At what age do american young people...

There are exceptions. I have a friend who is 23 or 24 . She is married and has two children and she is more mature than I am and I'm old enough to be her mother! Will it ever get back to most teens Wanting to be full adults and work hard for thweir own house? I don't know.

I don´t think that everyone should lead a full adult´s life when very young. I did it, but several things were different than the media. I was out of school and at the university at 16 and my fiance was 24 and earning more than my father as he was a professional soccer player. Still, my parents would not let me marry him until he got out of the university. Soccer playing doesn´t always last long. Still, I think that if a 30 year old man is being helped by his family, he should be thankful instead of wanting more.

I hope that your story is only half of the story, friend, and that as time goes by the next chapter gets better. I married at 18, got a husband for life (the only thing he messed up was to die too soon), 2 daughters, 2 university titles plus a postgrad. I understand the lack of jobs. But I´d love to pay a little for a boy to help me with the gardening. Only they all want to be executives now

I wish I could say it was a one off case, but here I see it all the time. Over 55% of Americans are now on welfare or food stamps, for instance. It's amazing to see people in the grocery store with carts full of steaks, expensive TV dinners, chips, sodas, cookies and other junk-- all paid for by my tax dollars. I haven't had a steak in 6 months-- I can't afford one. We USED to be independent-- back in the 50's and 60's, before affirmative action, welfare, and going off the gold standard. Now the government encourages people to grab all the free stuff they can, at the expense of the 20% of Americans who actually do pay taxes-- and then these people scream that we who pay don't pay enough. Last year, ILLEGAL ALIENS-- trespassers, here against the law-- collected 7 BILLION dollars in payments from the government in tax credits alone-- which is funny because they don't pay taxes. What's even funnier is our government was running commercials on Spanish TV here and in Mexico, encouraging these people to apply for food stamps.

I think it's the responsibility of the social welfare policy in America. Many person just live rely on the social welfare, because with social welfare they can live more comfortable than working by themself, so why they prefer to work? Hunting a job is so hard and work is so tired and bored, staying home without any working can live comfortable as well. It's unfail for other people who work hard and pay a huge number of taxes. So the unfair and unavailable social welfare policy must be amended now.

I can understand the problem of lack of jobs, but I cannot understand complete lazyness. And if a young man is mad at his mother because she did not give him his allowance for a week (because what he earned was for luxuries), there´s something rotten in Denmark, as Shakespeare would have said. An it also shocked me the answers where I could see a sort of applause for this rant. I have lent my children money, and they have repaid it when they could. It´s the sort of thing like changing a roof (noone has money for that and asking the Bank is more expensive). I know a boy, son of a lady that helped me out with the house chores, that started to work on Saturdays when he was 15. He helped out with gardening for a few pesos. Now things are difficult as jobs go here too. He has not been able to find the kind of job he´s prepared to do. So he is working with a garbage company, getting the trash from each house and placing it in a truck. I say that is a job as decent as anyone and I´m proud of him. He helps his mother with her meds and is a good person. When he has time, he comes to give me some computer lessons. He can do that, but there´s no jobs available for that now.

well unfortunately, for quite a few years here, people have been giving young people the idea they are entitled to things, like cars, cell phones and money from their parents that former generations would never have given them. So a lot of kids have never had to work for what they get-- which is sad. And the government is sending the same message-- that things like health care food and shelter-- which people used to have to work for-- should be rights. Now don't get offended-- I am not saying we should let people starve on the streets or die because they can't afford a doctor. But I AM saying that any society that punishes success the way America does is going to have serious problems. In the past, successful people could enjoy the rewards of their success-- you could be rich. Now, the government is sending the message that you can have money, but if you have more than they think is reasonable for a person, then you will be forced by taxation to give it to others who did nothing to earn or deserve it. The rich people are doing one of two things at the moment-- they're closing businesses and putting their money where the government can't touch it, or they are moving to other countries where success isn't punished. We gave all our money away, and now we are going to have our taxes raised AGAIN because we still have "too much". Why should I work hard to make money if the government is just going to take it and give it to someone who doesn't take care of their own life? Why should my other half work 80 hours a week to put steaks on the table for food stamp recipients? This is the biggest problem with socialism, collectivism and communism-- the 20% of people who actually want to work and be successful end up supporting the 80% who don't. Sooner or later, the 20% stop working-- like we will. We are glad to give our employees everything they work for and deserve, but I'll be darned if I'm going to support those who don't try to support themselves.

I think that if people do not leave their parent´s home, they should help as much as they can. And they should be thankful for what they have instead of ranting because they don´t get more.

Different countries have different customs, friend. I have found out here, at mylot, that many countries in Asia treat their elders with greater respect than in the western world.

I am sure that parents want to help their kids . But they should not be taken for granted as this youn man did.

I understand that if a young man or woman is in college, parents will try to help as much as they can. what I don`t undeerstand is that someone will blame his or her mother for not giving money if he`s earning some.

I agree to that, Jo. I sometimes think that one of my daughters has too many vacations or that the other gives too much to her kids. But it´s her hard earned money. They are not asking anything from anyone so they can do as they please.

I know you are afighter, friend. But besides what every person does (if they live with their parents) at least they should be humble and grateful if they are grownups.