How Can I Confront My Friend Without Offending?

If you are a real friend you speak out what is on your mind! Otherwise you are not a real friend. If your friend feels offended or hurt there is nothing you can do against it. I guess your friend will also be hurt if she founds out herself sooner or later. BTW I would feel offended if you would tell me I ruined my life! A relationship you can not approve or that might end wrong doesn't mean your WHOLE LIFE is ruined. We learn from our life experiences. There might be a very good reason why she has to learn this lesson in her life or has this experience. It will surely make her stronger. Might be there is a lesson for you to learn as well. For example that love doesn't know border like we do, that a life is not ruined if you have a relationship others can not approve or if a relationship is ended. Perhaps your lesson is not to speak, just be a good friend if she really needs you. I don't have someone in my life with that same case but I have been there. If there is not a problem I would not do anything since it's not my life, not my luck, not my decision(s to make). I would be there for my friend if needed. That's all. Btw I don't think anyone over here (in my country) would really care about a relationship like that. I only wonder how come the women are blamed and the men never are.

Hi friend, sad to hear about your friend's stage, i think your friend don't know about her bf stage, so only she continue her relationship with him, but this kind of relationship is not a good thing, even though she is loving him sincerely, he is already married and have a wife, this kind of illegal relationship never give any benefits to your friend

If you really consider her as your friend then forget about offending or hurting her. You want her to have a better life, so go and tell her that she's not living a good life. Of course it will hurt your friend, but sometimes it is easier for people to understand the situation when we hurt them.

tell your friend what you think. but that guy she is dating with, does he love your friend? bcs if he loves your friend then maybe you should let them be. he was married and fell for your friend right? so if he will get his marriage annuled is bcs he likes your friend. so just wait and see what happens^^ as long as that guy really loves your friend thats the important thing. and as long as everything is clear in their lives.

I have known a friend with similar relationship. It is rather hard to let her realize that staying with that relationship would never give her the happiness that she wants. I think she stayed with the relationship for more than 2 years. She even left home and tried to be with the guy, hoping that they would be living together for good. The guy has kids, and it worried him when he found out that the kids were getting sick and were not being fed right by her wife. He felt sorry for the kids. Then her parents, who doesn't know where she was at, reported to the police that she must have been kidnapped and that the police were out to find them. The girl then, decided to show up, just to save her boyfriend, and even if it broke her heart, she left him. I guess, even if there were no cases filed, the relationship would still be short-lived, because the guy began communicating with his wife and promised to be back. This is such a tragic event in her life. Only if she listened to her friends from the start, she wouldn't have gone through this. Give your friend a heart to heart talk and tell her that the kind of life she is in now will never make her happy. If it has, well, is is just temporary.

I do have a friend like yours but in my case, she never told us about her love life although others told us about her case but we never confront her about it and never change our relationship with her. We respect her decision not telling us immediately and wait till she's going to speak out. The day she speak out, we listen to her story and advise her the advantages and disadvantages of their relationship. Also we told her the possible future result of what she's going through. All words that came from us are real sometimes offended her but we explained to her "real may hurt you and we're saying this cause we're your real friends". But whatever her decision to make and choice to choose we her friends always there to support her whatever happens. Have a good day!

I you wanted to make your friend just always be your friend.Guidance is your only way to help her in her situation because it is very hard to mingle a relationship that is too complicated.Just keep telling her the outcome if the wife could discover their relationship with her.Maybe she could realized the dangers it could give into her life if that really happen one of this days.

Well it was pretty bad to hear about your friend's condition and i think u are the only one who can save her life from getting ruined. I think u should take some time and try to convince in such a manner that she realizes that she is putting into danger two families at the same time, firstly her own family and secondly that guy's family. U should try to give her examples about how she is playing with the lives of that guy's children and wife. try to tell her that she will soon get her dream man even if she dumps him. i m sure that by unveiling the truth u can help your friend. What say?

You must confront her my friend and tell her what's on your mind. You must speak to her and tell her what you think even if that would offend her or might cause your friendship. Remember real friends always care for each other. If she doesn't listen to you don't give up. Just leave her for a while and let her think about it. If she's really your friend then she would listen to you.