understanding your partner.

Your partner sounds like a selfish person. Taking your books away was cruel. He needs to understand that, at this point, your studies are more important than anything else, including him. If he understands this, in time, he will again be most important to you, and your relationship will last. If he can't understand the importance of your studies, you just might be better off without him

I am sorry, swissheart. I think your boyfriend is selfish and immature. If he truly loves you, he should know that your studies are very important. It is okay to have a relationship for as long as your partner serves as your inspiration to do good in school and not the reason for you to flunk.

Unfortuntely there are men in the world that don't want to see their girlfriends or wives succeed. These men are insecure and afraid of you doing better then them and then leaving them for someone in your league. If he was not supportive in your studies he was not the man for you. A man for you would be happy that you are bettering your life and setting goals. Then there are men who need attention 24/7 like little babies.

For me it's not so much of the "understanding" your partner, it's more on "accepting", however, relationships are usually complicated and there are many other factors to consider too. Bottomline, I think no matter who the person you're in a relationship with (boyfriend, husband, friend, etc.), if that person is keeping you from growing and really not helping to make you a better person, then I guess that person is not right for you. But that's just my opionion :)

oh ho, how could he not let you study? If it was me I would have left him at that very moment. I would not want a guy like that. studying is going to make my future and the guy must understand. If it was another guy, it would have been different but not with studies. I am glad you are not with this selfish guy. There was no understanding from his side. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

That guy clearly doesn't care for anyone else but himself. And he's so immature, how can he be so insecure with your studies? He's acting like a kid whose mom didn't make it to fetch him after day care. You'll be far off better by yourself than be with that kind of person who clearly hinders your growth. I do my best to understand my husband and support him as much as I can. But I also have a voice in our marriage whenever I don't agree with his decisions or actions.

In a caring, loving, unselfish relationship we strive to be the best we can be and our partner does whatever is needed to help us as required. That guy was ignorant and immature and had no understanding of anything except his own selfish wants. Hope you did well in that exam.

I hope you left him. If he can't understand how important you studies are to you , he will Never truly love you. There is a guy who will understand!

I think everyone of us should understand our partner. We are not perfect as well as our partners. We just live life with love and be understanding to one another. An angry partner should not be responded angrily because it will only make things worse. Sometimes, we need to settle down and lower our pride and just understand.

I agree with you, friend. But something I want to emphasize this is not fair if that understanding is one sided. It must be both have understand each other not only you or the other. That is one of the core of a relationship to kept... You need to talk with your guy to understand you also. Because your doing in your life will be benefit both you. If you cannot understand today...how if you both enter into marriage and still acting that way? You suffer a lot pain if he's not change, friend.

He has to understand that this is important to you and can't dominate you in such an unfair way. After your exam, see what you both can do together. Do you know what he enjoys that truly interests you? Don't go overboard but I'm thinking if he sees that you're trying, perhaps he can cut you some slack. If he doesn't.....

Well, those persons are not worth loving at all for the only thing that keeps driving them in this world is their self (no offense). Such persons are very selfish and are very close minded people, they tend to believe that the idea they are referring to are the facts in every situation.

hi swissheart, it's so sad that you are in that kind of relationship. Your partner should at least support you on your growth, not actually loking at it as a "priority issue". Try to make him more undrstand, but if he's closed, it's time for you to ask yourself if he is the one you see yourself growing old with? hmmm. think about it.

I agree.. Understanding is one of the most important in relationship. In order to manage your schedule to your studies and time with your partner, you need to divide your time in studying and time to your partner. Maybe this hard to do on you but you need to have a bit sacrifice with your time. Have a great day!

It's good that you got rid of that type of a person. For sure that relationships wasn't healthy - he'd only want his way and his way alone. I have a friend with that type of a person too. He felt that he should be the world to my friend. She shouldn't be able to be interested in anything else than him. Everything he did was supposed to be important for her and he never cared about my friend's passions and all. I just wish she'd open her eyes and wake up before it's too late. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

I think that in every relationship, mutual understanding and respect are definitely an important aspect, and I think the word empathy, compromise and realization play a vital role in this regard. Most importantly, being unselfish and finding out the things that would make your partner happy is an uplifting thought for anyone.

Hi, I think he is jealous with you spending too much time with your studies which I find unreasonable. He should be the one to understand and support you. I too become jealous sometimes every time my husband would spend so much time in front of his computer especially if it is during weekends because that is the only time we can spend some good quality time together. But if I know that he is doing some works then I would understand. So I think that your guy is being unreasonable for acting that way. He is way too demanding. Be careful because that could be a red flag. If he really wants to be with you he should instead help you with reviewing.

My boyfriend was also like that but we have a different scenario. My boyfriend did not want me to hang out with my friends after my work because he wanted me to just go home and wait for his text or call.We argued because I did not want that kind of set up. He explained that that was only the time that we can talk for the whole day.And if we are free together, he wanted only the two of us and there was no extra activities at all.I just understand him because we are in a long distance relationship.

I believe you need to talk to him so that you understand know what he thinks about. If you do not want to break up, and he just wants to show his discontent about your ignoring, you can change the way interact with each other.

He just afraid being forgotted by you. Maybe he jealous to your activity.