the art of letting go
By nicegolddy
@nicegolddy (61)
Philippines
September 22, 2012 9:16am CST
For all this time, I am still in the process of letting go and moving on, There are times that I just cannot forgive myself and forget the past but I realized the more that I hold on and fighting for something, the more I got hurt and prolong into pain, so in this life I think sometimes it is for the better if you take a look at your surroundings and just appreciate the people who accept you for who you are, have time to love yourself and give time for yourself.. I realize forgiving is also one of the nicest way to move on, coz the more you hate the more you are just pulling yourself back into it..Sometimes the real meaning of love is letting go, and So I did.. I guess that's all we ever could be.. but hey, I learn to Love myself more..I learn to see the other side of the world and I know I may not plan this but God has a greater plan for me.
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13 responses
@titomeong (70)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
That's good. Only God can help us about letting go and moving on to something. right?. But i suggest that if you want to love yourself more, let us love God first before ourselves, because if we love God everything is possible. And let's just give back what the Lord had given us. right?. Forgiving is the most important part of our life, why?, because if we did not forgive other people from what he/she didn't want to do, just like other people, God did not forgive them... thanks for sharing, and God Bless you!.
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
You are right, He is the God of Love, I think all I have to do now is to stand up still and kneel, just pray for it is the best weapons of all, everything that happened to me is according to his plans, I am offering everything to God and whatever it is that he wants me to be, I will just embrace everything and let him guide me. Thank you so much for your advice, It really helps me a lot.God bless you.
@bdfreelancer (518)
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23 Sep 12
I have learned from own experience that letting go is the best way to be distracted from things you want to get rid of. It is not always easy though to let go things that we find difficult to forget or deal with. To live well and happily letting go is very helpful.
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
It's like If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving for a new one..:D
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
it is really hard to let go, especially if we know that with finality everything we have gotten used to, and everything that we know for sure was ours will go away and will not be the same anymore.
however when we give ourselves that chance to let go of the things we thought we could never live without... we will find ourselves everything we needed to have and more because we have given up something that could never be. it is always that right, when we have to let go in order to receive something bigger.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
23 Sep 12
Well, from what I could understand in your own thread, it seems that you want to make a change in your life. Or rather, to leave behind what is past, focusing on the future, obviously worthy optimism. You know, many times I that at the time, unfortunately, I'm not having a great situation, I often held the desire is just to let me go into something new. I must say that which causes one of my personal "obsession", I was always scared the idea dl something new. In all the ways I make you my best wishes!
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Yes, I am trying to make changes in my life, Just one step at a time because I know Those mistakes will make me become a better person, After these rain I know the sun will come and I will see a new journey that awaits me, all i have to do is just to don't look back and enjoy that new direction, for tomorrow is a new day that is why God created the sunset and the sun rise.. :). Thank you, I wish all the best of you too. Have a nice day ahead.
@ferianneful (148)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Oh my god friend this is such a touching post. If I could just reach out to you and give you a hug right now. I told you a lot of times before my friend, you can overcome all of these trials. You can't over night but as time goes by you will eventually learn to let go and move on. It's natural to wallow and cry or self-pity but as the saying goes, there's always a rainbow after the rain. So cheer up and be positive okay? Your sons, your parents and friends (me.. ehem) loves you.
Cheer up my friend! :)
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@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Thanks Sister,:)
I realized now that the Hardest test in life is the patience to wait for the right moment, :)Sometimes you have to let God turn your life upside down so you can learn to live right side up, Smile again, live again and love again.:)
@ikasuryani95 (346)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 12
In this world there is nothing last forever. We should let go and forgive easily if we want to always be happy :) thats what my teacher said. And i know its true but why sometime its just feel so hard.
But at least we have try it first.
I agree that God already has a new plan for us so just let go the past and live the present :)
Have a nice day ~
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Change is the only constant thing in this world, and I believe in it. If we just hold on to hurts and angers it will just pull us back,:( so much better if we move on and i am sure we will get through for life is a challenge and a gift.Have a nice day to you and thanks for your response.
