when your lover accuse you

Not exactly he or she is doing something fishy, friend. There is a possibility that he or she is doing something if the accusation is strong enough. But there is also no possibility...because there are people being that way due to strong feelings of jealousy. So, we cannot sure for such action if he or she is doing something fishy? Be vigilant and investigate first if your partner is acting like that.

i don`t know why there are people like that they tend to trust anybody than their lover..

so do you think when she or he accuse first, it`s her or his alibi because maybe she or he have affair??

keep distance?? don`t you miss her or him?? yes, i agree that trust and understanding each other are important things in the relation.. so do you feel annoyed when she or he still send message you and always believe that there are another man or woman admit as your lover to her /him??

so don`t you replied her or his message about it?? do you think maybe it`s his or her effort for getting your attention??

i don't give importance to this kind of suspicious persons, our life will be spoiled if we spend it with them, i will completely remove them from my heart and mind and don't care about their messages

but if our paranoia is too excessive isn`t good too with our relationship i think the basic foundation of relationship when we and our partners understand and trust each other

yes, i do agree with you that relationship is never an easy...both of them must understand each other

I guess your problem is.... You don't have any lover yet Certainly that is none of your matter at all but I can feel it that you really need a lover to share everything

don`t worry let me know what is your assumption this is my problem?? iam just thingking

OMG.. the life isn`t only for the lover.. The people still have a family of course.. and the lover of course have a lover.. it`s not my problem..

so after seriously talking and she or he didn`t understand too and still believe that you have another one, what you will do??

so do you think it needs another person opinion in this case?? what about the parents as the third party??

since i don't know what's truly going on in his/her head..We don't really know for sure why they think that way.. I would suggest proving your fidelity to that person..maybe cutting off your contacts with the opposite gender if that was the case..Spend more time with the accuser...Go away on a holiday..it could be that he's in a lot of stress or afraid that he doesn't see you often.. ...It's the little things that you do that makes a differenc to show him/her that you care..If it doesn't help , you two need to seek professional help because it is hurting your relationship..

me?? oh no... the man said that his woman didn`t understand that he just need a quiet time for concentration if he get problem..Only that and i think it`s very simple...

wow..is it suitable with many people experience??

i see

I have had that experience. I know what I am talking about. The longer you live the more you learn. But you ultimately have to do what you feel. Not what people tell you.

first it`s not my problems.. The man said that he just only his lover is quiet and give his time for learning and concentration to his job..that`s all.. isn`t easy, right??

i agree with you too risna.. now we wait the solution from him

@mythoiciate : i agree with your comment..their problems is our problems too,,because they are our lover..Good conclusion i think so what about the solution??

Lets considered it as the Adhyz's "curhat". The problem is, Adhyz didn't said that she know the truth or not. If they are in a relationship, how comes it happen? Lack of communication! If He told about it since the begining, she won't get suspicious and finally make a judgement. Cause all she know that he are little bit different. We need a clarification from Him about it to prevent misperception.

@devilova : don`t judge it`s my problem...i don`t know where do you get this assumption? Just think.. or maybe it`s same with yours now?? @fashion : so if he thinks like that, let it..Maybe it will be good for our next hot discussion You are right...Jealous is one of the content of the relationship..but i do agree with you, too much jealous isn`t good and annoyed another person..Why there are people have a much jealous with their couple??don`t they know that relationship is the trust,understand relationship??

Im not judging nor making assumption, Im posting based on my point of view if I were in the same position. In the discussion he doesnt state it happens to him or not so I cannot make conclusion that it is his curhat as you said, he is simply asking our opinion what do we think if we were in that position. Maybe this is what happens to him and he needs to see what other people think if they were at his situation. So im free to post based on my point of view, based on my opinion or based on my experience. It is not about misperception as you said, but it is about my point of view my own experience. I'll make it clear. In my relationship with my lover, I give him space when he needs to be his own and fix personal problem and I expect the same from him. So if there is case like this I'd rather say goodbye, because he broke the commitment of respect each other space when one needs to focus on serious problem. In my post I said "if I can provide enough proof" thats mean if I were in that position I'd like to talk with my lover 1st and give enough evidence about what problem I have to deal with and ask for his understanding and if he still doesnt want to understand I have a final world which is goodbye.

there are problem between the man and that woman maybe..Both of them maybe didn`t understand each other or there are 1 party didn`t understand another party feeling...They must talk each other..

it`s simple, clearly but the best method.. give space for him or her to think twice before saying like that it`s hurt when he or she accuse us like that , something that we never do it..

you are right..it`s not unfair to you.. so what are you doing if he is still accusing and say that you have another man behind him??

i see..i agree with you, jealous is sign that she or he loves us..but it doesn`t being a reason that every time he or she must get our information too..right??

so do you think it is useful if in his mind and brain is only jealous that maybe you have another people behind him or her.. don`t you think it will waste your time maybe??

No. Not only jealous that you have another wo/man but it depends on it. On some cases I encountered some wo/man got jealous on things and giving more attention on that than they received. It's normal for us to got jealous on our wo/man if we got less attention to them. Being jealousy shown our true feelings / love to our wo/man.

so what will you do if your partner accuse you like that??

of course..it`s unfair.. how come she or he more trust another person than us.. right??

i agree with you if our lover had felt like that, maybe we can think he or she ever make affair behind of us..right??

Yes, and there is a saying that those who think dirty are those who are doing dirty things. How will a person thinks that his/her partner has having an affair with somebody if he/she has a clean conscience? Unless he/she is doing that or has done those things before.

but what about if someone didn`t understand??

of course..the relationship need for understanding and respecting each other..Trust too.. so what are you doing in this situation??

so maybe you can suggest him or her, make some activities and you can`t feel alone because no one send your message maybe

do you believe the friend support can make the problem is handled?/or sometimes the involvement another party make the situation become worst??