love or career

Daisy: I would not recommend your going to that man again. In that case you will spoil the life of that girl and after some time this man will ditch you and you will spoil your life also. Wait. Find whether you can get a suitable man-- Start loving him. you can tell briefly about the affair if he asks. otherwise do not tell. sincerely give love to this second person and live happily. How can you get an idea about that man again. Forget about him totally.

If there is no marriage it really isn't worth it.

He's not married, so having an affair with him is not a crime at all. if you think to have him back would be a burden because of his son, that only means you don't love him that much. Just because he has a son doesn't mean you can't have an affair with him. The only thing you should be considering is if he's married but he's obviously not. If he wants you back too then i think you should work it out.

oh it is sad, I have many people who have chosen career and have everything in life but when it comes to love they are zero. I don't know what to say really because for me it went both together. Some people find the love while studying and this is common from where I come from. My classmates have married my classmates only..lol but not me. I found my love far far away from home but still when I was in university. I think it is important to balance everything in life. I hope you find a new love and forget the old one. when the gap will be filled by someone else then it will be easier for you. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

Sometimes it's difficult for us to choose. You choose one means you give up the other. And the thing or person you give up will never come again. As time passes by, everything changed. So accept the situation of the present, and begin something new. YOu will meet your love one day, but not him. Just my opinion, enjoy yourself!

It's OK in choosing a career over love as long as your happy in your decision. But you must stay away to your ex even you still him love for the sake of the child. Someday you'll meet the right man to love you and will give you happiness. I hope that man will now come for you to be happy. Have a good day!

I think that if he and you still love one another even after time and that upset of your decision for career over him, it must be true love. Just go with it and do what comes as a natural thing for us humans. He obviouly loves you just as much if not more to even have a life outside of you.

If there is no marriage it really isn't worth it.

I can honestly say that a career is something that you should have. Supporting oneself is something one must be allowed to do. If he wanted you to be the one, I do believe he would not be threatened by your career. There could have been the possibility of a long distance relationship if that was the issue. Arrangements could have been made to see each other from time to time. After all, if he has a child, he has an 18 year responsibility of child care and support. Now, his life has changed. I guess the question is, "Did you have to chose between one or the other?" I am missing a few details, but good luck to you in life and love.

Hi Daisy, it is sad that you faced such a tricky situation in your life.The boy is clearly not to be blamed since it was your choice.However, you were not ready for marriage and responsibilities and then and are you able to face that now especially since he is already a father and has more responsibilities to shoulder.It depends entirely on you as to whether you are willing to make many compromises and sacrifices and also whether they are worth it ! all the best and happy mylotting

We should never think on decisions which we have taken earlier,because which has been passed cannot be regained.so now you should focus on your future.and moreover you need a fresh start,life is full of reasons to smile.you cannot get happiness sticking to one thing.so go ahead a lead a fresh and happy life.

I Can image that is must difficult to you,but i still believe that you have make a good chooice.You can make friends with him,and dont let yourself loss your happineses,because you ever lose the love from him,many things is change and you all come back,just look forward the future,only this is good for your and him.Good to you

I don't think that is intelligent. Because it will ruin the life of the girl to whom he is married with. And also it will affect your life too, even though that girl didn't cone between you two, that will be a great problem for you when you are dealing with your conscience. Moreover that will affect his son too. Because he has to give up one of his parents if u fall again with him. The best is to let him go and you try to find someone else to love.