Your Teenage Daugher Approaches you.................

that's very mature of her to come straight to you first. under those circumstances, i would help her to set up the meeting in a public place, some kind of resteraunt. i would sit two tables away to keep an eye on them. that way, if she felt uncomfortable or if he wasn't who he portrayed himself to be, you're there.if it all goes well, you're there to be introduced to. she gets to have a little freedom but knows she's safe.

HI there! I think if my daughter approaches me I would be glad to guide her. I think parents are the best well wishers of their children and children should understand this point and should always share their apprehensions, new ventures and other things before plunging.

Oh, my. Thank God I have a son. LOL. I guess it depends. If he sounds trsutworthy I'll let her. I'm going to interview my daughter first about this boy. I need to know everything about him.LOL. I sound like a very possessive mother. Haha. I guess, I'd just let my husband decide about it. If his father will allow her, good for her. I hope they will meet with our presence. I want our daughter to introduce that boy to us first before we give him our full trust. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.

I do think that shows a sign of maturity and responsibility! That is good. I would do what someone else said. Sit far enough away from them where ever they want to meet in case something goes wrong but it still gives them a chance to get to know each other without anyone else being on top of them. And I would tell her it is not her that you don't trust (the reason you want to go too), because its great that she came to you and she sounds like she can definitely be trusted but the other person might not be trustworthy...It can be really dangerous so I would go if it was my daughter but I would not make myself obvious or anything. At least you know with you there she will be safe if its some crazy person or something!

i agree with you, that if my daughter would approach me and asked that I would be proud. it would let me know that she respects me enough to not go behind my back I would consider allowing her after I find out whom she wanted to meet. i would also add stipulations. she would have to have several friends with her and it must be in a public place.. I would also ask that she called when she got there and if they leave to go elsewhere. there are way to many dangers to not be careful. i also feel that if we do not allow our child to do something after they ask us,they will do it anyways. i also would fear that she would not be so open to talking to me if I did not allow her to meet the person.

Wow that's so great you have the openess in the family coz i'm not like that you must be thankful enough coz your daughter wants your opinion maintain yoiur friendship with her and ofcourse you should also say the advantages and disadvantages of ones decision.

It really depends on the circumstances. What site did she meet him on? Is he the friend-of-a-friend that she connected to on Facebook? Or is he some random guy she met on some random site? I would want his full details at that point--and be very upset that I did not already have this information long before she got to the point where she was wanting to meet this guy. I would be doing a background check on him before allowing her to meet him in a very public place nowhere near our home with her father and I in a nearby spot monitoring the situation. If there were any red flags in what I found, I wouldn't hesitate to hire a private investigator.

That's a positive sign that she highly respects you and yes that's maturity. I would be relieved if i had a daughter who would act like that. I would allow her of course but I shouldn't allow her to go alone. I would suggest she bring her friends along and to invite that guy in our home too so I could get to know him. I know how dangerous it is to meet guys through the internet sometimes but there are those who can be trusted. As long as she won't meet him alone and I am aware of where they're going to meet, i would be fine with that. I would warn her of the dangers of course and tell her how to protect herself just in case that person cannot be trusted.

yeah..that is a good thing that she approached u first.. this shows that she is still NOT mature..but doesnt mean she is still not any smarter..it simply shows u that she still knows deep inside she is a child belongs to u..her parents..she knows deep inside whatever she gonna do..must let someone important in her life to know about it..incase something happen and makes the parents worry whole day.. good thing.. and i think ..u should tell her whats the danger of seeing someone from the internet..if she really still wanna go..ask her to bring a friend along..or meet in a public area..malls etc.. and just be quick about 1-2 hours ..enough ..then go home or ask u to pick her up..etc.. cheers..

i agree with you, that if my daughter would approach me and asked that I would be proud. it would let me know that she respects me enough to not go behind my back I would consider allowing her after I find out whom she wanted to meet. i would also add stipulations. she would have to have several friends with her and it must be in a public place.. I would also ask that she called when she got there and if they leave to go elsewhere. there are way to many dangers to not be careful. i also feel that if we do not allow our child to do something after they ask us,they will do it anyways. i also would fear that she would not be so open to talking to me if I did not allow her to meet the person.

I would be glad that she came to me but I would have to know in what context did she "meet" this boy. I would have to have my own chats with him and decide from there whether it would be a good idea or not, and then would still have to be present at a meeting in a public place.

Hi. First you should be happy that your teenage daughter turns to you when she has something. You can give her some advice on such thing as she can't deal with.But the most important thing is that you should show respect to her ,letting her know her mother always be with her whenever she has something difficult.

Absolutely! She came to ask your permission or even help with doing something she knows could be dangerous. That definitely shows a great deal of maturity. I'm sure you know this, but I have to say it, if you're going to allow her to meet a boy from the internet, accompany her to a public place. But she is demonstarting a lot of knowledge and maturity, and she is showing the she respects you. And that is amazing that your daughter can trust you like that. I don't know of any kid that would have asked their parents' permission to do something like that. If my daughter were to ever ask me that, I would be thrilled that she can trust me and respect me that much, and would probably consider taking my daughter to meet this stranger in a very public place. If I already knew what was going on with their online conversations, and didn't have a strange feeling about the situation.

That's not too bad.She is very sound or healthy to wish to be agreed with her parents's if she is not too early and the reverse is the same. Most people at that age tend to get her(or his) curiosity and longing stronger for male or female. I think it's pretty natural, furthermore, positive thing to show up without any behind-the-scene meeting.

hi Jshean oh yesindeed I wou ld be very proud of her and allow her to meet the boy if she lets me know who he is and also I would ask that she take some friends with her and they meet the boy in a public place.Also if the boy asks them to go somewhere else I would want her to say no sorry my mom will not allow me to do that. that is if I were the mother of a teen age girl which I am not sorry to say. we lost our daughter at the age of 8 she would now be 52 so time had flown and Iam a widow and an elderly senior 'citizen too