How can I remove my shyness ?

Which situatios is your shyness a problem? You mentioned classes and parties, if there are other situations where your shyness is a problem write them down. Make a goal in each situation and divide it small steps. If it is your goal to speak in front of the class you could start with a smaller goals like speaking in front of a small group. If it is your goal to speak in your English class start with a short comment. Later when you get more confident you can become more active. At first it is important that you participate and less important that you are very active and talk a lot. Make small goals in the beginning, because if your goals are too ambitious you might not achieve them. When you have achieved the relatively easy goals you can move on to the more challinging goals.

PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE! Also, sometimes you just have to fake it until you make it. I used to be painfully shy, but I knew I was never going to be as happy as I wanted to be if I didn't get over it. I took baby steps, and tried every day to do one thing that I wanted to do, even if I was uncomfortable with it. No matter how small that one thing might be. And eventually, with lots and lots of practice, I started getting over my shyness. I'm still somewhat shy, but not nearly as much as I used to be, and I'm getting over it more and more each day. Just start with baby steps. Maybe instead of staying locked in your room, go into the same room as everyone else. You don't have to say or do anything, just be there. Things like that will help a lot.

We are just products of our environment. Upbringing is the first determiner of confidence or lack thereof. I can relate with you since I am like you in some way. But this attitude is classified as introversion, according to psychology. Although there is no way to completely change an attitude, it can be improved with a little effort and patience. You should read resources online on how to boost your self-confidence to the max. Good luck.

If you're shy, you have low self esteem. One way to build your confidence is to know yourself first. List your weaknesses and strengths.Utilize your strengths and work out on your weaknesses. Try to look at the mirror everyday and tell yourself that your wonderful. Don't be afraid to mingle with other people . If you cannot speak english well, practice it everyday. Don't make it as an excuse not to participate in your class. If you're in a group try to start a conversation that will interest everyone. A simple conversation can start a friendship. Try to remove all your fears. Just enjoy the conversation with other people.Changing this kind of attitude maybe difficult at first, but do it step by step and as the days pass by,you will see how you changed a lot.

Everything you describe to yourself... I have it all in me. I was really sorry remembering all those years missing all the happy moments because of my shyness which I myself tried to overcome. First and foremost I said to myself I am nothing without God. Since I have to seek employment after my college graduation I have to throw away my negative feelings that caused my shyness... I lift them all to God and I must do something to overcome my shyness..I get out of my shell by actively joining religious organization to make sure I'll be in the right path, indulged in some sports, attend seminars and meet new friends and acquaintances. Thanks God! I am happily married now and more less overcome my shyness. I am an active member of the Lectors guild in our chapel and our parish.

your experience in life is not so big.that could be the reason of your shyness.you must work on that and you will be not for along time.

Reading your discussion I cannot help but understanding you and feeling sorry for you as I can relate very much with the way you feel. I never used to speak up in class, and simply hated presentation or public speaking sessions. I am still quite shy, but I a a bit better than I once was. So time and life experiences could help you a bit. The key is to believe in yourself and have others apprecite you as that builds up your self confidence. Once one of my lecturers said that I was really good at presenting my study to the class. I could not believe she actually praised me as I was so frightened at that time and just wanted the presentation to come to an end. But that little bit of praise certainly helped me believe more in myself. Try not to feel inferior and try to challenge yourself.

You have a low self-confidence and that is what's eating you up. If you wanna get rid of your shyness, start to mingle among a small group of friends. Do not be afraid to share your thoughts and opinions. Share with them what makes you happy and other events in your life that you seem to be happy about.

Practice, show confidence and people will react to you. If you're standing there with your head down and papers up to your nose people will react poorly and you will just feel even more shy. Demonstrate even a little confidence and I think you will feel better about yourself and having to be in front of others. Best of luck you friend.

a person is shy when there is lack of confidence. You just have to start becoming confident. Tell me what are you lacking or afraid of that makes you shy and not be confident. If I know this i will be able to help you. I can give you some example like, are you doing good in school? if not then this might be a cause of lack of self confidence. So you have to realize first what is causing the lack of confidence in you. waiting for your response on this. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

This used to happen to me as well. I got over it though. First, you have to identify what makes you not confident, as shyness comes from lack of confidence. For me back then, it was because I thought that I am not good looking and I was always second-bested by my brother. Next, keep reassuring yourself that you are not as bad as you think you are. Try to find your positive points, there must be some things that you are better doing than others, and keep reminding yourself of that trait of yours. For the case of being shy speaking in front of the class, try focusing your sight to one particular person, maybe your teacher or your best friend (who would not be mischievous to laugh at you of course) while looking at the others once in a while. This will help you to feel that you are only talking one on one with the person you are looking at. In case of you being unable to speak too well, keep practicing! You will get the hang of it sooner or later. If you feel nervous talking to strangers, keep in mind that if you are nervous, the stranger should be nervous as well, it's just that that stranger is better hiding it than you. These worked for me very well. It seemed hard at first, but constant practice will lead you to be better in the end. I really understand your feelings, since I experienced it myself. Best of luck in overcoming your shyness! You can do it! :)

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Hey, I kinda same with you, though. Well, start by trying replying to person who talk to you with some words and try to make comment when you're with a person or some people who talked each other. For example like, "hey your shoes look good, where did you buy it?" Or "Wow, your hair look beautiful today." Some kind like praise for people that you meet to trigger any talk, even small talk is also good. Maybe also something common like, "did you think that the weather is just too cold lately" or something like that.

Hi I can see in your writting you may have broken english but still it doesnt seem to bad. Maybe you are shy because you dont feel comfortable in your English so you shy away. It seems like you dont think you fit in. I am not sure where you are from or if you were born here in the US. If you are from another Country this may keep you feeling shy. This Country is filled with people from all Nations. You will be accepted by those who welcome all races. Iam sure you are a wonderful person, you should let someone get to know you to have a chance to make a difference in your life. Find one person to help you ease into the scene. Break out of your shell. You can do it. Your going to miss out of some great things in life if you stay in your room.