in the second half. It's taken me more then a decade after graduating to see that I shouldn't be doing things that way. Not everything is good, and I wish I had someone to criticize me when I was younger. If I did, then I'd have a better groundwork to take criticism, I'd always want constant improvement, I'd know never to give up, and I'm only actually learning that, now. Keep on working, you'll do better in the long run with it.

I know what you feel cause I'm young as you... well, i can say, not all parents have the same level of understanding. as you know, everyone is different. so as parents. though some try to understand their children, some are just strict as well. i guess they want to see you achieve and do your best always. they seem to have high standards and they tend not to listen, which is wrong. it is normal to feel mad at them but not to a point you'll hate them like you don't want to be with them anymore. i think if you talk to them what are your dreams and plans in life, they'll understand. or if you can't tell your plans, just tell what you feel. maybe they will listen and understand you then. sometimes, people have to talk things through to understand more of each other. good luck on you, effinmuffin!

The communication between parents and children is complicated, I have friends that can talk about anything with their parents. This was never my case, even though I have a good relationship with them and I respect them, I keep them out of my personal life and problems. Sometimes I might talk to my mother because she is the only one that can take the stress away from me and calm me down. But she is a bit old fashioned and traditional so I can't talk with her for many things. That's why I have learned to be strong and have faith to myself, because I am taking my own decisions. However, when I was a teenager, I was like you. I had my friends to support me and help me with my problems and I was really close to them! Until today, I still have them in my life and I trust them because I grew up with them. I wish you good luck in your life, and you should know that your parents love you in their own way and it's ok if they are more strict in some things comparing to your friend's parents. This will make you try harder to achive your goals and become a strong and wonderful person.

Hi friend, sorry to hear about your situation, really i wonder about your parents, how they are in this sort? Most of the parents are very much interested in their kids and have more love and affection with them, they hear the problems and give the ways to solve it. Hope your parents will realize their faults and change their activities

Parents have a lots of differences. I was once like you and what can I do? I am just their child and what we always do is to please them and obey them.If they cannot understand you then you should have to understand them.You should love your parents because you cannot change them.Parents sometimes let you down and you should take that a challenge.Parents know what is best for you and you should still follow them no matter what because they are still the one who could help you most.I disobeyed them most of the time and I also have been so rebellious.When I git pregnant they have supported me and my friends did not help me when I was really in a deep deep trouble.You know what, I am old enough and still they always try to manipulate my life and I still understand what they are trying to point out to me.They just want me to have a good life.Well, I really hope you will not get tired of your parents because they will always be your parents and you can't change it.They love you and wanted the best life for you.

I understand what you feel. I used to feel the same way, seriously, the way my parents always second-bested me to my brother, always looking at my weaknesses rather than my achievements. However, let me share my story. I used to be very rebellious, and I often did things which are not so nice to my parents. Well, one day my dad got into an accident and was hospitalized. From that event onwards, he could not work anymore to sustain the family. I and my mother were then forced to struggle with family business to keep the house in place. Well, from that day onwards, I understand many things, the way my Dad struggles with his work to sustain the family, and I began to regret what I did in my past years. It is not that I want to lecture you the usual stuffs that 'parents know what the best for us' and that similar sort of things. I know sometimes parents have their mistakes as well. But just remember one thing, the fact that your parents are the ones who take care of you, regardless of how bad they show their affection to you, they still love you. Otherwise, they'll just simply throw you out of the house and get done with it. Parents are humans and are prone of doing mistakes as well, just keep in mind that they have their own hardships as well. I do not know about your family conditions, but this kind of thinking made me feel better in the past. Anyways, best of luck for you and your family :)

Its upsetting with you can't have an open relationship with your parents, but if its making you this unhappy then you need to keep trying. Do you have another family member that could talk to your parents on your behalf. Try talking to your friends for support it will help. If none if these are an option then sit your parents down one night and ask to talk. Explain your feeling and why you feel the way you do. Hopefully they will see how much they have upset you. Good Luck.