When People Are Happy, There's no sad story......
By chi2nasrin
@chi2nasrin (1101)
Malaysia
September 19, 2012 12:46am CST
I think that when people are in a happy state, they don't want to listen to your sad story. Do you agree?
Me and 3 other friends, we have this conversation in Whatsapp where all of us can chat together at one time. We always communicate in this application, plan our meetings, talk about my friend's marriage and babies and all.
But then I notice something.. whenever they said something merry and happy everybody is happy, cheering, smiley... but then when I said something like, owh don't want to think about baby because been trying for more than 5 years.... then nobody replied... and suddenly someone started another topic...
I wonder did they missed what I said or just plain don't care.....
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4 responses
@leahn011 (58)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
People have different vision in life and different characteristics. Some people are good listener and some aren't, it depends on the person you talk with. In your situation, your friends maybe don't want to talk about sad story in their happy state or maybe they just missed it. If you really need advice from your friends talk to them seriously. Regarding your concern, no worries that's only a challenge to a couple. Just don't give up on trying and time will come your angel will be born. Also, I advice you not to stress out yourself by thinking too much. Smile always.. :)
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@MelanieMay (102)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Sometimes, when people are in a great feeling place, hearing somebody talk about their problems is something they might not want to experience because it may take them out from that feeling good place. It might sound selfish but they may have realized and accepted that they are responsible for their own happiness and want to avoid things that makes them feel bad. It does not necessarily mean that they don't care. If you want to share with them your concerns (like trying for a baby), i suggest that you try to do if from an optimistic view point and they will most likely respond to you in a way that will help you feel better. Remember that there is nothing that is impossible to achieve for us. :)
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 12
Well, thank you for your comment, maybe it is true that they just don't want to spoil their happy moments.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
i think there is really such a difference.. people are always / well most of the time ready to share stories of their fun and happy times. it is common but we can be reserved when it comes to sensitive issues, such us our personal problems, like the one you mentioned about someone posting about trying to be pregnant for more than 5 years.. you see, even if people want to share sympathy it can be very difficult for us because we are always careful not to offend the person. so it is hard to say anything at all, right?
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 12
Well, maybe they can at least say something supportive, maybe. Instead of letting it left unreplied....
@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
23 Sep 12
Most likely they didn't say anything because they didn't know what to say, like an awkward silence. Put yourself in their shoes, what could you say to one of your friends if they were worried about having children the way that you are? Anything you could say would be a cliche (It will happen when the time is right, don't worry, etc.)
Most likely they wanted to say something that would be real and actually mean something to you, but not finding the right words to convey that to you, they said nothing.
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 12
Well, maybe they say can things that will make that person feel better, just like what they did to other people all the time, in that group/conversation.
Some people may take silence as an ignorance/ don't care.
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