Is friendship your priority or your fiance?

Philippines
September 22, 2012 2:58am CST
Hey everyone! I'm just wondering have you encounter anything about choosing between your friends or your fiance, a boyfriend or husband? Which is the most important thing for you? Your friendship with your friends or your love for your ____(It could your your boyfriend, your fiance or your husband)And why you choose that ? I felt really terrible with my friends who was actually disappointed to me because they felt that I was avoiding them even they were helping me which they think was right. I'm avoiding my two friends because I really felt that I'm not the same person they know me before. I'm different now and I admit that. It really sucks when someone was a bit disappointed but my fiance said don't mind them anyway.The more important thing right now is my relationship with my fiance. If my friends hates me their words won't hurt me. Just focus what I believe is right and move on with the life I have. I think everyone needs personal privacy and no matter decision I may encounter its the action that speaks more than words can't express it fully. Am I right? How about yours? You you like it to share? Do we have the same question? Do we have the same priority? Or are your just in the middle of your decision?
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8 responses
leahn011
@leahn011 (58)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
I was disappointed to your friends, if they're really friends they must know their limitations and have widen their understandings. Not to the point you need to choose between them and your fiance. I am glad you've done the right thing, someday they will understand what they've done. For a while, ignore them and be happy with your fiance. Good Day!
MelanieMay
@MelanieMay (102)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
You shouldn't have to choose between either of them. I Think that both your friends and your partner (could be for either a man or woman) are important to have in your life. Sure, when you get engaged, married, or even just have a boyfriend/girlfriend, things are going to change--priorities shifting and time juggling and even changes in activities and preferences occur. But both parties (friends and partner) should understand that and not put you between a rock and a hard place, so to speak. I suggest you talk to your friends and tell them how you feel. If they understand, then it's a good thing. If they refuse to, then maybe they are not the best people that you should surround yourself with.
chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
oh it depends on the situation, but in your case, this is your fiance you are talking about and he is the one you are to spend the rest of your life with should you push through with your wedding plans. Your friends, who are true to you should be able to understand you and they should not demand a lot from you. they like you have your own lives and friends do not seek more than what is appropriate for the kind of relationship. I hope though you patch things up with them because friends are important too.
Fulltank
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
I think they should go side by side and one should not compare both as they both have different type of love that one can give. If one will weigh more than the other, then the other would have a bigger possibility to ended up in the sour part of it. If I give more importance to my fiancee than to my friends, I may ended up of having no friends at all when time goes by. Friends are one of the most important possession a person could have and they should not be neglected when someone comes along to be your future wife or husband. the same thing goes around if one will give more importance to his/her friends rather than his/her fiancee.
lifes97
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Sep 12
hello to you, fiance is family and family before friends that is life you see father and mother and brothers and sisters before your friends even so for me priority is for family which means lovers and kids before friends and others so
bdfreelancer
@bdfreelancer (518)
•
22 Sep 12
Friends are very important people we need in our life. However, fiance is who you are going to live your entire life with. If you really want happiness and a meaningful life then give priority to your fiance without neglecting your friends.
pals101
@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Hmmm... I think you must prioritize your fiancee, after all he/she will be your partner for the rest of your lives.. About your friends, explain to them about it. Learn to prioritize things, Time management is the key. You can always have time for them or much better to make your fiance as their friend also. Introduce them to your fiance. -Trust and Love is the key... --Happy Mylotting--
riyauro
@riyauro (6421)
• India
22 Sep 12
You did the right thing by choosing your fiance over your friends because he is with whom you are going to spend your life with. If they are you real friends, they will understand you and it is stupid of the friends who are thinking you have changed and are choosing your fiance over them. they are really stupid and i tell you don't bother about them. I have not been through anything like this but I understand the situation very well. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.