Would you forgive?

Had I been in your situation, never would I forgive someone who cheated on me. In the first place, if she really loves you, she would not even think of doing it. Respect should always come first in a relationship. And once you forgive her, can you truly say that the trust you once have in her would still be intact? Definitely No! Better leave her, you deserve someone better Jatelo.

Hi friend, sad to hear about your situation, it is really hard to tolerate this kind of incidents in our life. Your girl friend hide this info at the beginning, she only confessed it after you come to know about this illegal contact, so she is untrustworthy, better to keep distance from her

So she cannot make a choice. She loves you but she finds the other guy better in bed. My opinion is she either stays with him or kicks him out. She cannot have both of you and she cannot have you who is a steady type of guy and he who looks like a Greek god or whatever. So either she breaks uo with him and says she is sorry, or you are through with her.

I am into what you are feeling now my friend, we had the same kind of tragic moment on our relationship. I myself found my girlfriend having another guy in her life regardless of her being committed to me. Though she admitted herself it is her mistake in the first place, and asked me for forgiveness, she still stood by her other guy telling me she is committed to that man. At first it hurts so bad that my life was beginning to go upside down, but the moment I had forgiven her, everything lead to a fresher start. I never tried to ask her to come back to me and start anew, anew, instead I asked her to pick whichever guy between the two of us, whom she felt would make her happy in the long term. She picked her new guy instead of me, whom she had a relationship that lasted for around 10 years now. I felt bad for it, but since she chose the other guy well its her choice. I just wished her all the best in life, and I know I will be able to find a better girl for me, but I thanks her also for being such a good part of my wonderful life. God has all the plans if things like these happens to all of us. He chooses the best for us my friend so I guess it is time for you to move on and forget her.

i would not forgive if i were in that shoes, that is very painful for me. and that girl cannot be trusted anymore, she might do it again on you. if she really loves you, how can she cheat on you like that. i suggest you forget and leave this girl already..

You can do better for yourself. There is no need to sit here and try to figure out if you can trust her, when you should go out and find a queen that will treat you the same way you treat her. I would never forgive

Oh, that's kinda hard. If you really love her and you know that she's sincere, then give her another chance. Just see to it that she'd promise you to be her one and only boyfriend. I guess you haven't agreed to have an open-relationship so she cheated on you. I hope she's that trustworthy enough to deserve a second chance. I hope she will stop seeing another man.

leave her^^ sorry to say this but the best is to leave this girl. how can you trust someone that was sleeping with other guy for a long time and pretending she loved you? you deserve better! what she did in my opinion is unforgetable. how can you start a fresh thing with her with all the bad past haunting you? you can forgive what she did but dont be with her again. if you be with her you wont be happy bcs you will always wonder if she keeps cheating on you or if she will do that again. even if it hurts you just let her go. if she really loved you she wouldnt fool you for such a long time.

You cannot love her back if there is a doubt inside you, your forgiveness will bring more hurt and pain to but of you because whenever you will have a fight her mistakes will be brought up again for a guy a woman's who cheat and have slept with other guy can never the same as again. it was her mistake now if she truly loves you she will endure the pain no matter how hurt it is.

hardly ever give a second chance. I'll just leave them. because when one thing happens once can happen again then. I can not stand the stuff. I was not going to suffer but at least it will in time pass and I will not hurt so much. important thing to realize in time. this is my opinion.

This must be hard for you, i think you should ask yourself if you still love her and if you willing to start a new life or relationship with her. For sure if you going to accept her there always a doubt in your relationship which you going to encounter in the future. i think you need to give yourself to think about it and let her prove her honestly to you first before accepting her again. In this case you can able to give chance yourself to enjoy life and to make a better decision in you love life.

If you were to give her another chance then I would put the onus on her to prove her love,honesty and loyalty to you. It may help to seek professional advice and consult a relationship counsellor -it often helps to have an impartial 'middleman' to draw the right questions out of you both. It would be good for your wife to confess to such a person about her misdemeanour and make her face up to her shameful act. While we are all human and none of us perfect you also need to listen to her and try and be open and honest with one another - it may be good to set aside time for regular open discussions to promote self expression and honesty. I wish you all the best whether you manage to mend the relationship or choose to move on. Take care and have a good day.

Hi Jatelo, on the first place if she loves you, why is there a third party? Being betrayed is not that easy to forgive. You give your trust to her and she just ruined it by doing that. You can forgive her, yes but there is no another chance. Once is enough in terms of betrayal/cheating.