How do you punish your child/children?

It common in our nature as parents to punish our child when they disobey us.. When we punish them are we trying to get point across to them that they are being punished..Are they going to do it again? Mostly likely...It's only a temporary solution in the end you know that there may be a better way to handle our children..It is okay from time to time to spank their butt or their hands as long as you don't do it out of anger..We all know that anger could lead to rage if we don't learn ourselves also. or it could lead to something we will regret later.. .It it just as much a process for us also as it is for them but often fail to recognize..I would suggest maybe to take them to a room and leave them to cry for a bit while you calm yourself down.. As far as your father punishing you when you were little ..I don't always believe in doing that ..Think about how you felt it happened to you..When we became parents we always set the rules and decide on how we raise our kids because we believe it's better for them and it shouldn't be based solely on how other people raised us.. Try to do your best as parents....Sometimes they offer "walk-ins" for parents in your area who may struggle with parenting..You may learn a thing or two..

spanking or hitting children is not good.. i hit my son's butt when he disobeyed me once but then i realized they are just kids.. they want to explore, experiment..they do things that they could think of.. i talk to my kids calmly when they do bad things and when they repeat it again i give them a time out.. i don't let them out of the house, no tv no computer and toys.. i give them time to realize their mistakes.. my kids keeps on saying I'm sorry mommy but then they keep on repeating their mistakes again and again.. i let them face the wall and not to talk to each other.. i set up rules, and i am firm w/ those rules.. we really need to lengthen our patience.

I have set clear boundaries and varied making those known according to the age of my children. I use praise to make my children feel happy and then they work hard to please me. If one of them does something wrong I give a warning. If he or she goes back to good behavior then I say something nice. If the bad behavior continues he or she goes to time out. My daughter gets 3 minutes and my son gets 5 minutes. It is one minute for each year of his or life life and I begin this at 2 years old. When he or she returns to me from time out I expect to hear the word sorry. I speak in a firm but quiet tone of voice. I don't shout or hit. I am a primary school teacher. In my career I have seen a few children with bad behavior. They stayed a number of minutes out of golden time, they had detention at play time and they got rewards for behaving in a good way. In a couple of schools they had a three card behavior system. White for a verbal warning, yellow for a written warning and red a visit to see the head teacher for a telling off. Like in class in a home there need to be rules that are clear. There need to be rewards for behaving in a good way. I saw a video called Catch Them Being Good. That way to rewarding brought great behavior. The class had a plastic jar and they collected marbles for all behaving well. When they had twenty we had a class treat. Something similar could work well at home. Never teach violence but give clear rules and rewards.

Sometimes punishment is need to be done, but sometime useless.It depends on your child characters.I've never used my hand or my feet to hit my kid,just show my eyes he will now that i don't like that.my punishment for kid usually forbidden to watching television for 1-2 days,no play games,no play outside with his friend.But after that i'll try to show my affection for him.

I noticed that many parent think their children should guess how to behave. When I know we are entering a situation they might behave badly in - I speak with them ahead & tell them how they should behave, so they'll know what to do. And once the behave like that I reward them by telling them I'm proud of them and that they behave nicely (sometimes I even give them a small reward, but mostly I don't , since I don't want them to always expect a reward for being good) Otherwise - then they know what they should do, but behave badly - I try to stay calm about it and inform them they disobey me so they won't get XYZ (some benefit they like). If I really can't stay calm about them - I let my husband take care of it, since it is better to do it calmly. The only thing I will scream about and might even hit about - is if they risk their lives or someone else life knowingly. Like when my 2 years old ran to the road - knowing it is dangerous. I immediately yell at him and hit him in his behind. I didn't hit him hard, but I was very upset since he almost got hit by a car, and I wanted him to fully understand what he did was very wrong. He never ran to the road again after that.

I believe that at an early age of your child you should show him your authority as a parent and it's alright to spank them hit the butt only when they disobey you. And I am doing that to my son even when he was only 2 yrs. old But of course you have to explain to them why they deserve a spank and explain why their doing is wrong for them to understand. Of course avoid spanking your child in public areas as much as possible. I am guilty about shouting but I am already working on that hehehe. Most of all I am always praying for my child. I will never know his feelings inside and his thinking honestly and I am submitting that to the Lord to give me the knowledge how to raise him and to help me for my child to understand me. Of course after spanking the child and the explanation you should hug your child show him that you love him that's why he needs to be corrected.

I think that it is very important that you think about the ways in which you choose to punish your child, and make sure that you always punish them in the same way so that they learn to know what to expect from you if they do certain things wrong. This means that they would be less likely to do the thing wrong again and they would be able to learn from their mistakes. I would confiscate one of their favourite toys for the day if they had been naughty, and I would never want to use violence against my child because I don't think that it solves anything in the long term, other than making your child afraid of you which is something that I would never want to do.