How would you react if you discovered that your date had hidden his disability?

Hi Porcospino It would definitely hurt if anyone whom I had a special feeling would be telling me a lie. But wait, I am not sure if the woman had asked or there was a discussion about both where the man lied. If that conversation never happened, it might not hurt me because of the lie thing but it might hurt because I expected something else and got something different. Personally, I was already ill for life when I met my would be love and later my wife. When I started realizing that she was the one, I told her all about my illness, and also the fact that I would be ill for life. I had not thought that the illness could become severe and I would be never working regularly during those days, but if only I knew that this might happen, I would also have told her these things. This was possible only because of my faith and belief that I will never lie to the one who means the world to me and also I have a strong belief that if you love anyone truly, honestly and without any feelings of personal gains, you are definitely going to be with the one. So I never hesitated in telling everything i knew about my illness to her.

It´s difficult, but I think that I´d be angry too, not because of the wheelchair, but because some things should be mentioned. We all have flaws. Maybe, if he was afraid of rejection (I bet he was) he could have hinted something so that she was prepared in some way. I guess that is one of the difficult things about online dating. I would like to "date" online, with a posibility of acquiring a friend. If something else comes along, if will be a lot later.

I think I would be upset that he lied at first but then I would understand. Usually once a person lies to me I assume Everything he says after that is a lie . But this is different. For sopme reason he found it necessary to hide that he uses a chair. So I can see myself saying something like this: " Why didn't you tell me? You thought so little of me you couldn't tell me the truth? Why?"

Porco, pity to hear you had mental illness, which shouldn't be worry too much. I had a friend before who had this type of illness which she had to bear with it for many years. She had tried popping pills but think it won't solve her problem. So, she find a hobby which interest her a lot and able to make her think positively about herself all the time. Day after day, soon she realized that she no longer need to popping pills but only to concentrate on her new found hobby. The last time i heard, she got married to an understanding man who accept her past illness and taking good care of her. I think if a person have a disability, they shouldn't keep it a secret. They should be honest and willing to tell it in the beginning stage of relationship. So, if the person had known it earlier is really don't mind about our illness, then that person is suitable to be with us forever. In order of seeking the true love, we shouldn't have fear to tell the truth.

Hi Porcospino, i think online dating mean blind dating so you should be ready for surprises whenever you decide to meet. I always believe that ether getting frustrated or angry to someone better give a perfect way to situation and move on to life. It mean that you are not hurting someone but Yes,there is some rules and decision in your life.

How long had they been talking online before they finally met in person? I would be upset as well. That's a pretty important thing to mention to someone just like if you have children or not. Is she going to see him again?

Hi dear, I would like to share an incident which happened in reality and I have watched the same in TV channel. They met through mobile phone by getting a wrong number and the relation grows without their knowledge and finally they fallen in love. Here the man was in bed but he afraid to tell the truth by fearing the rejection. The lady was his comfort on his lonely life. But one day the lady was in such a situation and left her home for this boy. She had the address of the boy and when she reached his home and shocked to see the reality. Here the girl had some shock on the first sight, but she never left the boy and married him and taking care of him. I think both of them love each other deeply in their heart, that may be the reason to forgive of hiding the disability.

I will get pissed but not really angry. But I don't see myself having a relationship with this person more than friendship. Maybe he wants to know first hand the reaction of the woman that's why he didn't tell her in the first place. Nonetheless the woman felt cheated that's why she got angry.

It is upsetting, but not something to be angry about. I would point it out to my date and tell him that it's really offending on my part. THough I understand that he is afraid of being rejected

Never ever talk to that guy anymore because he lied in the first place. We must be honest rather than lie because I also stands keeping lies.

Ofcourse I would be angry because he became close to me and he should tell everything about his life. On the otherside, the guy must be afraid that if the girl knew that he has disability, she will not date him online.... At first I will be angry. I will reflect on myself, then maybe everything will be fine.