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Hi, I think this problem prevails in all the families. There is a generation gap. In laws feel that they should get respect and everybody should listen to them. But this is not always possible or they are not always right. But the position of husband is like a sandwitch because he has to listen to both his wife and his parents. For a husband it is better to remain calm. Because it is the ego of both the parties. Interference of your husband's sister is not fair.

hi nupur, I never encounter such incident but that is one of disadvantages if you are living with your in laws such problems will occur. hope you will fix it try to talk to them and ask them what is really wrong. happy mylotting

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, but in most of the families this kind of activities are quite common. Your FIL and SIL must realize their faults and keep away from your personal issues. Hope they will understand it soon

There are problems like this in all the families and it is bound to happen because we all think differently. I would say that whatever happens when the bonding of husband and wife is strong then you should not take any tensions. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

This kind of things are always happen in Asian countries. Most popular thing is the qurrel between daughter in low and mother in low. In asian countries after merriage they have to go husbonds house. After that she has to live with mother in low. and she has to do the rules of mother in low. So It is always have a qurrel in the house. Sometimes all the qurrels has to solve husbond.

Altough I do not get married, I know how you feel because I do not like the way my uncle and aunties treat my mother. They just care about what they need and how they feel, and ignore what we think about them.

Hi Nupur... I understand how you feel... I've been through something like this... It were my relatives... Like my uncle and aunties, or cousins; they always had to interfere and comment on my personal life... They always turned my family against me.... They did not have some huge motive... They just got their fun by watching me being beaten by my Ma... Before a few years, I seperated myself from everyone of them. Now I stay alone and happy. I visit my family periodically, they live in Nashik. I have my job and independent life at Pune. I understand you can't stay away from them, as you're married. But my friend, you must find some solution... For your sake, your childrens' sake... Good Luck to you! You can write here whenever you want.. You will feel better to vent it out.. And we guys will be able to guide you... Take care...

First of all may i ask if you live with your in-laws. Because if it is so, you cannot avoid to be in conflict with your in-laws specially that they own the house. Thus, being the owners, they feel that their house rules should prevail and it cannot be helped when they give a comment or two on how things are with you and your family. Thus, your husband being their chlld cannot help but just follow whatever they say to avoid conflict.

Misunderstandings between married couples is normal, and it really does happen once in a while. But it becomes worse when in-laws and other members of the extended family try to meddle into the whole thing. Try to make your husband understand that it's you two who are married, and not him, you, his father and his sister. If there is a matter that needs to be decided upon and it is about your life as a married couple, I think the only people who should have a say in it are you and your husband. Make him understand that while you also care for his family and you respect them, there will be times that they need to back out and let the two of you make the decisions. You need it to grow as a couple.

Hai nupur,just because its others fault donot let it affect the relation you and your husband share.he is your husband and at the same time son of your father in law.so he can never feel like you.inm this situation you should show some patience and try to solve this problem.try a mid way.whatever your father in law say just avoid it if you consider useless.donot always bring your husband between this as it will irritate him also.and as far as sister in laws are concerned you can talk to them clearly,as they have their family and donot interfere.

Maybe they're just not use to your personality in the family. Honestly since you two are married you should NOT make him choose between you and them. You are his wife and that's that. He loves you obviously because he married you. Just listen to what their opinions are just because you don't agree doesn't mean you have to prove them wrong. Trust me I have the same problems with my in-laws and my sister-in-law. Even the grandmother. Choose and pick your battles it will be SO MUCH WORTH it because the stress will be less. If you make him choose that will put a DEFINITE bruise in your relationship with him. They're his blood and you are the love of his life that's something you should never make a man decide between he obviously just wants to be Switzerland and stay neutral. Hope everything works out for the best though.