Married for the wrong reason?

United States
September 22, 2012 6:14pm CST
I know a couple at the college I work at who started dating like a year ago. Both are 20 years old. Like a month ago they got engaged. Lot of people thought it was to soon. Some thoought they would wait at least 2 years until they graduated form college. Yesterday I found out they got married! Now I am wondering what was the rush! Is she pregnant? Did they do this for her parents? The boyfriend didn't want to live on campus during the school year and moved into his girlfriend parents place. If Lisa is not pregnant,did Jake marry her because they are living under the same roof to please the parents? Maybe they are so in love they acted foolishly? Whatever the reason it sounds fishy!
1 person likes this
14 responses
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 12
i think they more know their reason than us don`t judge like that you are only their friend... they parents didn`t complain with both of them decision so why we must be angry for that we just only take the lesson from their story
• India
23 Sep 12
I completely agree with you adyz. But i dont blame our friend who started this discussion. its our tendency to find if something went wrong with someone. We do have pessimistic thought process. even I do think that way at times. i do understand his feelings.
• United States
28 Sep 12
Excuse me? I am not judging them! You are taking this discussion the wrong way! I just thought it would make a good discussion and instead I get b*tched at for it! Not happy at all right now!
@leahn011 (58)
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
Whatever their reason is, sounds really fishy. But if you really wanted to know the reason is, ask your friend in person and whatever her reasons let it be and just respect it. Have a great day!
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
27 Sep 12
it will be known in another four or five months -- whether she is carrying or not. All said and done it is better to get married and live under one roof than to live without being married.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
OH COME ON! let us not judge the couple for the reasons of why they are marrying each other. i think they sure know why they are marrying each other and let us be positive that it is for the right reasons and not for the wrong ones.
• United States
28 Sep 12
Nice to know people are not liking this discussion and now I am getting pissed off! You people have no idea what the situation is even after you read my discussion! I thought this a great discussion but instead I am getting kicked in the face for it! Thanks for nothing!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
There might be reason why they are rushing to get married. I think it's up to them to decide on what they want to do in their life, friend. Whatever the reason would be...? They have relationship and want to wait to finish first their studies. But due to their intense relationship they decide to get married sooner as expected...
• United States
29 Sep 12
I and alot of people who know Jake and Lisa think they got married for convince and to make the parents happy! I truely believe they have no idea what they are doing by getting married so young! They should of waited until school is done with! I amd along with others who know Jake and Lisa think they got married so soon was to make the parents happy. They both live off campus in her parents home. They probaly wanted to share a bed and continue to be sexualy active. The parents probaly would not permit it if they were not married! That is my theory! Lisa is not pregnant! That I found out so the other explaintion ould be my best bet.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
23 Sep 12
it sounds to be a pretty bad reason for sure,if you take time and sort out things with lisa and in short span,all will fall in place
• United States
29 Sep 12
This couple are pretty inmature and I don't thnk this marriage will last. If it does,well good for them! Time will tell if it will or not work!
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
23 Sep 12
There could be lots of reasons for the rush wedding. But it does raises a lot of eyebrows because as you said, it happened to soon. If we will look at the statistics, more often than not, marriages like this end up badly while there are some fortunate few who are able to keep their love alive after all those years and even if a lot of people questioned their speedy wedding.
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
23 Sep 12
why should you say ended up badly? i don't like the word "things like this," that means you have already come to a conclusion when we are not even certain about the reason for the rush marriage. some couple went to a wedding and the next week, love came, and a month after, they were discussing the altar. does it mean they fall into marriages "like this," as you want me to believe; love is unpredictable.
• India
23 Sep 12
I think we shouldnt much bothered about this thing. that would be their personal decision. apart from that , may be they didnt just want to delay the thing. we have the tendency to take everything in the wrong sense. i would say they might have married early for the right reasons. i would say you should be happy that they got married. We usually hear about so many cancellations of marriages after engagement. Anyways, all my hearty wishes for the couple. let them have a long life of love and happiness.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
23 Sep 12
My daughter met her husband online and was married in 2 and 1/2 months....and they have been married for 14 years....so we all thought they rushed into it....but maybe when you know it's right....its right.
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
23 Sep 12
To each their own. We can't begin to understand why they chose not to wait...could be any number of reasons, and it really isn't anyone's business but theirs. Married for the wrong reason? What may seem like the wrong reason to you may be perfectly right to them.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
27 Sep 12
Normally I suggest marriage around 24 when you are settled. But if both have decided the partner and it is accepted by parents then there is nothing wrong in their getting married. but this should not affect their studies.
• India
23 Sep 12
Hi friend, you mentioned that both of them are in 20's it is not an age for marriage, they must be matured before getting marriage, as per your title i don't think it is for a wrong reason, may be they both have some insecure feelings, so they married earlier. What ever it is, they are in need to face a lot of responsibilities in the life in this young age due to the marriage
@blinjk (617)
• United States
23 Sep 12
There are a lot of people deciding to get married in a very young age.It is really mind puzzling but maybe they are really so in love.Like my sister,she got married at the age of 17 but she is not pregnant.They are just foolishly in love but my sister is lucky because their marriage is not registered.After one year,they have separated because of childish reasons.It was not really a good idea to marry young. There are some cases that the parents decide to let their child be married because their child is living in with their partners.I remember my cousin who married her boyfriend because they have slept together in a motel.Her parents demanded the guy to marry my cousin.They did not exactly lived together but they just have slept together.My cousin is also 17 that time when she got married.But because she was too young and did not enjoy her teenage years,she fell in love with different guys.They have separated also because of my cousin having a boyfriend.After all her husband have done for her,she made him so miserable. For me,marrying at a young age is not a good idea.It will just make life so miserable.But it really depends on the situation.But marrying should be really decided carefully.If you are not sure that you want it then,you should not.You should be ready and not just because of other reasons but the love you have for each other.
23 Sep 12
Dear Blue65packer , what it has to do with you whether she is pregnant or not whether he leaves the campus before graduation next time put a sensible question . Happy mylotting
• Indonesia
23 Sep 12
Hmm, there are many possibilites. However since you're just their acquitance you can't really know about their reason if they didn't tell you. Just leave it up to them. If they want to tell, then they will tell you. That's simple.