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
25 Sep 12
It's very difficult to let certain things go, but from what you say above it sounds as if you're on the right path. Good luck!
@celticeagle (168595)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Sep 12
And hopefully you won't make the same mistakes next time. Letting go is a marvelous feeling when you are actually able to do so. Forgiving, forgetting, and moving on is not always easy but it helps you to grow and understand better your reason for being here in the first place.
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
All I have to do is to seek God and think first before making those steps, Learn and live.. mistakes makes you better, :)
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Wow! I'd like to congratulate you on having these thoughts! It's a stepping stone to move on, my friend.
I've been in the same road as you showed here and I can really relate in every words you said here and you are right... things may have gone out of control in the past but rest assured that the rest will be worth the fight because you are stronger now than before... and you when feel hurt again, do not forget to call God and tell Him how you feel and I know, in some ways, you'll feel much better.
Just forget and forgive. Life works better that way! :)
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Yes my friend, It is a step forward and never look back. I know a new road awaits for me.. a new opportunity and a new page,i may not planned it the way i want it to be but i do believe that it is for the better, God will not give me this test and situation if he knows it won't help, you see I got hurt, I am in pain I fall down on my knees but now I learn from my mistakes and I learn to stand up and fight, face each trials and of course learn to live smile and breathe again.. like a new born baby and most of all I became more closer to God.
@arizen (152)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
That is a good way of reinventing your perspective. I agree with you. I think it is changing one's perspective and focusing on the positive things in life that we are able to put our best foot forward. Good job. Keep the wheel of optimist going!
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Thank you, :). Well when things go wrong, don't go with them instead climb up and stay strong, and that's what i am doing now.. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger..he made me even more stronger he made me become a fighter and thanks to him I learn something new.. I see the other side of the world, which is a way way much more better.
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Yes, it is indeed very difficult to let go but when it is the time to part, we need all the strength me have both physically and emotionally. Sometime, when it is no longer working, it seems better to let go than keep holding on even when you know it is futile to do so. Sometimes, one get tired of fighting and letting go seems easier and better in the long run. It is easy to forgive however, it seems quite difficult to forget. Yes, love is really being able to let go even if it hurts in order than someone else will be happy.
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Well Forgiving and Forgetting is a key for a better tomorrow or else you will just get stuck in it, and that is just not good for your health and heart.. There's always a sun rise that awaits..
@prashu228 (37521)
• India
22 Sep 12
hi, its just too hard or too difficult t let it go, not possible all the time. But yes,we should try slowly, other wise we hurt ourselves, which is more painful for our future life. yes forgiving is nice, sometimes its easy ,but also quiet difficult at times. Many think that real meaning of love is letting go, cant deny, because, if we really love we also see the happiness of other person . Loving our self is not at all bad, of course we should love ourselves, other wise we cant understand the importance of others and others love
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
The more you hold on, the more you are just hurting yourself, by not forgiving you are just hurting yourself, pulling yourself back from the past and it will just continue like a cycle.. :D
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 12
You're truly right, forgiving really can heal. The more forgiving people are, the less they suffered from the wide range of illness as well. Although sometimes it's difficult to forgive if you feel that forgiveness leaves you open to the future repeats of the same negative treatment but it's important to note that forgiveness is not the same as condoning the offending action, so it's ok to include selfprotective plans for the future as part of your forgiveness process.
It'll help to look for positive and moving on, and letting it go as you said, thinking about others who realy care about you and not letting the pain of grudge to hurt you in any way.
@nicegolddy (61)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
It is like make your past make you better not bitter, Aside from that I have to move on and start a brand new page in my journey, The world is compose of billions of people and it will still continue revolving with or without him.. :D If God can turn night into a day,He can turn burden and problems into a blessings. :)
