What was the most difficult thing you did to make peace with someone?
By mosvph
@mosvph (97)
Philippines
September 19, 2012 10:59am CST
What was the most difficult thing you had to do to make peace with someone? For me, it was giving up trying to explain things or trying to go after the truth and justice. Someone did me two counts injustice. First she accused me of stealing her sunblock, which was very shocking for me. Second, she accused me of being proud when I corrected a grammar mistake in a letter she prepared which was to be signed by several people including me and addressed to our boss who is very particular about grammar. I tried to help her arrive at the truth about the sunblock. I tried to show her how it couldn't be me. But she simply told me "I do not want to talk about it." For the second injustice I asked her why she sent me an ugly text message about my pride being Satan's instrument.She simply said "Yes, you are my great teacher" and since then, did not talk to me again. I didn't like to be in this immature behavior for a long time so I decided to do something about it. I apologized for the way our relationship turned out. I told her I wanted us to be friends again. I said sorry. This was very difficult for me to do. Of course there was still the need to get to the bottom of what happened about the sunblock. There was also still the need to explain the reason why I needed to correct the mistake. But I just gave it all up. I simply doused the fire, quieted my emotions just to have peace.
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7 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
Sorry is enough.
Yes,it's not easy to say sorry when you know that you haven't done anything wrong.
I guess you have done your part, so if it doesn't work- so be it.
Time will heal all wounds and only time can tell where your friendship lead to.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
It is rather difficult to make peace with someone, especially if they have hurt you or has accused you (in your case). I guess when you have already started to not let the things bother you as much, when you can look into the person without feeling that remorse, or anger for what they caused you then it is the start of that peace you feel you want to already share with the person.
For me, the most difficult was when i had to make peace with someone i used to love. I loved that man so much it almost broke me - the whole of me when he cheated on me and i was left in surprise that he could actually do that to me. I was not sure, not aware of what he is capable of. I never have experienced crying so much ever in my entire life. And yet... i guess over the times i had to cry... i pray and i have realized i prayed more because of what had happened. I made peace with him when i saw him just recently. I knew i am over the pain... it hurts me still sometimes but i no longer curse him haha and that's the good sign,. ;)
@yogesh0505 (112)
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20 Sep 12
i had a very great fight with my room mate in the first year........we were like cool friends before..........we had many fights before but this time it was kind of different.......i know it was my mistake but i could have never accepted that........because it was now the ego war between us...........but i was really missing spending time with him......so i decided to make a move........but i was unable to do so........so i decided to apologize on facebook........and every thing just went allright......he said he was also going to make a move if our cold war continued a few week more............
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
19 Sep 12
I think it was the time when I did the first move and be the one who apologized even though we both and everyone knows that it's not my fault but my friend's, and yet she wouldn't apologize. I just want to make peace for the good of everybody. What's even more difficult is the fact that she didn't accept my apology and even hinted how hurt she is. I was like, the nerve of her! It is very difficult for me because it is not easy to swallow my pride and my higher self is waging war against my reasonable me because saying sorry to that is the same like admitting that it's my fault.
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
20 Sep 12
It was eating my pride and swallowing the bad words that I throw to him, but still in my case you cannot really play on broken string, if you fixed it well it won't just give you the same tune and rhythm again, well there are really times when you have to dig the past so it is different in my case.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
20 Sep 12
i think making peace with others easily,but there are exceptions,such as one of our colleagues,she is too proud to touch.
when we can't change others,we should change ourselives,the latter is easier!
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
19 Sep 12
Well it is very much difficult to make peace with anyone especially in this age where people have put egos first over the feelings, emotions and relationships. But i still remember one incident where i had to remove all the misunderstandings that was responsible for the break up with my close friend. i had to call him constantly and finally after so many attempts, i met him and apologize him even if i had no fault of mine and i had to clear all the misunderstandings and since then we have been just friends not like the way we used to before.
What say?
