more than 1 relationship?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
September 17, 2012 12:33pm CST
I never understood why would someone have more than 1 relationship. a few years ago I was "crazy in love" with one guy. he seemed so sweet and special. later I realised he was only telling me what I wanted to hear and that he had 3 other diferent relationships. you can imagine how I felt. I was devastated....
I couldn't do that . I imagine how exhausting it gets...
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12 responses
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
17 Sep 12
that kind of guy you will never trusted anymore. I know the feeling of being devastating regarding the situation but yo have to move on and try to forget him. Remember I'm sure have friends and family to help you and also we are help to pray you to have strenght to overcome that.
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
17 Sep 12
of course I couldn't thrust him ever again. I"m only sorry that I was madly in love with him and stupid not to see that he was a liar. anyway it's good that I realised in the end. better later than never
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@soraya452 (127)
•
17 Sep 12
Some people are just greedy and can never be happy with what they've got. Of course they never stop to think about what they are doing and how it affects the people involved and like you they are the ones who get hurt, not the person thats messing around.
I would never have a relationship with more than one person at a time because its called cheating and its a very disrepectful thing to do. I've also been cheated on and I know how much it hurts so I would never do it to anyone I was with.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
17 Sep 12
Yes, when we know what is being cheated we know what painful it can be, and I would never like to hurt somebody like that, but I don´t want to be hurted again.
Blessings soraya ... dainy
@narnia007 (1050)
• India
18 Sep 12
As disgusting as it sounds,my story is even more awkward.My ex-girlfriend was keeping on telling me that she loved only me very much and all the other guys whom she went out with is just for fun and are friends.Funny part is even after she slept with one of the guys,I was totally blind in love to forgive her and still believe the words from her mouth.After about 4 or months,she started to go out with another guy and with the same assurance that she loves only.Again,after 6 months she left me saying I am not understanding her need for having fun with all the guys out there.The next week I am calling her to pacify and get my love back,guess what was her reply?She said she is in love with tat guy.LOL.It sounds funny and awkward,but I really had a hard time facing it.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
18 Sep 12
when we're in love we're capable of many things including forgieving and not being able to accept the obvious. I know how it feels because in the topic I made i didn't mention one things. after a few months after he hurt my feelings like this he came back to me telling me that he knows he was a jer*, that I didn't deserve what he did to me and that he hopes to convince me to give him another change ( and that all of the things a guy told me about having other relationships weren't true obviously). and stupid me I believed him. and I went trough the same thing...he left me again. only that this time it didn't hurt so much because I decided I respect myself too much in order to allow him to do what he did again and that I simply should forget him
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
A Player-- that's what he is! People like him are good actors. You can not love 2 or 3 persons at the same time. That is totally impossible. He wasn't really into you. He was just there to count girlfriends.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
You're right! He is just collecting girlfriends. A guy who love to boast how many girls fall for him. Girls, don't ever cry for this kind of man, he don't deserve you!
Cheers!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
But you have to admit that a lot of girls get attracted too with this kind of man- they have such a sleek tongue for saying all those wonderful things every girl loves to hear!
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
17 Sep 12
Hey i can understand what u might have felt when that guy cheated on u. It has become an open fashion for all to try out having more than one relationships and yet being unsure about which one to continue. in the wake of trying out with different partners, they cheat the previous ones and spoil their lives too. they do not have the right to ruin anyone's life.
What say?
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@caramia (5)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
same thing happened to me 3yrs ago.. i was so deeply in love with my boyfriend that i couldn't even digest my friends advices though they are merely correct.i was really hurt yet i don't want to let go of him.. we were in a long distance relationship back the.i knew it was hard for us to keep the faith because our only communication was a cellphone nothing else. but then i got tired hurting myself but i never stopped loving him though we broke up.it was almost 1year that i didn't gave myself a chance to love again.there are men who tried to court me yet i put them down.i never thought being with someone else except of him. until 1 day he texted and asked me to start once again. and i never gave in to the negativity. we faced each struggles and tests together.. and now i am engaged with my first and last.it was all worth it..
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
17 Sep 12
Hello swissheart I has been cheated 19 years ago by -the love of my life-, when we were close to the wedding date, it is really painful, when I knew this I felt like the floor was opened under my feet.
I get rolled in a church ministry, volunteer with kids that helped me so much to go through. Since then I am still at a church ministry, I switched to liturgy, and I`m married now. But we are never safe until we arrive to heaven.
We must be careful now with the signs of cheating men. My father cheated my mother when they were 29 years of marriage, he ran away with a ´mistress` younger than me, and left my mother.
It´s not easy to me to trust my husband, nor men, but I know I have to mature and grow up. My husband helps me to trust on him, we are in a marriage ministry too, and we are close and we dialogue too much between us.
I hope your wounds get healed soon.
Blessings swissheart... dainy
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
18 Sep 12
I'm over it now because I realised he didn't deserve me. just because he did that doesn't mean that all men are the same
it's nice that you found a man who loves and respects you and you have a relationship based on communication. this is one of the most important things.
have a nice day and thank you for your reply
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
17 Sep 12
This depends on the person and the relationship one has. Because there are relationships which are very plat, where the partners are together just for routine and then it is almost normal that they will try to find other people also, because the fact that they have to hide it would spice up their actual relationship. And there are also the type of people who cannot be loyal no matter what, it is in their "blood" to have more partners in their life.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
18 Sep 12
I cant maintain one relationship properly with my danger and sweet hubby so how can make more relationship. I not like relationship and dating before marriage now lots of people live together more days and then leave one and carry other. I hate this.
@bdfreelancer (518)
•
18 Sep 12
The good or bad thing with our feelings is that it never stay static and so we can cope with different circumstances over time. It is just that many people cannot always get to meet the right sort of people when it comes to relationship. Many people conveniently cheat on their partners. It is better to get to know a person very well before starting any relationship with them.
@MelanieMay (102)
• Philippines
18 Sep 12
It is never easy when somebody cheats on you. You feel angry, hurt, insecure, unworthy, and totally bad. I have been there myself. Some people said that these things happen to a lot of people and that it just so happened that we met the wrong person. Question is: How do we meet the right person? A very wise teacher told me that we all have the ability to meet and be in a relationship with the right person, but in order to do that, we have to be in a place first where we really believe and accept that we are worthy and valued and loved. :) Very simple yet profound. Since then, I have found myself in a relationship with the right person for me and I feel truly blessed. May you find yours too. :)
@arpitshukla99 (84)
• India
18 Sep 12
because they are doing time pass with everyone and they are getting happiness to broking his/her heart.